i've just found out that my gran has got 2 brain tumours n shes in hospital at the mo.theyr not going to operate or do radiotherapy cos shes older.but its tearin me apart,it hurts so much.
any feedback would be great thanks
2007-08-19 04:43:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
i'm sorry to hear that!
That must be terrible. Fortunately for you, you were lucky enough to have a grandmother that you actually liked and cared for, and i'm sure she cared for you as well.
A lot of people get grandparents, and even parents they don't like, because they're mean, or for whatever reason.
Just remember; you'll always have memories of her, and hwo lucky she is to have had a granddaughter like you and how lucky you are to have met her!
When you get older, you'll realize it.
And remember, time is everything. Wether it's your grandmother's time to go or not, i'm sure she'd rather go having known you'll be livnig for her and that she met you, than if she were to have never met you!
You'll never lose her, she'll always be in your heart and thoughts!
i wish the luck to the both of you; you'll get through it.
But remember, don't live on and sulk about it, try and have a positive attitude, isn't that would your grandmother wants?
So smile and be proud that she's yours, and you'll always have her, even if you can't phyiscally see her.
Take care,
xx
2007-08-19 04:51:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you visit. People in hospital love visitors. Is the family able to visit? Talk with other members of your of the family. Quite often dangerous operations are not given to older people and sometimes they may not even want them as they can be very painful. You have to be strong as gran would not want to see you upset. She has made the decision or it has been made for her because of circumstances. It would have been carefully considered so you have to accept it bravely and for her sake be brave. You also may be able to ring her and speak to her which would be a good thing. So cheer up and keep busy. Gran probably has a lot of fight left in her still but try not to make her any more unhappy.
2007-08-19 11:59:58 · answer #2 · answered by njss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as it hurts, you need to let your gran know that you love her and are there for her! This is one thing in life that we all must accept at one point and it is hard, it will hurt, and it is a process. You are going to experience many different emotions......and you will cry, but its OK! That is what friends and family are for, to help you get through it! Gran is tired of hurting, tired of being tired, and ready to rest......understand that she needs this, its not fair for her to have to suffer. My mom has bone cancer and they cant do nothing else for her, Im going through this too, although Im older, It STILL hurts just as bad! I have two children that are feeling it too...I tell them the same thing that I am telling you.......It will hurt but everyday will get just a little better and soon, you will be happy for her, that she is not in pain anymore!
Lots of hugs to ya!!
2007-08-19 11:55:24 · answer #3 · answered by ameribicgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your gran? I know it is difficult, but this is God's way of saying it's almost her time. And when he's ready for her, he'll call her. Just thinkof it this way, when she's gone, she won't be hurting anymore and she'll finally be at peace. Think of all the good memories you had together and all the funny things you've experienced with her.
2007-08-19 11:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by g8rfan4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very painful. Check at the hospital (Social Services?) if they know of a support group you can go to. They are helpful. Your feelings are normal and you need support during this time. It lasts for quite a while. Give yourself a break during this time.
2007-08-19 11:50:30 · answer #5 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish i could share some wisdom with you and give you comfort at this painful time.
nobody knows what tomorrow holds. i believe in miracles though. all things are possible with god. sometimes, when we are finished with our work here on earth, god calls us back. that is a kind of miracle too.
spend as much time as you can with your gran. do whatever you can to let her know how much you love her. ask if there is anything you can do to make her happy and comfortable.
2007-08-19 11:56:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in similar situation.
but in my case my grandma already have 3months left to live
very shocking and bad news
but in the end, we realize that we have nothing to do about it
but to accept it
anything and everything will eventually come to its end
nothing's permanent in this world..
the best we can do is to live each day to the fullest
and in your case,
let your gran feel she's loved, important
give her quality time
do everything you can, maximize each day
ask her questions u've been dying to know about
give her gifts, flowers
anything
and say you love her..
2007-08-19 11:55:50 · answer #7 · answered by rock princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your Gran. Spend as much time with her as possible
2007-08-19 12:03:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can im me if you want
as much as it hurts just think of the fact she has had a great life
2007-08-19 11:48:39 · answer #9 · answered by Johnny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend as much time with her as possible. My sympathies.
2007-08-19 11:48:24 · answer #10 · answered by joolybean28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋