My mother in law has really poor health. She recnetly under went triple by-pass surgery, vascular surgery on one leg and now needs it on the other. I really think she is in jeopordy of losing that foot. Her and her husband (not my husbands father) are not going to make it. They were seperated for about one year and she went back in Feb. after her bypass surgery, but it is not going to work. She has mentioned going out of state to live near her sister, but we know that it is not what she wants. She has even said it. We have been talking to her about living with us. She is toying with the idea, but we want to her to come now. Her and her husband have sold the house they were living in and have a very short time to get out of it. What really concerns us is there is not any air conditioning in the house. It is triple digits here. Her fear is that if she comes to us now then by the time my husband get a day off to move her belongings and put them in storage that her sister in law will come
2007-08-19 05:29:37 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
go to the house and take her mothers antique furnishings out of the house. she is very senitmental and i understand her not wanting to lose these things but her health is our concern.
2007-08-19 05:31:14 · update #1
how caring you are and your husband should be proud that he has such a caring wife. your mother-in-law is blessed for such a great daughter-in-law. the problem is getting her to come to you as soon as possible. that's primary. it's not a question of how to do it, she seems to have already told you she wants to. if it's over possessions she owns, you should make a list of the things that are in the house that she is declaring as hers. her husband should sign agreeing to her getting them. it may be worth a trip to see a lawyer to get this all in legal writing and like that there will be problems on who gets what when the time comes. otherwise, her husband might just declare these items as his. better to have it done right now, then, later fighting over proof of who owns what. i hope your mother-in-law improves and enjoys living with her son and you. these can be good days for her with the right care and love and it appears your household is just the place to get it. good luck.
2007-08-19 07:19:25 · answer #1 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm....Do you guys have a finished basement? Maybe you could move in your in-law's antique furnishings, to the basement and make it like home for her. You could also maybe hire some movers and a uhall to get the job done quickly and efficiently so you can get it to your house or storage right away before her sister gets her fingers on it.
2007-08-19 20:13:55 · answer #2 · answered by AlliK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband to take a day off and move the furniture first, then move her in. Priorities here!!!
Kudos to you for being willing to care for his mother.....:)
2007-08-19 12:39:18 · answer #3 · answered by Michael H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
can you get a shed for her stuff or get it moved for her? even if yu have to do it right now on yourdad off or at night. that is all that is stopping her so help her out.
2007-08-19 18:11:47 · answer #4 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋