so i started liking this guy i met at a frat party a couple of days ago. things were going well...he thought i was cute and i thought the same of him...we kissed, he acts like he likes me so i thought we could date. so tonight we talked and he said he had something to tell me. i was thinking that maybe he'd ask me on a date but instead he tells me that his ex wants to get back together and he's trying to decide what to do. i told him that although i do like him, i understand but to tell me what he decides to do. he said he would but then proceeded to tell me that i could still come over to the frat house to hang out. idk what to do really....he says it wouldn't be awkward but i think it would be. i really like him but idk, would you still go over there?
2007-08-19 05:43:08 · 10 answers · asked by thebodyelectric! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he hasn't officially said he was going to get back with her but you could hear it in his voice that he was definitely on the fence. but if a guy has any question on whether he wants to be with me or not, should i even give him a chance?
2007-08-19 05:44:03 · update #1
well i can see what you're saying about the whole if he wanted me then would choose me. but i'm guessing they've been in a relationship for a long time. but i kinda wished he would have told me that when we were getting to know each other. and its just kinda convient that she wants to get together all of a sudden.
2007-08-19 06:25:31 · update #2
forget about him even if you like him. I know it hurts but you dont want a guy who maybe kinda sorda wants you... Not one whose in a mess with another girl. Listen to me honestly... If he wanted to be with you, he wouldnt be questioning who he should be with. He would know for a fact that he loves you, its to soon to decide.
2007-08-19 05:48:16 · answer #1 · answered by Melia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probably better off not putting yourself in that situation. If he still has feelings for the other girl and does get back together, you don't want to be around the frat house when she's there.
At this point you're better off moving on. Make sure he's got your number and tell him you're free to talk, but he needs to make up his mind first. Having someone else around is only going to make it harder for him to choose between his ex and the other girl.
You definitely don't want to be "the other girl".
Good Luck.
2007-08-19 05:50:26 · answer #2 · answered by firebugarts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a rough one because on the one hand, he thought enough of you to tell you all of this up front so he's obviously not trying to play you, but then again, no one wants to be kept on a shelf waiting for someone else to make up their minds about how things are going to go. Honesty is impressive, so maybe you should give him at least a little time to wrestle with this dilemma on his own, but don't get stuck in a holding-pattern for too long.
2007-08-19 05:51:51 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You single and there are plenty of fish in the sea. Go on with your life and if he decides not to be with her fine but if he decides to be with you you have to remmebr that his ex might become one of those visiouce girls that try to break you two up or might try to make him cheat on you he obviously is not over her is a flam that has not been smolded so be on the fence aswell if you two do go together i would not want to see you back on here asking questions about what to do if he cheatede on you with his ex. Good Luck
2007-08-19 05:49:42 · answer #4 · answered by priscilla h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 03:21:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this guy is trying to have his cake and eat it too. I wouldn't even go over there if I were you. If he really liked you back, he wouldn't have brought up his ex. You can do better and you definatly dont ever want to be anyones "second fiddle"!
Good Luck, I am sure another hot guy who is over his ex will come along!
2007-08-19 05:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all, i think he's unsure what he wants. he likes you and wants to ask you what to do? i find it odd really. i personally wouldn't go over there. but its your choice. why would someone who's single, someone he's been flirting with, mention his ex. o.0 see my point? lol its like two people dating mentioning one of the exs..meaning they are not over them. I'd say no. You might get your heart broken. :\
2007-08-19 05:54:37 · answer #7 · answered by Eve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you are comfortable with. Listen to that inner voice that is usually right.
2007-08-19 05:47:39 · answer #8 · answered by Steph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he makes up his mind, then you'll know what to do. If he doesn't do it soon, then move on, and don't waste your time.
2007-08-19 06:02:30 · answer #9 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im gonna go with melia's answer
2007-08-19 05:51:53 · answer #10 · answered by Tanwir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋