moving out... help?

Question

i want to move to my dads house at the end of this year but i dont know how to tell my mum what do i do?

Answer 1

just tell her you are moving now an dthat you are going end of the year. it may hurt abit but its best to let her know in advance so she knows what is up.

Answer 2

More information needed! To answer this question best, a person needs to know your age, why you want to move out, how far apart your parents live and what all the changes would be. Would your school change? What's the current custody agreement?

Parents are legally bound by the custody agreements they made when they got divorced. Changing them without the court's permission breaks the law, and if your mother disagrees the situation could bring your parents back to court. That would cost each of them thousands of dollars, and that's a huge burden for most parents to take. Many budgets just can't handle it, and going to court makes almost every family relationship worse.

If you want to move because your mother and you aren't getting along as well as you used to, it's better to get help working on that relationship. Learning to walk away from relationships that aren't working sets you up for having trouble working through problems later on. Before you move out, consider approaching your mother and asking about finding a therapist for the two of you. Learning to deal with family teaches us how to deal with our own families later on without losing them.

If you want to move in with him because you miss him and want to spend more time with him, first approach your mother and tell her how you feel. Tell her it's important to you right now to spend more time with him, and that you'd like her to help you do that. Don't mention moving in with him; focus just on spending more time with him. That will also help you see that problems exist regardless of who you live with, and that moving may not be the best answer.

If it's about school, first do everything you can to gut it out. Once again, walking away from problems pretty much creates people who learn to walk away as an adult rather than face and overcome challenges. However, there are ways to live with your mother but change schools. That's actually easier than you'd think, because if both of your parents agree to switch your school district to your father's the court will pretty much rubber-stamp it with lower court fees.

Do your best to work things out. Being a kid is about learning the things you need to know as an adult, and the hardest lesson is how to face problems without running away.

***If abuse is an issue, say something. DO NOT claim abuse if what's going on is just normal punishment or discipline. However, if you are being beaten (not slapped for being rude or outstandingly cruel) and abused, tell someone who will listen. That is NOT a lesson you need to learn.

Answer 3

you tell your mom that you miss your dad too much and you want to start something new and now you're breaking free and because when there was me and you , i should stick to the status quo and it's what you've been looking so bop to the top and you'll get you're head in the game, we're all in this together!!!

Answer 4

Have your dad talk to your mom on your behalf.