I'm sixteen and i want to move back to my hometown of St. Andrews to train to be a nurse whilst living with my fiance who is eighteen. (We have been together since i was twelve and he was fourteen) I currently live near Aberdeen (we live up here because my dad was moved due to the armed forces), but my parents think i'm not responsible enough. How can i show them i am mature enough to leave?
2007-08-19 02:39:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't get on too well with my mother
2007-08-19 02:47:59 · update #1
And you have to be at least 16 when applying for the course to be a nurse, and 17 when it starts
2007-08-19 03:16:41 · update #2
If you were mature, you would listen to your parents. 16 with a fiancee don't sound mature to me. Your life is just beginning, whats the rush? If your boyfriend is "real" he will wait for you.
2007-08-19 02:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by D.C 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you're only 16 which does not make you a legal adult in most places. Trying to maintain your studies, while living with a boyfriend can be difficult. Does your boyfriend have a job that pays enough to support the two of you? So many other things to consider.
For now, complete your education. Do everything around the house that your parents ask of you, before they have to remind you again. Get a part-time job and start saving up some money to pay for nursing school and a place of your own. Come up with a sort of plan for your future, and ask your parents for their input. When they make suggestions or ask questions, be ready with answers, not arguements. After all, they are only trying their best to get you prepared for your life ahead. Do everything you can to show them you are ready to face the world on your own, have considered the "what ifs", and will be able to deal with adversity when it creeps up. Don't tell your parents "I will...", but show them that you ARE doing all the right things.
Good luck.
2007-08-19 03:09:33 · answer #2 · answered by sandyblondegirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole scenario you have just described is convincing enough for them and the rest of us to know that you are too immature to do as you wish.
Nevertheless, this might help:
1. Groom immaculately & dress nicely
2. Study harder than ever & don’t use profanity
3. Spend an hour a day in the library & at the gym
4. Honor your parents
5. Help someone every day
6. Go to Church
7. SMILE & speak badly of no one
Good Luck
2007-08-19 02:48:54 · answer #3 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame on your parents for letting you "date" when you were 12. You can't have a "fiance" when you are just 16 and you certainly should not be shacking up with a guy.
Show them you are mature by concentrating on your education. Go to school but do not move in with the guy.
2007-08-19 02:48:43 · answer #4 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So many things contribute to your parents assessment of your maturity and resposability level.
You probably know which areas your parents think you are lacking in.
Think of the little things they have talked to you about.
Cleaning up after yourself,contributing to the upkeep of your home,comeing home on time,getting to school on time,getting a job and being resposible with the money you earn. these things should tell you where your parents think you need "maturing".
Work on these and let your parents help with advise(listen and learn).
2007-08-19 02:52:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
y r u in such a hurry to grow up? ...they r being responsible love thats all ...how will they know you r safe that you have money ect..i think you need to wait at least a year ....
living on your own is harder than you think theres all that house work too and bills ...think about the pro and cons first write down your combined incomes and your estimate costs for living ..just to be sure you know..any way if its what you want just be helpfull and considerate..help your mum with meals and cleaning ..ask her financail planning questions..so she can see you are keen to learn budgeting ...gl darls all the best..
2007-08-19 02:52:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your parents give you a curfew, make a huge effort to stick to it. When they ask you to do something for them, do it straight away and to the best of your ability. You need to show them that you are responsible and mature towards their needs and the responsibilities they give you. They don't know how responsible or mature you are in aspects of your life that they aren't directly involved in.
2007-08-19 02:53:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start by taking some responsibility in the house-you know,like sharing some work with your mom.But,thats going to be really hard.I don't think nursing school leaves you with much spare time,or does it?
2007-08-19 02:47:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents what your life goals are
Do more chores around the house
Study hard
Make sure you have control over your life e.g what you want to be, financial plans, getting a decent job
2007-08-19 02:50:24 · answer #9 · answered by Parissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i think you should have a conversation with your parents(specially your father!) about how you feel, and listen how they feel , then i think things gonna be ok. if it doesn't work try to show them that you're mature by doing the right things in the right times and somethings like this..
good luck
2007-08-19 03:20:43 · answer #10 · answered by EH$AN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋