I am overwhelmed by people's kindness.
I found out that I am pregnant, so we had to cut our guest list to the point that only family members were invited. My mother-in- law's friends, who I have not met, still sent us cards with checks.
How do I thank them for their act of kindness? I feel bad because they are not invited to the wedding.
2007-08-19 03:09:30 · 20 answers · asked by MissionSuccess 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Don't feel bad about people not being at the wedding! Most people understand that the bride can't invite absolutely everyone to the wedding, there are few people that can afford, or even want to give the big fancy weddings like we see on TV.
How generous of those people to send a gift!
You just thank them as if it were any other gift, don't apologize for not inviting them to the wedding, or even mention it to people who were not there.
Dear Mr. and Mrs. Brown, how kind of you to think of Brad and I, we are both overwhelmed by your[or everyone's] generosity. Thank you so much for the check! We are saving up for a house, so the money will be put to good use. Thanks again, Melanie
General thank you rules: Speak from the heart, whatever nice thing you are thinking is probably ok to say. Be brief. Mention the type of gift, cash, check, gift card, pre-loaded credit card, money order, but not the amount of it. Don't mention the event if the person was not there, whether they were not invited, or just declined your invitation. [If they were there, you would divinely mention it]. Mention what you might spend it on, for instance, we bought a house and the kitchen had no cabinets or appliances, we are rehabbing it. Make sure it is something nice, don't mention you are saving up for something frivolous.
Congratulations, hope this helps.
2007-08-19 04:20:58 · answer #1 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write it like any thank you note. The people that gave you gifts were obviously not offended that they were not invited to the wedding.
Don't let your restrictions of having to cut down on the wedding invites get in the way of writing nice thank you notes. It is nice that you are well liked. It is not unusual to get wedding gifts from people that weren't invited - don't feel guilty - people understand more than you realize - they may have had the same experience with their wedding, etc.
Just write a nice thank you for the gift. Good luck on your new marriage
2007-08-19 10:20:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that could be a problem...if they were not invited then.
Besides if they were hurt, they would have not come and at that gave you a gift.
Don't go thinking otherwise. Not all people are sensitive. They are mother's friends in the first place....
Just thank them by saying you truly appreciate their gesture and certainly you have found a new friend in them.
I guess that would clear things from both side.
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2007-08-19 10:22:20 · answer #3 · answered by Helen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You thank them for their kind gift and regret the fact that you were unable to invite them as the wedding was very small and limited to close family members.
If you wish, you may say something along the lines of 'when Hubby and I are a bit more settled we would love to have you for dinner. But don't say that unless you mean it.
2007-08-19 10:19:18 · answer #4 · answered by justa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thank them for their graciousness in sending the gift, and make no mention of not inviting them. They already know they weren't invited.... It's already understood. Deal with the guilt. There are worse things in life and it's time to be a grown up.
2007-08-19 11:20:29 · answer #5 · answered by Zipperhead 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send a Thank-You immediately after receiving the gift, and tell them how much you appreciate their thoughtfulness and friendship. Best handwriting and no spelling mistakes with a nicely written envelope are important, but from your question above I dont think youll have a problem with that.
2007-08-19 10:20:44 · answer #6 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A thank you for a gift is a thank you like any other. It doesn't matter about the wedding and who is coming and not. It only matters that someone sent you a gift and that gift has to be acknowledged.
2007-08-19 10:18:04 · answer #7 · answered by dawnb 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Just go ahead and thank them for their gift. I'm sure your mother-in-law had already explained to them the situation, or perhaps she could, thereby eliminating the awkward explanation.
I'm sure they'll understand.
2007-08-19 10:17:06 · answer #8 · answered by Jay L 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You thank them for the kind thoughts and the gift. Simple, really.
2007-08-19 10:28:40 · answer #9 · answered by hopflower 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write it as if they were invited. The idea of your "Thank You" card is to show appreciation and not "what the he** were you doing there anyway?"
2007-08-19 10:19:09 · answer #10 · answered by Will H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋