The guy used to be a college teacher of mine, a few years older than me. Many years back in college, I prayed with him for his dad. After that prayer, I felt compelled to invite him to my church, but I never did. I now have befriended him just within the past year and a half. We are both working on a project together with some other people. The truth is though, my mom, likes to social dance as well as myself and wanted to invite him to a social dance. So she asked me if I could ask him only because she thought it may seem weird inviting him since she is older. After he turned down the offer, I didn't realize till later he probably thought I was asking him out on a date. When I realized it, I felt so grieved within me because I have never asked a guy out in my life. I don't ask guys out because I feel that real gentleman pursue the ladies. So for this to happen, all of a sudden I felt like I was belittling myself. This event took place last November-ish, but since then I’ve noticed our unique relationship has had a different feel ever since. I still wish I could ask him to my church though, which was my original desire for many years. But I have a feeling he may think I’m trying to ask him out. What should I do?
2007-08-18 21:58:20 · 7 answers · asked by Lasorna 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I think you've let too much time go by without resolving this. As soon as you realized he may have gotten the wrong impression from your invitation, you should have cleared matters up. Perhaps you still can, but it will be even more awkward now. Try this: "I've sensed a change in our friendship lately and I'm concerned, It occurred to me that you might have thought I was asking you on a date when I invited you to the social. I want to assure you that I value our friendship and had no intention to jeopardize it by making a romantic overture. The invite was strictly platonic. "
In the future, make certain that you make it known that any invitation you extend is NOT romantic in nature.
2007-08-18 22:23:23 · answer #1 · answered by babydoll 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The truth is always a plus. Ask him if you could have a minute of his time and say what you said above. The ice will break--Things will go back to normal or better. Men are basically clueless when it comes to handling situations like this and he will be relieved that you took the initiative. Secrets are death to any relationship. Friend or otherwise.
God's Speed and Grace,
Nancy
2007-08-18 22:08:00 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that u should tell him the truth that if he would like to join ur church not because as a way to develop a relationship in the future but as a way to to closer to Christ.
2007-08-18 22:04:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it be. Additional discussion could prove to be awkward or embarrassing. If he is interested in going to your church, he will. It kind of sounds like you are smitten with this gentleman. Concentrate on someone who shows mutual interest to you.
2007-08-18 22:10:00 · answer #4 · answered by ValleyViolet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He do not feel what you feel to him and he do not want to deceive you. Maybe he is married and do not want to be tied to your desire that is why he is avoiding date with him. He is just a friend and that is his s feelings towards you.
jtm
2007-08-18 22:07:28 · answer #5 · answered by Jesus M 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Life is full of bad timing, misunderstanding and trial. It certainly has been so for me.
2007-08-18 22:33:50 · answer #6 · answered by Shinigami 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him what happened.
2007-08-18 22:07:45 · answer #7 · answered by sydney77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋