Is This Love?

Question

Ok, so here's another one of those 'Internet Love' questions. But I feel I really need to tell my story so I can get some opinions on the situation.

Im 14 years old, and for 6 months now, Ive had very deep feelings for a boy I met over the internet and Im certain he feels the same. He is also 14. We both know what the other looks like, and I feel we know each other very well. Ive never felt this strongly towards anyone before. I know you might be thinking he could be anyone and that its very easy to lie on the internet. But after knowing him for so long I really trust him. I cant see myself with anyone other than him, and I hope, in a couple of years time, we will eventually meet.

However, the only doubt in my mind is that becuase of our age, we may be vulnerable into thinking we're in love, when actually we just have stong feelings for one another. But, it does feel alot like love.

I would appreciate some feedback on this and whether or not you think we are in love

Thanks

Answer 1

Thanks for sharing this wonderful story. There are many kinds of love and it's the most obscure and misused word in the English language. It's hard for anyone answering this question to know whether your feelings are erotic, puppy, platonic, or another type of love. Why do you need to put a label on your feelings?

"A rose by any other name would smell as sweet."

I'd work slowly, because it's very easy for an older man (even a married man) to lie about their age to entrap you in order to take advantage of you. Over time, you will be able to discern the truth and determine if this is a pure relationship that can be nurturing for both of you.

Continue to be patient and thoughtful.

Answer 2

First, your approach to this situation is very mature for your age. From knowing life at 14 years old (that was 10 years ago for me), feelings were always on a shallow basis. This doesn't mean it's not "love." It's just that you are still learning how people interact and react to each other.

You should remain positive about building a friendship with this boy, but do not put too much emphasis in your life on them. You are young and your potential right now is limitless. If you decide to meet, do not do it alone. If you decide to start a relationship after meeting, make sure it is mutual and you are still studying hard. :)

Answer 3

Are you sure is 14 because some people have a tend to lie about their age.You may think that you two are in love now but later on when you are 15 or 16 that internet relationship is going to come to an end so i think you should try to date someone that you can see at anytime.

Answer 4

Love is love

Answer 5

Dont try to see love as such a complex issue, I mean, people really complicate themselves trying to figure out "is it really love?" and lose years and years of their life figuring out what love feels like...
well, if it makes you happy, and it makes you smile, and makes you think about that person 24/7 then it is!!! maybe it wont be that strong for enduring years and years of commitment but while it lasted just think it really was...

Now, that was the love part....

Be really careful with that guy on the internet, he may be saying the truth, but you always need to be careful when giving personal info, such as address, and if you two ever arrange a meeting, make sure you go with someone else (a friend, family, etc)

Good luck, and be happy because you're in love....that's good..

Answer 6

I think you are too simple minded. The effective way to understand and know someone well is by being with them and communicating face to face, not by typing a few words and send it across to you by the internet.

Developing a relationship is not that simple. I suggest you both wait until 18 years of age and then decide whether or not you both meet. This is not real love, it's unforeseenable and uncertainty love

Answer 7

Well 14 is a really young age to fall in love...i think once ur 18 then you'll really know what love is...ive never felt what love is but i think i might kno what it is..i wouldnt sugest meating him yet..because if you see whats on tv these days and what those freaks are doing...then you'll realize he could be 40 year old purv....but if he really is 14 dont do anything ull regret......

Answer 8

It sounds like infatuation to me and not love. When you meet someone on the internet, you really have to be careful that this person isn't a psycho or something worse. Do not take this internet connection too seriously at your age.

Answer 9

Please be carefull with these thinks. Anyone who wants to take advantage of another person tries to gain his/her trust. You really don't know how is behind this and everybody can find a photo of a 14 year old boy to send you. Also even if he is who he says doesn't mean that he is a nice person. Plus even if everything are as they seem you are both too young to involve yourselves with someone else.
My suggestion is that if you REALLY got to meet him you have to do this with the approval of your parents and with the escort of an adult person you can trust. I know this sounds not cool at all. But how cool is it to get your self in trouble. BE carefull please.

Answer 10

no you are not in love other than puppy love...you are 14 and will meet a ton of guys you like before you seriously fall in love with someone.
don't try to grow up too quick...enjoy your childhood while you can...
sometime after 18 you will truly fall in love....everything in between is puppy love.
you are still a child and don't really know what being in love is about