im 13, and im tired of this whole, 'new boyfriend every week' thing.?

Question

yes, i know im young, but im really tired of having a boyfriend one week, and then the next they think its perfectly fine to break up with me and date my friend, and act like nothing happened. this is how its been for a few years[started 3 years ago, and its now, more than ever.] and its totally accepted by everyone. im tired of this, ive had enough 'boyfriends' in the past year. i know it means something different to be dating when your 13 and when your 20, but still, i want a boyfriend, and not just one who kisses me one day, then my best friend the next.
sorry, this was kind of a rant. but i was wondering if im totally off here, and if this is how its supposed to be, right now.

Answer 1

Wait until you're older and get a real boyfriend. Step out of the game at high school. Work on making proper friendships and relationships not just someone to call your "boyfriend". I never dated until much later and yet the irony was I had a couple of really close steady MALE friend for most of my high school years. Better than some jerk to call a boyfriend every few weeks.

Answer 2

It happens a lot in relationships were people aren't certain of what they want, if you like someone a lot stick by them until it stops (which it will one way or another). If you only like them a bit get someone else whos willing to make a bit more of a commitment.

To all the people calling this young lady a slut and saying she shouldnt bother with boys, your morons! It's 2007 not the 1920's, girls have boyfriends at all ages and quite often they kiss there should be no age for relationships, love begins whenever :)

Answer 3

no way! i dont think its normal, or maybe if it is it just shouldnt be. im a strong believer in love, and true love at that. just havin one partner for your entire life. i know ur a bit young for that but try finding a good guy who's willing to stay with u over a long period of time instead of accepting anyones offer to date. if ur gunna date make sure this guy actually means something to u. gosh ppl ur age need to get over the whole 'ive got a bf im so cool' stage and concentrate on their school work cos when ur earning big bucks then u can worry about relationships...

Answer 4

At 13 you need friends period. Boys that want more need to go away for awhile.
We sometimes confuse fun with relationship stuff, stop confusing the issue and be yourself.
You will have plenty of time for big time boring relationships when you are old and depend upon the few people who stick around.
For now just have fun being self reliant and free. This all will end soon enough.

Answer 5

thats messed up and im 14 and i wanted a bf for more then a week well now i've been with a guy for 8 months and i've cryed so much so my advice is just dont date save urself a hearbreak ive been crying everyday for a while now i dont even remember how many days so have fun and try not to get hert

Answer 6

you should be tired of it cause that is not how it works and you a still young. ignore guys for a while and concentrate on your studies they can see you are easy to get,and if you stay away from them long enough they will come to and u can pick n chose and lay down the rules don't kiss them on first week keep them in suspense

Answer 7

Yes, your parents are going crazy...they will be that crazy for at least another 7-10years. This is the best and worst time of your life. They will become paranoid and start going through your things, and everything you want, they will make it sound absurd. This is the time, where you need to take the nicer one of your parents aside, and have a chat. Take your mom for instance - thats probably where most of the crazy comes from anyway (it sort of rubs off on dad after a while) - take her aside and sit down with her and have a conversation. Tell her that you are not going to grow up too fast, you promise; and you like talking to her about your problems, because that is the kind of relationship that you have always had. You would like it to remain that way, because being an adolescent is not easy. Tell her you feel like your relationship is not what it was and it feels like she is becoming accusatory and paranoid. You really love her and you will always be her daughter. No matter what. - this you need to tell her alone and you need to be a grown up about this. She really needs to hear this from you, because she is scared of loosing her baby girl. That is why she is going a little loopy! If you can only see your bf once a week, then you will follow her rules, without complaint, because you know she only wants the best for you (it wont always feel like it, and it will feel like she is ruining your life, but dont tell her that - keep the peace - it will make things easier.) Next you need to chat to your bf about his anger issues. He needs to learn how to control his emotions without it bursting out like a vulcano. He needs to respect you enough to handle himself and you in a civilised manner, especially when you have disagreements. There will be loads!! Once you have sorted out his issue, its time to have another chat with mother dearest. You need to apply for 1 more day a week, in exchange for something. Like supervised dates, outside of the house. Supervised means that they are close enought to see what you are doing, but far enough not to eavesdrop on your conversations. Set the boundaries, and your parents will see that you are trying to be responsible, without keeping them out of the loop.

Answer 8

hi, do not worry in case of your boy friend u will surely get a good guy who understands u and will be with u forever.dont go for guy who want a girl for sexual intercourse but go for a guy who loves u with ur heart then u can have what u want.all the best i hope u follow my idea

Answer 9

YOU NEED TO FINED A MORE MUTARE GUY. IN 8TH GRADE RELATIONSHIPS MIGHT BE A LITTEL LONGER MYBE MONTH OR 2 AT MOST THE LONGEST IVE EVER SEEN WAS MY FREIND AND HIS GIRL FRIEND WHOS A GRADE YOUNGER THY SHOULD BE REACHING THIER 3RD YEAR TOGETHIER SO MY BE IF YOU CAN SNAG A OLDER GUY BUT NO MORE THEN 2 YEARS OLDER

Answer 10

Don't be to quick by jumping into this boyfriend/girlfriend thing, so you won't have a problem anymore. One week is not considered to be a relationship anyway.