Are women unattracted to guys that are loners?

Question

I wonder if it is a strange thing that I don't really have friends. I grew up in Chicago and I went to the military after high school to escape the streets. Now I live in Cali and I'm out of the military. The two friends that I did have in cali moved back to other states where they were born. Now I haven't had friends or a date in about two years. I go to the theaters alone and mostly go to the gym and study and read in Barnes & Noble. Is this strange? Does it look weird that I don't have friends?

Answer 1

No Sir it does not. It sounds like you are very intelligent and enjoy educating your self further. Kudos to you. I am a service brat and I've seen many things. You know you could start going to a coffee shop or even a book reading club and join. I know for sure you would meet some one who likes to self educate also. Do not ever stop, If there where more guys in this world like you I think we would have less problems and more solutions...

Answer 2

Well if you're always showing up to the same places seeing the same people and you're always alone, yes, they will notice and think it's weird. No, they won't find you attractive for being "mysterious" and a "loner".

Girls want a guy that is the life of the party. If you're not the guy that makes everyone in Barnes and Noble take notice and wish they can hang out with(Or roll their eyes in disgust at for interrupting reading sessions), then the next guy entering the store will be, and that's the idiot the girls will be attracted to.

Sad, but true.

Answer 3

Well, Are you lonely? If not.. I wouldn't worry about it. You are doing you.. when you are ready for someone.. you will find them.. friend or more then friends.. However, I wouldn't recommend waiting to long.. you don't want to be alone forever. And as for the main question.. are we unattracted to loners.. not necessarily.. more or less you are going to places that are not social places. You don't really talk to other people in those 3 locations.. you're usually there to do what you went there to do.. watch movie, exercise, and read. People don't really see .. hey a loner (well maybe at the theater)... Nor do we see you don't have friends.. If you don't talk to us.. essentially.. we know nothing.. and will never know anything if you don't make ANY kind of effort.. If you're lonely.. which I'm slight I'm a assuming you are .. then open up.. try not to be so introverted.

Answer 4

The problem, as I see it though, isn't so much whether women find loner guys attractive (some do, some don't, I'm sure), but that it's just harder to meet people when you haven't got friends who can help introduce you to new potentials.

I mean, it's not like that woman you see in Barnes & Noble knows you haven't got any friends, right? (Though I am still paranoid about going to the movies by myself, but then, I'm slightly neurotic about my self-image.) So she can't really judge you as "weird" (unless you happen to be wearing a trench coat and looking all shifty-eyed- then you've got other problems, lol).

I think a good step in meeting new people though is to just be more aware of your surroundings and the people in them- especially those places you happen to frequent. See anyone who catches your attention while at the gym or the bookstore? Don't get nervous or overthink, just drop a casual line- a comment on the book she happens to be looking at or something. Who knows, she might reciprocate, right? And the worse that could happen is you get slapped. LOL. Just kidding. Honestly, I don't think there's a quick, instantaneous way to gain new friends or get to know someone without that awkward first step of having to approach them. You just have to put yourself out there. You never know who might have an attraction to loners, lol.

Best of luck.

Answer 5

That's not strange at all nor weird. I for one don't have lots of friends coz I'm too picky coz I've been hurt before by friends. Maybe u're a little shy and don't like to make the first move when meeting a person (I'm like that btw). Just start by making eye contact with ppl (not too much or they will think u're a weirdo), that will get u started, and pls look for ppl that u see that have the same interests as u or u won't have what to talk about or will get bored ;). Chat with ppl too, that way u'll learn from others and never be afraid to ask what they think about u. If someday u need someone to talk to, feel free to contact me ;)

Answer 6

No this does not make you strange. Sometimes people just over look you and you have to just go on with your life as a loner. Very depressing though,It's ok to be alone as long as you can handle it ,it does get bad sometimes but you have to just believe there are brighter days ahead that maybe you can meeet that one good friend that you wil have for eternity. These are the best kind anyway.

Answer 7

I don't think it's weird.You just have to remember that all those people in the world don't know you're there yet, and if you wanted to have some new friends, you just have to talk to someone.I'm sure you could find some great friends and maybe even the girl for you if you try .You just have to make your presence known. If you like being alone, that's fine, but going out by yourself all the time gets kind of boring, I know .Best wishes.

Answer 8

hey man...everybody has their own lifestyle. Its not bad dude. For assholes...then ya its bad. Cause dickheads usually make fun of people like that but..thats kinda HIGH SCHOOLISH haha. BUT....i dont think its weird. If you want friends...they're all around you. Especially at that gym of yours. Gyms always make good places to meet people. You can workout with them...play sports on freetime....then they can introduce you to their other friends and there you go. MORE FRIENDS. Barnes & noble is a casual but quiet place to meet people. Especially chicks. :) the cute ones are always reading inbetween aisles. PRetend you read the book theyre reading. and if they ask what you thought iof it...well, you can tell them the truth in a funny way and of course they'll find it funny. Girls like dorks. BUT bottomline....its not weird. JUst dont be afraid to talk to people. Go to local shows(concerts)....events....parks. COMPATIBLE PEOPLE ARE EVERYWHERE. Good luck bro

Answer 9

i understand i'm not a guy yet i will relate in a woman way. i think of that's all in a opinion of what that guy or woman likes. To me, length actually does not count. If there have been 2 adult men interior the bar. One in high-quality condition as hell and the different one 3 hundred lbs provide or take some pounds. For me that's all in there attitude. The in high-quality condition one ought to fully be a jack ***. however the heavier one in all of the two ought to be soo incredably humorous and candy and kind and shall we actually take to a minimum of one yet another. i think of there is a few people who're greater involved in the slimmer length, some are greater involved in the heavier length and a few it does not quite count type to them, like me! wish this permits! :)

Answer 10

aww u poor thing. Are you shy? maybe thats the reason, but shy boys are cute. But anyways. Try building up your confidence and becoming a little bit more outgoing. Try connecting with people on the internet or simply starting a conversation with someone in the public. Trust me. Life is much funnier when you spend it with friends. Lifes too short to be alone.
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