hi i,m a 14 year old chinese boy,my life suck,s.the things that happen in my life you would,nt hear from chinese families but it is true.I live with my mom,my dad doesn,t live with us my parents share cuositdy.My mom is going to be 33 this year she had me when she was 17,when i,m at my dad,s house he said that,s the reason why he never stayed with my mom because she used to jump from bed to bed with them.My mom,s new boyfriend is white,he was not the first boyfriend i saw but i can,t handle it anymore,there,s some days when my mom would beat me and scream at me.what make,s me more up set is when she drinks a lot and takes birth control pills.
2007-08-19 09:03:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Talk to your father, but if she still beats you, go to a school counselor.
2007-08-19 09:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by sofia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a healthy living situation, and chances are, it will affect your future life and romantic relationships because you have not been exposed to stable relationships or parenting skills. If your dad doesn't have the problems your mom does, talk to him about it. If that doesn't do any good, talk to a teacher or school counselor. There are also domestic abuse hotlines you can call. They can get you out of this bad situation. Don't ever feel like any of this is your fault, and don't think it's normal and healthy because it isn't. Do everything you can to get help! Good luck!
2007-08-19 16:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by Jordan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear! I feel deeply for what your going through. Have you talked to your dad? And if he doesn't care I advise you to search in the telefon catalogue for some help, there are always organizations who help children or young people with problems, you shouldn't have all this on yourself alone, you must get help somewhere. I hope you do. You should have a decent life and not be abused like that. Your mom should take care of you if she treat you bad. Good luck to you!
2007-08-19 16:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by M. V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have some questions for you first. your parents share custody? do you stay with them equal time? would your dad take you more? does your mom only hit you when she is drinking? do you have issues with the boyfriend, or can you only not handle it because he IS white?
if your parents actually SHARE custody, you should be able to go to your father's house more, if he will allow it. if your mother hits you for any reason, other than spankings, it constitutes child abuse. however, some people lose control when they drink, and don't see things clearly. if she doesn't hit you, other than when she drinks, it's time for someone to step in and try to help her with her drinking. as for the boyfriend, not all white guys are bad. if your only issue is that he is white, I hope you can learn to see past this to who he really is. and your father should not have told you about his and your mother's past. this is not something you should have been told about your mother. talk to your father, tell him what is going on in your house, and that you would like to come stay with him more. see if this helps. good luck!
and you said you don't like it when she drinks "and takes birth control pills." are you sure you don't know what this is for? it means that she knows better than to bring another child into her life, and you should really applaud her for that. would you rather her quit taking her birth control pills and start having babies to bring into the life you can't stand? I think not.
2007-08-19 16:50:20 · answer #4 · answered by flgalinms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for you that you have to suffer for your parents past mistakes. All I can say is pray and pray hard that your Mom would change.and be a better person Could it be possible for you to stay with your Dad for the meantime. Tell him your delima. If he cares for you he will welcome you to his new home and if his wife loves him she will welcome you too. But do not be a burden or cause of new problems in his house or you will be sent out and regret it. Follow house rules wherever you may be to make it easy for the people around you to like you too. Good Luck !
2007-08-19 16:15:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
....17+14 is 31. either your mum was 19 when she had you, youre 16, or shes going to be 31, not 33, this year.
semantics i know but...
2007-08-19 16:18:52 · answer #6 · answered by knock_kn0ck 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to speak to someone who can help you with this problem i.e. childline, social services or a teacher. is your dad not in a position to take you full time. no-one has the right to hit and scream at you no matter who they are.
2007-08-19 16:13:51 · answer #7 · answered by Nicole W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call 911 or 311
2007-08-19 16:13:19 · answer #8 · answered by firewall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go live with your dad iam sure you can move you are old enough
2007-08-22 23:08:45 · answer #9 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you wanna know why your life sucks... its because youre 14. everybody thinks there life sucks at that age. then you grow up and get a crappy job and realize that it didnt suck that bad.
2007-08-19 16:09:41 · answer #10 · answered by enemycombatant® 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋