My husband and I are overdue on giving a wedding gift to our friends who got married about 14 months ago. Its actually my husband's friends so I was hoping he would take care of it but he never did, so now I am before it gets any longer. Obviously we are quite embarassed but I don't think we should necessiarily focus on that in the card, but rather still congratulate them. Perhaps say that we still fondly remember their wedding day?? We will not be delivering the gift in person, it will be mailed, and I would like to keep the card somewhat brief. How should we handle this situation? And, what should we say in the card? Thanks for your help!!
2007-08-19 07:16:45 · 11 answers · asked by KitKat 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
make it a one year anniversary gift instead. tell them: 'happy anniversary! sorry we couldnt get this to you sooner but we wanted to say congratulations and hope the best in years to come.'
giving them an anniversary gift 4 months later is better than a wedding gift 14 months late. haha. itll be ok though, if theyre friends then they will understand.
2007-08-19 07:24:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As someone who has yet to receive a couple cards/gifts from wedding guests -- I was married in November -- I can tell you that a delayed card/gift is still a card/gift! Better late than never. If you want to apologize that's up to you, but your friends will be so delightfully surprised by your gesture that they won't care if you've said "sorry" or not.
2007-08-19 22:32:49 · answer #2 · answered by sweet_november 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't mention some sort of apology they will think you are being flip, "Oh, well, no big deal, hear you go" type of thing. Just say "we were so happy to be invited to the wedding and are so sorry for the delay in getting the gift to you. We hope you forgive us and enjoy the gift. Wishing you years of happiness."
2007-08-19 14:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what you write in the card:
The MOST amazing thing has happened! I've just found this gift in the trunk of hubby's car--I thought it had been mailed eons ago. Frankly, I was a little miffed that I'd had no thank you note from you! You're forgiven if I am.
Big Hugs!
2007-08-22 20:36:58 · answer #4 · answered by lfh1213 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think humour can go a long way in a situation like this...it was lax of you and they know it and you know it...so instead of trying to gloss over it why not put something like,
"you know how much (Husbands name) hates shopping...but even I thought that 14 months was a bit long to put off buying your gift!" "Thank you for a lovely day and wishing you many happy years to come!"
Or
"It took us 14 months to choose your gift because we wanted to be sure and get the right one....better late than never. and thanks for a great wedding and wishing you a great future!"
Of course, it all depends on the couple...are they humorous people...etc.
2007-08-19 14:24:35 · answer #5 · answered by Daisyhill 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just say congratulations. To apologize would spoil the polite fiction that wedding gifts are voluntary.
2007-08-19 14:20:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd just send a gift and a card with congratulations.
2007-08-19 20:12:37 · answer #7 · answered by Sabine É 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use some humor, I find that always works. Be self-deprecating in your note, and keep it brief. Something like, "Some of us take awhile to get things done! We enjoyed your lovely
wedding ."
This avoids an apology.
2007-08-19 14:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by P S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok. It looks like your wedding has lasted over a year now, so perhaps it's serious enough to bother with a wedding gift. Congrats.
2007-08-19 14:23:12 · answer #9 · answered by nondescript 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
"Dear K & J:
We are so happy you decided to join your lives in marriage, and remember that day with happiness.
We hope this small token will help you to remember, too, that day so important in your lives.
Continued best wishes,
X & Y"
2007-08-19 14:21:23 · answer #10 · answered by embroidery fan 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋