I met a guy nearly 3 years ago now and have got to know him more and I fell in love with him, I can't bring myself to tell him because in my heart I know he's to good for me and I'm not the type of lady he usually goes for they seem to be tall and confident whereas I'm small and shy, anyway I've gained this reallly good opertunity (excuse spelling, keyboard's playing up)for me to get away from him and maybe figure out how much he means to me, it's 2 months in south america, working with wildlife, I have put my name forward but I need help to find if I have made the right decision or if I'm just running away, please help me any suggestions will be appreciated.
2007-08-19 06:50:12 · 10 answers · asked by ωєℓѕн 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not actually going out with him, I met him at work.
2007-08-19 06:58:29 · update #1
I think that you are somewhat running away.
You've already made a decision on your own, but you haven't tried anything to be with the guy.
You should ask him to see if he likes you or not.
You seem to not have confidence in yourself and your personality.
Sometimes, it doesn't matter whether the guy likes certain type of girls. Sometimes it depends on the RIGHT one, whether they're different than the ones he usually date.
I think you need to learn to love yourself, before you can love someone else.
=) Just be happy and don't think too low of yourself. Be confident, and it'll pay off.
2007-08-19 06:54:36 · answer #1 · answered by craz34jason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL, you're so sweet lady, nooooo, you're not running away from him, you're just trying to do something you must love: wildlife, going to South America, wow .
I don't know what makes you think you're not enough good for him, the guy you have fallen in love with. Do you think that just because he likes tall women you have no chance ? lol, you're a wonderful lady, and well, he may find many tall women, but not many with a sensibility for nature like you. Go to South America, do your thing, enjoy your stay, nurture your spirit doing what you love, and help nature too. Don't put on hold anything for this guy, or another guy: live your life with joy, you deserve to be loved, who told you that this guy's not in love with you too ?, give him the opportunity to MISS YOU, and if when you're back to the states, he has not missed you, you have LOST NOTHING, I promise you, you'll get someday the right man, a man who will go crazy for you . Say hello to those beautiful birds, monkeys for me. Enjoy!!
Have a good trip!
2007-08-19 07:11:59 · answer #2 · answered by Idon'tlivehere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, two months in South America sounds like a wonderful opportunity....I'm jealous! And it may prove to be just the thing you need to bolster your confidence a bit. One thing for you to think about though: Never think you're not good enough for anyone. If those types of women he usually goes for were good for him, why is he single, huh? You're taking a risk on South America with abundant courage, and I applaud that. Consider taking one closer to home, too. You may be pleasantly surprised with the outcome.
2007-08-19 07:12:47 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right no offense ...
your running scared
3 years you know him
your in love with him
you think hes too good for you
your not his 'type'
they are confident
you are shy
adn you want to go away for 2 months to work how you feel about him?
3 years is loong enugh to get a good idea aboout how you feel - in fact apparently your in love with him. but everything about doesnt come to waht you think his standard is - the sort of girl, and also about bein shy as well.
you say you love him. put your competition on a pedestal and put your self down. your running. and seemingly cos you dont think you could succeed.
thats not to say goin away while your single like that mightned be a great experience for you. its a good thing to do - but for the wrong reasons.
2007-08-19 08:31:03 · answer #4 · answered by Andy C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time away will do you wonders and if you still fancy him when you return then go for it. the trip will probably increase your confidence and you'll get a suntan too so you'll be in a great mood and looking lovely, just make sure you do it quite casually if you do ask him out.
2007-08-19 06:56:07 · answer #5 · answered by che 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't get it. you love him but you won't tell him because you don't think your his type?!?!? hello! he has been with you for 3 years and he hasn't gone anywhere!
the wildlife oppurtunity sounds really amazing. but don't do it if you're only going to try to 'escape' from this guy. that is the wrong reason to go.
2007-08-19 06:56:29 · answer #6 · answered by xyz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always follow what your heart tells you because if you depend on these pieces of advice then you will not be able to know which way to follow.
2007-08-19 07:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ithink you should just think this throug is this somrthing you want to do tell this guy are try excepting your life with him
2007-08-19 06:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by rayray17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could "IF" this to death. Go with you heart.
2007-08-19 06:58:19 · answer #9 · answered by budinok 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't know if he doesn't love you just ask him as simple as that.
2007-08-19 06:59:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋