today i am going to a bbq at my boyfriends parents house. i will be meeting his parents for the first time. normally, this would be no problem for me, but here's the catch: i am 26, he is 34. we are both in the middle of divorcing our previous partners. he has been going through his divorce for a year, mine for a couple months. i have already met his 2 young daughters who adore me, and that is great. but his family are from italy, and they are very strong personalitied people and i am very nervous. i know they have reservations about him dating again, and bringing a new woman into their grandkids lives, especially someone so much younger than he. although he and i have intentions of marrying in the future, and i will never hurt those kids, this is not something we can talk about yet to the family. how do i be myself around his parents so that they will accept me and understand that i am not just a dumb kid, but someone who is truly ready to take on their son and all he comes with?
2007-08-19 05:20:10 · 5 answers · asked by Bella 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
trust me, at 26 you are not a dumb kid, but an adult and 8 years difference in age, at the ages you are both at now, is not a tremendous difference. there are many married couples, and a lot of them are Italian, that have many years between them-so, don't worry about 8 years. just go to their bbq, enjoy it and be yourself. their son and his daughters already adore you, so, don't go putting thoughts in your head that his parents won't. start off on a good foot, feeling like your boyfriend is bringing you to meet his parents, because he is so proud of you and wants his parents to love you as much as he does. hold your head high, knowing he cares so much for you to bring you to meet the parents. have fun and forget the nerves and just be YOURSELF. good luck :)
2007-08-19 07:29:39 · answer #1 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no magic mojo for gaining parents confidence. It takes time, but if this is the first time you are meeting them, be respectful, appreciate their heritage, but don't assume that you know it. Don't be afraid of asking questions about them, but don't ask questiosn about their son, find that stuff out on your own.
Find out from your bf what their sense of humor is like, what their passions in life are, and what sparks their interest.
Don't obsess over him in their presence, pay attention but don't obsess, they may see it as you trying to steal all hsi attention from them. Spend some time seperate from him at the bbq, mingle and meet them.
Above all, have fun.
2007-08-19 05:27:21 · answer #2 · answered by Michael H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be very respectful and attentive to your boyfriend and his family while they are there because yes they will be judging the hell out of you but try not to panic, just relax and be friendly and be yourself and they will see maybe not today but they will see how happy you make their son and then you will be accepted.
Good Luck!
2007-08-19 05:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by julia b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meeting the parents is always tough; especially with your circumstances. But just be yourself, be sweet and try to be social with everyone, but don't overdo it.
2007-08-19 05:56:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is Mario. Don't mess with Mario.
2016-05-17 07:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by margart 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋