As a follow up from a previous question, the answers are divided on which comes first. (Not counting those who think self love is masterbation. Hehe.)
How can you give to others something that you don't have yourself? Self love is self acceptance. How could you accept a quality in others that you judge harshly in yourself? If you explore yourself deeply, you'll find that everything outside of yourself that you judge is a reflection of something you are rejecting within. This is how you recognize it in others. As the saying goes, "It takes one to know one."
If you find something distasteful in another, look within and you'll find it there. Accept absolutely everything about yourself, and you will find no fault in other. Love and compassion are found within and spontaneously expressed. Everything begins within as a quality of being. Don't do love, BE LOVE.
Wadayathink?
2007-08-19 08:40:54 · 10 answers · asked by philmeta11 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Everything reflects outwardly.
What is seen within man is seen on the periphery of man.
If there is no "Love" within man then "Love" cannot be seen outside of man.
"Love" must manifest within and man will emanate "Love" into the world of man. Then one will have "Love" for all living creatures. All other living creatures will recognize this quality within man.
Man will then be in the state of "Unity".
2007-08-19 09:07:24 · answer #1 · answered by WillRogerswannabe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Loving-kindness is something that should be extended to all beings, without exception. This would include people who we may consider neutral but also those who do us harm. This aspect of Buddhism is very challenging as it is often quite natural for us to dislike or feel angry towards those that do us harm. There is no doubt that loving kindness is something that we have to work on continually.Loving-kindness meditation is one way to develop this quality more extensively. The method is simple and when applied consistently is also very effective. First one generates feelings of loving kindness to oneself; then to a friend or relative; next to a neutral person and then finally to someone you feel angry towards. In this way feelings of hostility are washed away and the destructive energy that has been directed towards the person in mind can be be redirected down more positive channels. Compassion and Lovingkindness complement each other. They are antidotes to impatience, hatred, selfish desires and cruelty. The aim in Buddhism is to have these two qualities underpinning all our thoughts and actions. It is in this way that we develop a proper attitude to others and the world around us.
"Loving-kindness: The Revolutionary Art of Happiness" By: Sharon Salzberg - teaches how to daily cultivate Loving-kindness toward others - beginning with oneself.
2007-08-20 14:02:22 · answer #2 · answered by jikan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An early teacher of mine once said that "Love is reflected in love". I've always liked that. It says something I have always felt to be true. In many ways, I have 'been that'.
In my life, I have been fortunate enough to know a lot of love. My children, husband, friends.
One time, I purposely watched acts of affection/love at the airport. People smiling, opening doors for strangers, wildly happy to see loved ones arrive. A woman lost her keys and everybody jumped in to help her find them. Little things, but meaningful. It seemed that love filled the air...it was subtle, but there.
We seem to have love residing 'within' us. The confidence to show it comes from having been shown love.
It's true to "be love" is a wonder
2007-08-19 23:45:33 · answer #3 · answered by Eve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
exactly:) by being the love , love expresses itself spontaneously and effortlessly.
Love others first or love self first?
whats the difference...:) there is only one self, if you love other(unconditionaly) you will return back to your self.love means one has love towards one's own Self. The experience of Self is only love, which is seeing only love, hearing only love, feeling only love, tasting only love and smelling only love, which is bliss
2007-08-20 04:05:04 · answer #4 · answered by liveinnow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to love yourself first.
If you are lifeguard trying to save a drowning swimmer and you drown yourself in the process, they will die too.
2007-08-19 15:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by The Dog Abides 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love self first, then others.
2007-08-19 15:44:17 · answer #6 · answered by Meatwad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you love and respect your self is the best way to learn how to love others
2007-08-19 15:49:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't love others until you love yourself.
2007-08-19 15:45:14 · answer #8 · answered by Monk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a chose. Chose is an action. Don't be love, act love.
2007-08-19 15:47:50 · answer #9 · answered by Gem 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you for great thoughts (again)
namaste~
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2007-08-19 17:21:02 · answer #10 · answered by The Catalyst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋