Ok...my bro and his gf kinda broke up like a few days ago. She did it over a text message and that pissed me off. And before he goes back to college they got back together and he told me and I went off! I was like she lost my respect. She did earn it and then she did that to him and she lost it. And its not easy for me to respect his girlfriends. And she gained it and now I don't want anything to do with her. And he is telling me I better be nice and stuff and my mom is making excuses for her saying she was afraid. And so I was saying nobody messes with my bro and expects that I won't forget about what they did. I don't really hold grudges but I mean she thinks that everything will be ok IT WON'T! I was saying I was gonna go at her and stuff...and so my mom is like getting mad and so is my bro and I don't want him to be mad at me before he goes back to college...What do I do?
2007-08-19 05:28:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just ignore it, it isn't YOUR life! If your brother is happy, then you should be happy. End of discussion.
2007-08-19 05:36:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You cannot control anyone else but you. It kinda sounds like you need to do a little maturing. I'm sorry, but I gotta call it the way I see it. Your brother has made a choice, and you need to respect him enough to go with it. It's really not your business, I'm not saying you should not care. I'm saying show your brother the respect he deserves for his decision. After all, it is his decision to make, not yours. If you cannot treat his g/f with respect, stay away from her. But remember every time you disrespect her, you are disrespecting him. And Yes he will probably distance himself from you. No one likes to be judged. Put yourself in his place if you can. Would you like him to do to you what you are doing to him? Also, remember the only two people who really know what is going on in this relationship is the two of them. You can't possibly know as much as he does about what he is doing. So grow up and show this brother you love so much, the respect he deserves.
Blessed Be
2007-08-23 10:48:36 · answer #2 · answered by Linda B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your brother that you love him, he is your brother, and you don't like seeing people you love being hurt and mistreated BUT she is your brothers girlfriend and if he chooses to forgive her then there is nothing you can do but move on from there. When you see the girl if you just can't be civil to her then leave the room but if you can then great. Tell her that you love your family and it hurts you when they are hurt so she needs to give you some time to gain your respect agian. That will give her the message that you are upset but without being a complete jerk to her.
Good Luck!
2007-08-19 12:44:15 · answer #3 · answered by julia b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to sound cruel, but you need to mind your own business, if your brother is okay with working it out with his girlfriend, then you need to be okay with it also. I hope that there is not something else going on here, only you know the answer to that. You cannot control situations around you because you do not approve of them. Stop being so uptight, life is too short for you to be stuck on this. Tell your brother that you love him and respect the choices that he makes for his life, after all , it is his life and choice and not yours.
2007-08-19 12:43:44 · answer #4 · answered by myleshunt 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the best thing to do is explain to your brother and mother why you are upset about this, but understand it is his decision and you have to respect that. If you don't like the girl that is fine but at least be civil for your brothers sake. It is his decision and you can't change that but don't let that girl get in the middle of you and your brother.
2007-08-19 12:38:04 · answer #5 · answered by dustystar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You stop throwing your little fit and just respect your brother's decision. You don't have to respect his girlfriend ever again if you don't want to. But you do have to respect your brother enough to be polite to her when she's around.
2007-08-20 02:10:37 · answer #6 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though, you don't have respect for your bro. He's a big boy and he is making the decision to forgive her and stay with her. I think you should stay out of it. There are good reasons why people do things. Maybe she had hers. Lighten up and give them a break.
2007-08-19 12:38:54 · answer #7 · answered by Funny Girl 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you know what she is his choic not yours and therefore you have no right being like that. you need to accept her and move on with your own life and forget his. hes is the one that has to deal with it. if shes using him he will find out maybe its better now. so just be good.
2007-08-22 22:56:58 · answer #8 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay out of it. it has nothing to do with you. you say you don't hold grudges, but, what are you doing now? your "holding a grudge" because of what she done to him, your holding that against her, saying everything will NOT be ok. that's a grudge sweetheart, weather or not you think so, it's a grudge!!! GET OVER IT!!!!
it's HIM who has to deal with it, NOT YOU!!!! get a LIFE!!!
2007-08-19 12:49:44 · answer #9 · answered by david_e22 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Instead of getting mad and going off on them tell her what you think. Then let it go. Its his business if he stays with her not yours. But you can tell her what you think of her.
2007-08-19 16:03:07 · answer #10 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stay out of it...your brother has forgiven her ...he obviously loves her and i am sure he loves you two...if she is no good for him and does things that hurt him just be there for him and don't say i told you so...your loyalty to your family is commendable but people have to learn for their selves sometimes...this is one of those times
2007-08-19 12:37:39 · answer #11 · answered by jazzy l 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋