okay so my bf and me are sitting on the couch at my house watching tv and he looks at me with this really serious look and says " i love you" then i smiled and said "i love you too"
its not the first time hes said it. and weve been together for two months. kay. so then 5 seconds later he is reaching over and trying to feel me up. i got really mad at him and i was like "is that the only reason you said that? to feel me up. wow. okay" then i moved to the other side of the couch. kay i dont care if he feels me up. but bad timing jeeze. hes felt me up before but seriously. should i have been mad?
2007-08-18 19:34:22 · 29 answers · asked by nicole 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Feel what you feel Nicole don't let any one of us tell you different...
For one thing we were not present, we were not in your shoes at that moment, so if you need validation that you did right then let me be the first to tell you that you did the right thing because that is what you felt needed to be done.
2007-08-18 19:37:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 2⤋
First off guys aren't wise to this "Special Moment" stuff or whatever slang title you want to hang on it.
We are VERY simple creatures and allot of the time we do things before we think about them so don't blow this up to big. The chances are that he was trying to show some affection in another way than just saying that he loves you to get the point across even further.
Instead of storming off to the other side of the couch you should have told him no and just stuck to kissing or something that shows affection that you are more comfortable with. Also what you said
"is that the only reason you said that? to feel me up. wow. okay"
gives him no room to talk. Are you the judge and this is a courtroom or is this a relationship? Ask him the question and leave it at that don't assume, now if it seems like hes feeding you bullsh*t like "Oh no no baby" ect. then yeah he probably did just do it for that.
You also need to think about how you handle these things because in the future it is going to push him away so talking is the way to go and let him know how his timing was so bad and other things. Good Luck!
2007-08-19 02:50:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could your past behavior have lead to this problem?
Communication is absolutely necessary in this case.
You need to express yourself clearly and directly.
Let him know what the boundary's are and how you felt about the way it all went down.
He may be as confused as you are and without your input will never figure it out.
Sometimes this can be done by turning the tables and taking the situation right back at him. He may be shocked. He may not like it either. He may respond in a very romantic way. Be prepared for all of the above. Good luck!
2007-08-19 02:45:01 · answer #3 · answered by noyoungun 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think he was just nervous and didn't want it to be a random "feel-up" or whatever you wanna call it, so he had to say something. I don't think you should have been mad necessarily, but at the same time he really needs to work on his timing.
2007-08-19 02:37:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
He might have tried to display his feelings for you by making you "feel good". He did it the wrong way and you should let him know and discuss when the right time is for such a thing.
2007-08-19 02:38:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes you have full right to be mad. Love has nothing to do with having someones hand up your shirt, honey.
If he really loves you, he needs to find other ways to show it. Does stuff like this happen often?
2007-08-19 02:37:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yeah you had the right to not be in the mood. Sounds like he's saying what you want to hear to get more out of you.... Be careful..
2007-08-19 02:38:36 · answer #7 · answered by M J 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take chances on love or you will never know if it's real or not. If it's not real it won't last if it is than he will always be there for you . When you are in love you will feel it and so will he so enjoy life.
2007-08-19 02:40:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No,his timing might seem a bit odd to you but if you are a good looker then why not.Come to think of it you might be a bit young for any of this.
2007-08-19 02:41:04 · answer #9 · answered by Charlotte's Dad 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
lol hehehe nicole darl???????????
ive heard girls goin off but really?
he was just showing you affection, i know girls think strange so if you think yr right then ok yr right but forgive him darl his a good guy tell him you love him then feel him up hehehehe
2007-08-19 02:54:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋