Question for men only please: SEXUAL DILEMMA!!?

Question

Hey Guys,
Here's the situation. I attract the "players". The competitive type, which is similar to my personality. The problem is, although the foreplay and sexual tension is fantastic, The sex usually lasts about 5 minutes, and I'm sorta left hanging. This is really frustrating for me, and it's becoming a repeated pattern. I have had men tell me I make them feel embarrassed/inferior after were finished. The classic line: "this has never happened to me before..." Im wondering if any of you maybe have some suggestions as to what i can do to relax him a little more, slow it down, while still keeping myself interested in it??
And what can i do to prevent lasting feelings/emotions, which sometimes is mistaken when they become infatuated and think they are in love?? I just want to have an orgasm!!! I have tried quite a few things, different age groups, different types, it always seems to bring out the same result....

I really appreciate everyone's input, and I wish I had not put Men only, because Jen's suggestion was great! But you all should know im not really into receiving oral. I like to give it, i like to strip before hand i DO do all thatstuff your all suggesting.... ive taken my time, ive done it fast, ive been soft and sultry and fast and rough, it really does not seem to make a difference, I guess, in the long and the short, what do you guys do to control yourselves, what can i do to help the control, less intimacy? less interest? less excitement? maybe dont do the oral thing??

Answer 1

I know I'm a girl, but let him use a vibrator on you, and when you feel close, let him in. Most guys like that stuff.

Answer 2

OK dear I'll give this a shot.
I have been around some of the females on here might even call me a "player" but I am very competitive and i hate to not please. So this is how it works for me I do finish in just a few minutes but unlike most other guys i guess i stay hard after i finish, so i can still keep going. As long as there is still friction and sex i stay hard. I have never left a girl with out at least giving it my best shot and i would say that i am pretty good at what I do in bed. So you need to find a multi-orgasm guy that can fill your needs. It would not hurt if the guys would give a little oral love as well at least i mean you sound like you deserve that at least. Well good luck on your orgasm search hope all works out well for you.

Answer 3

While your questions are valid, the answers are outside of your control. Control (or the lack of it) in their sexual responses is up to them, and it's a learned and practiced behavior. Here's what you might find interesting: the type of control you're seeking is not usually practiced by the player types because they have other trappings to increase their appeal with the opposite sex. (The car, the bling, the cash, etc). (In the same way that super-devastatingly gorgeous women often make mediocre lovers because they rely too heavily on their looks to be the attractant). So, to find what you're seeking (especially since history has repeated itself numerous times with the same lackluster results) maybe you should shift your focus away from the players to another type of male who is sho' nuff getting the job done. (Just a thought.) Good luck.

Answer 4

Jessica, you're getting the wrong type. Forget the boys, try an older man. We know how to get a woman off manually and orally before we go in ourselves, as we know that we won't be able to hold off with a tight woman. Older men take their time, go down, and make sure you have at least one, if not two (two's my minimum) orgasms first, and then PLUNGE!! and we come together. Takes a bit of practice to get it right, and it might last an hour or so, but practice makes, as they say.

Answer 5

Gosh Jessica, you must be the hottest woman in town !!! It's funny how you achieve the result you want but then find it's not satisfying. THE REASON: Because the wonderful foreplay and sexual tension causes a man not to last as long as he'd like to. And your voiced frustrations just builds a barrier.

Chances are, you're never going to get satisfaction with your current plan. YOU'RE THE PLAYER MOMMY WARNED US ABOUT.

Answer 6

Great question! Yes, you can help the man in your life by not pointing out his shortcoming(excuse the pun!) and by helping him to understand before anything happens that it takes you a while to reach your climax. Guys need to do kegels to prolong their erections and stamina, so as not to pop off as soon as the urge hits them. Afterwards, men usually need between 20-30 minutes to regenerate for a second round; if you fix him something sweet to eat and possibly coffee for the caffeine content when he wakes up or stirs after the afterglow has worn off, he should be ready to go for it within an hour. Your biggest problem will be staying in the mood for when he's once again ready for what he got you worked up for in the first place!!!

Answer 7

The root of the problem seems to be that you're attracting the wrong type of man.

Consider changing something so you do not attract the wrong type of man who just uses you - consider trying to attract the type of man who would worship the ground you walk on and be loyal and devoted to you.

Those type of men may not tickle your fancy at the very start but you may fall in love with such a man and remain so for all of your life!

Answer 8

The classic way of slowing things down is to make him stimulate you orally. Have you tried that?

Answer 9

Try kissing them 1st and giving them oral until they orgasm. Then its all about you have them kiss you from head to toe, then toe to head. Have them give you oral until you orgasm. Then they should be up and ready and prepared to give you a longer performance

Answer 10

you need to find a man who wants to please you. satisfying you must be a priority for him. i would think that most guys are like this but maybe i'm wrong. making a woman have an orgasm is almost as exciting as having one myself. men need to understand that if you please and satisfy a woman she will want to do the same for you-- makes for a lot better sex.