A quick question for Christians out here..(And Christians ONLY)?

Question

My Mom just got diagnosed with breast cancer. My Grandmother (whom I was very close with) died a few weeks ago, due to a heart attack. My Dad is stressed out about my Mom, and his job.
I am a Christian myself, but, I can't help but ask myself..
If God really did love me, why is he putting me through such grief right now? I know that has human beings, we all must go through tough, hard times, but..this really just doesn't seem fair.
Please help.

Thank you everyone..I appreciate the advice very much.
God Bless you all.

Answer 1

Even though you seem that this particular time you may feel, you are the one who is carrying the heaviest cross. But in the future, you will know, How loving our God is. I have experienced much bitter times in my life. But still, now I know God loved me and protected me in His arms. So just trust in God. Don't doubt Him. He has special plan in your life.
Lean on Him only. Don't let the doubts come in. I will also pray for you. "Lord I commit this friend of mine into your hands. You know this situation Lord. Without your knowledge not even one hair of her will fall down.
So give her your boldness and peace of mind to face this. Teach her how to trust in you. Let the Holy Spirit take complete control. In the name of Jesus. Amen"

Answer 2

hey there, it will rain on the just AND the in just. Trust and believe in the Lord. He will never forsake or leave you in your darkest hour. Try something new... why not ask GOD why the wonderful, most greatest things have ever happened to you? Think long and hard at all the wonderful things mom and dad have given to you, have you had great birthdays, past Christmas', maybe a vacation, do or will you get a car, new clothes, makeup, an allowance???? Start to thank God for all the blessings he has already given to you and thank the Lord for YOUR health EVERYDAY. Now, let God do his job. Trust me when I say this, HE does not need our help at all. He made the earth in 6 days and HE will make your mom well again. Somethings there is so much pain on earth that when we leave we will have the peace that was promised to us. Your in my thoughts and prayers so keep a smile on your face and make sure when you are asked why it is you smile that you tell others you've received a new found hope and that all is well. God Bless child.

Answer 3

I am so sorry to hear all this bad news; my prayers are with you and your family today, that you may find some peace and strength through the God of all comfort.

As you know bad things happen to good people, it rains on the just and the unjust, life is unfair, etc. there are a million cliches. But none of it means God doesn't love you.

Use these times to draw closer to Him, to draw on His strength not yours, and I'll bet you anything in time - and it may be a long time - you will look back and realize how much you grew in your faith during these difficult times, and how you were able to reach out and comfort others because of how God had reached out and comforted you.

May the Lord bless you and keep you always.

Answer 4

Hi, Here is the answer I recently gave to a similar question.

The Bible states that the rain falls on the just and the unjust. That means that bad things happen to everyone, even Christians. Perhaps it is to test your faith. If you hang in there, pray, and have faith in God, you will get through the bad things and be much stronger when it is over.

I thought God was wrong and hated me when my mother had cancer and died. But, since then, I am a much stronger person. Worse things than a family death have happened since then, and I managed to get through them much better. I know you probably think nothing could be worse than a family death, but believe me, there can be. I have even been thankful that my mother went to be with Jesus before these other things came about. They would have broken her heart.

I will pray for you. God bless you.

Answer 5

My husband lost both his parents when he was 18. His dad kiiled his mom and then himself. My husband walked in on this scene and had to call the cops. He wasnt saved at the time and I am sure he was mad. Now he looks at it as a blessing. Because know one never knows how they may die. His mother could have suffered from some illness for years before she finally died from that illness. I have never lost anyone close to me and my time is coming. My mother has many problems wrong with her. I do not blame God. When she worked as a house keeper she was in many chemicals, plus she smoked alot. Now she has COPD I think its called, plus a bad heart, and so on. I pray God takes her before this all gets real bad even though I love her so. Mom is saved so I know where she is going. She will no longer suffer with these problems in heaven. So if you family is saved and you as well, know that one day you will see them again.

Answer 6

Oh, good way to get answers from atheists - we don't take orders, you know, especially from believers.

Life isn't fair because there is no god, diseases strike at random but also based on genetic and lifestyle factors, believers have just as many problems as nonbelievers and do no better at dealing with them. I could not believe in a god who allowed such cruelty and suffering, which is why I abandoned the concept - and my life has been much better since. Things still happen, but I don't expect anyone or anything else to handle them for me.

Answer 7

If god has been there for you and has made you happy, then don't lose faith. Anyone who was happy and isn't knows you should go back to the way things were and keep trying. You can make it through this, you have to. You have to be there for your family. No matter what happens, if believeing in god makes you happy, don't lose faith! If you really don't think a loving god could do this, then believe as you wish, but all I know is that hope is great medicine. You can do this. You can do this.

Answer 8

Hi, I feel very bad for you, and i will pray for both you and your Mom and Dad.
You have gotten many great answers of encouragement, and I hope they will help you and allow you to keep your faith in God.
I have been finding that there are so many, many people who also have so many trials and problems going on, and it makes me wonder 'what is going on in this world right now?"
God does love you, has not abandoned you, and he has not forgotten any of us, thru all our troubles. It's so easy to look at all the stuff going on everywhere and wonder where He is! I just lost my husband 6 months ago, and altho the sadness from his death is awful, I pray everyday for strength from God, and to accept that it was His will. Prayers and talking to family and friends are helping me get thru this, and you'll see that talking to God, often, and asking for Him to be close to you, will help ease your burdens. Keep up your faith, and I really hope and pray that God will Bless your whole family and keep you all healthy and happy, once again.
God Bless you!

Answer 9

Stand strong. Ask God to guide you and your family. Pray together. Above all please do not let this take away your faith.
We all suffer through bad times. We all need to pray for each other. I will pray for you.

Faith is good and your question will bring it out in other people. More will be praying for you.

Pay no attention to the negative answers and negative ratings on answers that will come. They are just lost souls or evil ones trying to prey on your grief. Ignore them.

Answer 10

God is not a God that lies on a big couch, yawning and saying, "What? Someone's suffering? Well, if they perservere, then they'll be rewarded. I'm going back to sleep now."

Rather, God confronts sorrow; He comforts, He fights for us, He drives the darkness away. He clings to you with a far tighter grip than we could ever place hold on Him. Imagine yourself dangling off a cliff: you might be overwhelmed and want let go, but He won't; and ultimately it is His grip--the grip that is keeping you from falling--that really matters.

Your grandmother is in a better place. Many people will tell you this, but my repeating it does no harm. In this sin-ruled world, death is not a bad thing. Death is actually good. It means one gets to go home--life is like a long vacation, one that's fun at times and worrisome (or terrifying) the next, and death is the point when you pull into your driveway thinking, "Now i can just sit down and relax." After a long vacation, coming home is itself like a vacation. Your grandmother is with God, and she feels sorrow no more.

I have a friend at Church, a nice old lady, who also has breast cancer. She is the heart of our whole Church. We are a little congregation, so she is very important to all of us, but we don't know if she will pull through. But that doesn't mean God hates us or feels indifferent. Logically, God has the right to do anything He wants: He the Potter, and we are the pots, and He gives and He takes away. But ours is a God Who cares for His children. He uplifts us, and says, "If she goes, she goes to Me." No Christian has anything to fear from death: for Christians never die, but rather pass on into eternal life. Why do we believe in God? It is not just that He is real, for it is possible for a god to be real and not care for human beings. It is that He loves us. God is Good--He is our Father. Of all people, of all creeds, of all faiths, Christians alone can claim God is our Father.

Perhaps instead of turning to us, you should turn to God. Whenever i am sad, i read the Psalms. You might think a lot of them are "la la la, everything's great," but in fact most of them are cries, "God, help me!" Blessings, i will be praying.

Answer 11

I am sure you are receiving more prayers than you know right now. We all must carry burdens. I too have lost dear family and seen others go through sickness. All this will pass. Keep the love, prayers and positive thoughts strong in your family. I will pray again for you.
Life can be terribly unfair at time, but all is not lost. Seek Him out and ask for guidance.