OK... so my b/f has cheated on me before... i have called him out on it but he just deny's it and says that the girl who claims to have slept with him is lying.... So now i'm getting the feeling he is screwing around on me again... i just dont have proof this time... it's an aweful feeling but we've been together for 3 yrs and have a child together. I just dont know what to do any advice? I don't know for a fact that he is cheating on me this time... i am just worried that's what he's doing...
2007-08-19 03:19:16 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
forgot to tell you we live in different towns... we live an hour away from one another.
2007-08-19 03:25:46 · update #1
also... i should have said we are engaged... we have been for a year now... and we have been through so much together... i just dont want to throw away a relationship that i have worked so hard on...
2007-08-19 03:27:47 · update #2
Why must there always be a child involved!?
If he really is cheating, you need to kick him to the curb. However you live your life is how your child will believe life should be lived.
If you don't plan to end the relationship, the two of you desperately need the services of a competent counselor. The trust thing alone demands it.
2007-08-19 03:25:30 · answer #1 · answered by Penelope Smith 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think thereis this thought running through your mind all the time no matter what is going on. One thing is for sure though U get mad at him for something he has not done. BUT u have proof that he has cheated on you. Not only does this tension ruin the relationship U both have it ruins things for your son or daughter. keep that in mind. Who's suffering the most? This is what would help me make my descision. And if in fact U R certain he cheated before I doubt those feeling will ever go away if they have not already. U have come to cross roads.
2007-08-19 10:27:14 · answer #2 · answered by thathirdrail 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok - so you & your b/f have been together for 3 years, AND you have a child together. I feel bad for the child because both of his/her parents can't live together. Nice way to start a life - with parents who are already separated.
If you are afraid that he's sleeping around with other women (or men?), then the 2 of you should live together to raise your child. It's the responsible thing to do.
If you both don't really love each other, then end the relationship, and you will be able to focus more on bringing your child up. Just please don't take your frustration out on your child.
Good luck
2007-08-19 10:31:55 · answer #3 · answered by Paul L 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to think about you and your kid. If he is cheating on you, the child desrves so much better. As for you, you should think about what you want/need. I honestly can't believe you took him back the first time, but, everyone deserves a second chance. Have you ever tried telling him," i'm leaving you if it happens again," or, "if I find out you're not telling me the truth..."? Stand up for what you deserve and give him an ultimatum. Then, you can see if he really cares and what is happening.
2007-08-19 10:31:53 · answer #4 · answered by baby_phatts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ask him directly about it and if he denies it and you still have a gut feeling about.....follow your gut feeling. Women have great intuition. Is there anyone that you trust that can follow him or check up on him for you?? I know it sounds drastic but unless you have the $$ for a private investigator what else can you do?? Your other choice is to ignore it and go on living the way you are but you and your child deserve better. Men are insensitive pigs and sex is usually #1 on their minds. I'm not condoning his behavior but I personally feel it's unnatural for one person to be commited to another forever. It's not true human nature. It's religion talking. No matter what he does in his "spare time" he MUST take responsibility for his child and you must do anything in you power to make him repsonsible. He shouldn't be able to just come and go as he pleases in his childs life. He needs to step up and be a father. His child should be his #1 priority. You show great courage to stand by your child and you'll be a great parent to you child. You may have to be mom and dad but I'm sure you'll be great. Good luck.
2007-08-19 10:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by lacrosselover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well... a guy that would shack up with a gal, make a female an unwed mother, cheat once... surely would cheat again. Why would you think otherwise? He hasn't shown you any respect from the beginning.
But then any gal that shacks up, gets pregnant and takes back a cheater, had no respect for herself. So what is the problem? You both deserve each other.
I remember when being an unwed mother was an embarrassment (as it should well be)
2007-08-19 10:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would tell him you want him, the girl and yourself all to talk and get it straightened out. Cause if he really didn't do it then he shouldn't have a problem doing that. If he resists I would start paying attention to him and what he does...is he gone a lot? do you guys spend time together as much? Does it feel different? I mean I would even just straight up ask him if he's happy cause you don't want to waste your time with someone that doesn't want you..Good luck girl!
2007-08-19 10:28:33 · answer #7 · answered by Dimples2168 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has done it before probably he's cheating on you again. It is difficult because you have his child but nobody deserves to treated like that, I think you need no proofs 'cause this isn't a trial , ask your friends or neighbors they always know first. And if you find out that he's a cheater, move on!. You deserve someone loving, caring and faithful.
2007-08-19 10:40:06 · answer #8 · answered by Joshua 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you guys have been together along time. But I know it's hard because i feel like I'm in the same situation, but if you love yourself enough you just have to move on. I know that it's not going to be easy but it has to be done, and you'll feel better about it in the long run.
2007-08-19 10:27:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well here's a trick that i found out from a real life story back home ( a hooker who managed to successfully retain a marriage with a big time player )
every morning before he leaves the house, give him the best sex he ever had. learn sex tricks ... makes him crazy
or just lead him on like kiss him from the back and plays with his package in the morning while he's brushing his teeth and then kiss him and just left after whispering to his ear that you will give him the rest of the story after he got off work.
the point is to keep him wondering about and only you the whole day and making him to can't wait going home ...
2007-08-19 10:29:30 · answer #10 · answered by swingbaby06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋