I'm in a really tough relationship that I thought I can handle. I think that whatever bad she does, she doesn't know any better, but I don't feel like I can get through to her. Any hope?
2007-08-18 18:45:59 · 30 answers · asked by Giant Donut 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think its time to give up. After all....if you really feel the NEED to change her, she's not the right person for you. If you had really found the "one" there would be no need for change...at least not drastic change like I think you're talking about.
2007-08-18 18:49:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're naive in his comprehend; which isn't against the regulation, merely unrealistic and illogical. She is doing her factor, which will or could not be advantageous to her. i think of we are able to on occasion impact people, yet exchange is all the way down to them and our impact is in many cases very limited. individually, i think of you're able to do nicely to forget approximately your romantic tendencies in direction of this woman, exceptionally the assumption of adjusting her and keeping her to your self. And that's not genuine to declare you won't be able to recover from her. merely with the aid of fact some thing is hard, unsightly or not the type you opt for it, does not advise that's not tolerable. do not tell your self that some thing it particularly is undesirable is as a result insupportable. it fairly is undesirable, yet not the tip of the worldwide. Your attitude to being without her is what's doing you in. do not turn (on your strategies) what's undesirable right into a disaster and you would be ok.
2016-10-16 02:44:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can inspire and assist your girl in changing but she has to want to change first. If she is doing things out of ignorance and is open to suggestion than you can guide her, but it can be very difficult to help her get past something she is doing that is not okay without hurting her feelings or making her mad at you. One of the best ways to help someone change is to expose them to other people that are open and friendly that exhibit the desired behavior you want your girl to have. If she sees people she respects and wants to be like then she is more likely to follow their example. It is hard to take criticism constructively from a boyfriend most of the time.
One of the problems with helping people become who or what you want to be is that when they put what they were doing behind them they often leave the person that helped them in the past as well. If you can't live with what she does then there is a good chance that you may lose her by trying to change her. She may become everything you want...but leave you to be perfect for someone else that isn't trying to change her.
2007-08-18 19:01:03 · answer #3 · answered by Lana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow the guy is trying to change the girl? I was going to say "you'll never convince women of it"haha, it is naive, she's the person you fell for. The person you decided to be with. Why would you want to alter that? All you can do is give opinions, if she feels she needs a change, she will. (alo if she's under the age of 30, she'll prolly change 5-6 more times anyway on many topics from clothes to drug of choice, fave band, career, etc)
2007-08-18 18:51:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't change yourself to no longer be bothered by how she does things, then it is not going to work out. It is not naive to think you can change her, but there is a really great chance that you still won't like the result. When you change somebody for what you want, you tend to also change things you didn't want to change. It generally backfires on you. So, you either use these circumstances to grow yourself, or you stay miserable, or you get out of them.
2007-08-18 18:51:30 · answer #5 · answered by Theron Q. Ramacharaka Panchadasi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way she'll change is if she wants to. It's not necessarily naive to think you can change her, but it's definitely a waste of time trying. Life's too short to live like that. Move on and find someone who you can make happy and who will make you happy.
2007-08-18 18:51:38 · answer #6 · answered by Gabi ng Lagim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A tiger never changes its spots. It's either you change to accomodate her or simply walk out on her after you get too frustrated on her atttitude. If you get a demanding princess, it's because you present her with the conditions to get spoilt. It's all up to you. Maybe doing some shocking thing may bring her back to her senses based on reversed psychology.
2007-08-18 18:56:16 · answer #7 · answered by JingleBells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not navie to think that. however, it's naive to think that about a specific person when u know they won't change. personally my girlfriend and i have changed so much for each other, and it's because was think that we're worth it to each other. if ur girlfriend won't for u, then she doesn't truly love u. ur communication has problems and the relationship won't be fun in the future. rethink.
2007-08-18 18:50:11 · answer #8 · answered by CC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you see is what you get. People can change themselves if they want to. But this kind of thing doesn't happen very often.
And you of course can only ask the other person to change. And if she doesn't want to change. Then that's where your influence ends.
2007-08-18 18:51:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love her for who she is, and when she feels accepted as she is then she will automatically change. You take the initiative and change first though. Trust me when she realize that you accept her as she is miracles will happen. nevertheless there are somethings even within ourselves that not even we can change. Like lust. Only God/Jesus can fully change a man. Why he knows everyman more than they know them selves and he alone has such power to bring inner change.
2007-08-18 18:53:57 · answer #10 · answered by Brown Sugar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋