Okay, my friend just had this party yesterday and today at her grandma's campground. There was this really hot guy there, who ended up being a couple of years older than us, that we talked to and convinced to come hang out with us (even though it didn't take much persuasion...).
So he came and hung out with us (it was us five girls and him) and he ended up just staying over with us even though his site wasn't too far from ours.
Me and him ended up sharing a pillow, blanket, and pretty much the room that we had. After a while though, we ended up cuddling and holding hands until we fell asleep.
We woke up a little bit later, and he asked if I wanted to kiss. I had just met him, but I pretty much knew everything I needed to know about him and said no without thinking. I didn't want to say no, but he'd caught me off guard and half asleep, so probably not the best time to ask me.
(I'll add more details, just hold on!!!)
2007-08-19 06:30:58 · 14 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So he started debating on whether to go back or not (he had to get back before his parents woke up) and I told him that he could just stay (he'd told me earlier that he wouldn't get in that much trouble) or that he could go if he wanted to.
He decided to leave, and in a dissipointed/embarrassed type tone says: "Okay, well, uhm... I'm just... gonna go. I'll just... see ya around later or something." And none of us had seen him before we left.
I felt so bad, I wanted to, but I said no anyways.
Did I do the right thing?
(We [[the girls]] are 13 and he was 15.)
2007-08-19 06:33:53 · update #1
well... you kinda did the right thing.
by saying "no" to this guy he probably now likes you more...
you sacrificed short term success [making out with the guy] for long term success [sparking more attraction]...
in the end long term success is more satisfying than short term success...
2007-08-19 08:13:25 · answer #1 · answered by ryanisalifestyle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without the details you were stil going to add on, you definately did the right thing. Even if you were half asleep you were conscious enough to make the right choice.
You barely met the guy, sure you shared cuddly moments but you don't know anything beyond that. Some girls just go for it without even knowing the guy. That's just telling me you have morals and values.
best wishes :)
2007-08-19 13:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by artsygal_cc86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you did the right thing. In fact, by saying no to this guy, you will probably intrigue him far more than if you had been too compliant, too soon. You were in what I would call a precarious situation there, a kiss might have lead to losing control and doing something you might later regret.
I admire you for keeping your wits about you and doing the right thing!
2007-08-19 13:38:41 · answer #3 · answered by Me, Too 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did the right thing... there will be nothing to regret here. If you'd have had sex or something you might have been caught or ended up with something terminal... like a kid.
The boy was actually pretty good about leaving instead of trying to take advantage of the situation. It was good that you said no as well.... so yes you did the right thing... be proud.... don't question your instincts....
2007-08-19 13:38:32 · answer #4 · answered by pro_steering_wheel_holder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did the right thing and if he didnt stick around because of you saying no then he wasnt worth it anyways and where are your parents while you are sleeping next to a guy all night? watch yourself and dont move to fast your only 13 trust me I got pregnant at 16 my son is now 8 so just take it slow and enjoy being young.
2007-08-19 13:40:12 · answer #5 · answered by freckleface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think you did because im 13 too and if that woulda happened like i wouldnt have wanted to because hes 15 and you maybe wouldnt have seen him again and then like what could that have led to and everything and it just wouldnt have turned out good in the end. Thats my opinion and yes i think you did do the right thing.
2007-08-19 13:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by 7thangel a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always messy with feelings. I feel like going with your gut feeling... saying no (even if you thought later you wanted to), is really the best thing to do. You'll probably never see this fellow again and, besides, swapping bodily fluids, even by just kissing can be messy in more than one way.
2007-08-19 13:37:23 · answer #7 · answered by kr1spy2000 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The right thing?
You did the perfect thing!!!!
If you really knew everything you needed to know about him, or were that attracted to him, you would have said 'yes' without even thinking about it.
Sounds like your conscience answered before your mouth could...:)
2007-08-19 13:37:05 · answer #8 · answered by Michael H 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you did the right thing. as it starts with a kiss but could of lead to something else and then where would you be. pregnant? way to go. better safe than sorry.
2007-08-19 13:37:35 · answer #9 · answered by elfgarden7 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you did the right thing...you know what the kissing would lead to.
2007-08-19 13:37:32 · answer #10 · answered by sadie_oyes 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋