Long story short, my sis moved out a month ago and she keeps coming round not to chat just to watch TV and she had her friend round one night from 5pm, our house is open plan and I was cooking for me and my bro but since my sis and her friend were having a private conversation I had to stop and go upstairs, by 11.30pm they were still there and me and my bro were starving so I went downstairs and spoke to my sister and basically said they both have their own homes which are empty so why cant they go there so I can sit in the living room of my own home, they soon left and I found out a few days later that her friend said I was rude and she would never come in our house again because she doesnt feel welcome.
My point was it was 11.30 at night and I think their being there was rude.
Was I wrong?
2007-08-19 07:10:38 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Not at all. First off it was rude of them to be in your home and not being there to see you and your brother in the first place, I mean who does that? I understand it's your sister, but her and her friend could of had their chat at their place. If her friend doesn't want to come back, who care's. Doesn't feel welcome, lol it sound to me that she made you and your brother feel unwelcome in your own home.
2007-08-19 11:07:11 · answer #1 · answered by zail 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Were you rude? No. Walked over? Yes. You should have carried on cooking the meal. If they wanted a private conversation they should have gone elsewhere.
As for the friend not coming round, you have every right to tell sis not to bring her round again anyway.
2007-08-19 09:37:48 · answer #2 · answered by Thia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no nice way to tell people they have outstayed their welcome; if they don't have the manners and cop-on to know you don't just plonk yourself in someone else's house for hours on end, then you have to be direct, because this kind of person doesn't take hints!
I have a sister like this; she has two small kids and can't cope, can't cook and can't manage money, so when it gets to her, she would arrive up at my house with kids and stay for hours and expect to be fed. I work full time and go to college too, and have grown up kids living at home; so one day I said to her, "it isn't always convenient for you to call on spec; can you text me or ring me in future and I can tell you if it suits?"
She got a bit huffy and left, but she also got the message; so these days I can be straight and tell her if it doesn't suit.
It's your home. Your place of refuge, so no, I don't think you were rude.
2007-08-19 08:42:52 · answer #3 · answered by marie m 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The way you said it may have been rude. Although in your opinion they were having a private conversation they probably were not bothered by your presence. You needed to just mind your own business. Ask your sister why she prefers your house instead of hers. There may be a good reason.
2007-08-19 07:27:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you were not wrong.
i used to have a similar problem 3-4 years ago when a so called friend would never leave or would even turn up at 11.30pm, thankfully she moved away lol.
its your home and your in charge.
2007-08-19 07:20:50 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Scottish♥Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ♥Fairy♥ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not at all you were right to speak to your sis. i agree with you completely they were rude after all you were trying to cook a meal for you and bro and they put you out they were very rude.
2007-08-19 07:26:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you were not wrong, i think they were being pretty rude just sitting there having a private conversation all that time !!.
2007-08-19 07:25:38 · answer #7 · answered by Richard 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Should've told her to p**s off! Especially when your hungry girl! But no you weren't rude, it was your home after all, no one has the right to be there if you don't want them to be. Maybe she just thinks your house is nicer to bring her friends to ;).
2007-08-19 09:37:56 · answer #8 · answered by Technopathic☠ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No....I've had similar conversations with folks on occasion. Do you really care if someone you never invited in the first place chose to never return?
2007-08-19 07:18:42 · answer #9 · answered by Captain S 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, they should've gone somewhere to be private, not sit where you can't enjoy your own house. They WERE rude
2007-08-19 07:27:04 · answer #10 · answered by Matt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋