My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a month now, but we've been best friends for almost a year. We have already said that we loved eachother before we started dating, but jokingly or as brother and sister...
He's quite shy and has never had a girlfriend before... and I don't want to scare or freak him out by telling him that I love him, for real...
How long should I wait?
or should I wait for him to say it?
or should I never say it and just wait until we get married? ;]
and none of this "When it feels right" BS, I've already heard that many times.
2007-08-18 17:55:47 · 5 answers · asked by Lisa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, I am pretty sure I love him. We've been like "BFF4LYF" for forever. [that's best friends forever for life]
I was thinking about waiting for at LEAST another month...
heh, one of my friends told me to say "you know it's okay if you say that you love me" to him one of these days...
I thought it was cute, but it's sorta pressuring him into saying it... ah now I'm just rambling.
2007-08-18 18:09:59 · update #1
oh yeah I forgot something.
Like I said, this is his first relationship, but I have had a few flings when I was younger, but now that I have matured, I take the whole dating thing more seriously, and not "hook up with anything that moves"
I've also been too chivalrous during that time. I probably said "I love you" to all my past boyfriends... and looking back at it, I really regret saying it.
I just want it to have REAL meaning this time... not just some salutation
2007-08-18 18:13:37 · update #2
I hate to put a time frame on the "right" time to say "I love you," but I've been in love 3 times in my life. Each time it was around 9 months to a year before "I love you's" were exchanged.
It's not so much the verbal expression but the other ways you say it to a person that means the most. Since this is his first time, I'd let him say it to you first.
2007-08-18 18:07:36 · answer #1 · answered by apple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt say it, that word gets thrown around so much im starting to wonder just how many people know what it really is. If you must have a number wait 2 more months :)
2007-08-19 01:03:11 · answer #2 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously? Wait untill you two are alone together and happy. Then if you feel it, say it. Nothing wrong with saying it first!
2007-08-19 01:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by ifyoulovehim, t e l l him<3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when it feels right. ahaha im just kidding.
well.
wait a little longer and see what happens.
do you really love him?
or is it just a relationship.
saying iloveyou is a big thing.
is he your first boyfriend?
if you REALLY love him.
tell him how you feeel.
2007-08-19 01:01:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you truly mean it.
2007-08-19 01:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋