People who don't talk?

Question

You know what iam talking about people who basically only speak when spoken to they have no appetite for conversation do you know any, how do you react to people like these?

Answer 1

It can be hard not to take it personally. Sometimes the person's just an *** but most of the time the person's just shy. Oftentimes the cause of shyness is fear and insecurity - even though it can come across as them acting like they're above you. A lot of times people like that seriously don't know what to say. You're prob not 1 of them so u prob can't even relate but it's very common. I used to be PAINFULLY shy and a lot of my classmates thought I was stuck up but the fact was that I hated myself so much that I was worried I'd say someting stupid. I try to give them the benefit of the doubt. I always treat them how I would want people to treat me if I was nervous. After a while of hanging out w/ him/her hopefully you'll get a better take on him and if he's just an *** then ignore him.

Answer 2

I have a sister in law like this. The girl never talks and only answers questions with one or two words. Me, I am a talker. I finally had to give it up. She is a nice person and I have found that when she has something to say, she will. Other than that, be polite and give them an opportunity to get engaged in the conversation. Some people do not talk a lot simply because they have nothing to say.

Answer 3

I can be like that, depending on my mood. I don't think people should talk, talk, talk all the time just to fill the silence. Often I'm comfortable just listening to others and only speaking up when I *really* have something to add to the topic. Or when no one is talking, especially on the road it can be nice to look out, or think, or whatever... nothing wrong with silence!

I think silence makes mostly those people uncomfortable who're insecure in a certain situation. Occasionally when I'm alone with someone I don't know well and want to impress, I find myself trying to come up with some topic of conversation to fill the silence, too

Answer 4

it depends

if at work, they might just wanna get the job done or dont really like to do two things at the same time(same applies to school during lectures)

if at a social setting or during free time, you have one of two options

A)give them all the attention you want and then one day just do it less and less that way theyll notice that you stopped and since they're used to it, they might(I said might not will) start talking to you on their own but it wont be immediate. itll take a while for it to happen if it does by any chance

B)give them some attention but not that much. say hi, or whats up. ask questions every now and then but dont bug them. we as people tend to wanna be with people at our level so thats why shy people usually bond with other shy people and gradually gain trust and talk more. in other words, give them space and wait for them to open up

these wont necessarily work all the time but sometimes they do

Answer 5

Retired and moved into a condo only to find an acquaintance who worked a long time at our pharmacy,lived in the adjacent condo. She is very pleasant and came over often but visiting with her was like trying to pull teeth plus she spoke so softly. After I got hearing aids even they didn't help. I asked her Q to elicite a response but it seldom worked so I no longer make the effort. She isn't lonely as she has 3 sisters who visit but I wish she would open up as she is a dear gentle person and I like her but the stress got to me.

She always said she liked to visit with me bacause I was an interesting person but I don't want to "entertain her"all the time on a one way street. Any ideas?

Answer 6

Some people are just quiet in social settings, and take awhile to open up to others. I'm sort of like that sometimes. If I'm in an unfamiliar group of people, I won't initiate conversations. Yet if someone starts talking to me, and I get to know them, I'll talk a mile a minute.

Answer 7

Just be friendly, that's all. Try also asking open-ended questions to help them get out of their shell.

You should watch the movie, "Only the Lonely" with John Candy. You'll learn that there are some deeper reasons why people don't say much.

Answer 8

Depends on the setting-if at work, maybe that person would rather concentrate on what they are doing. In a social setting, I would give it my best shot ( to allow for shyness), then move on to someone more responsive while wondering why the quiet person even came.

Answer 9

I find that a lot online. Someone adds you to msn or yahoo claiming to be interested in meeting new people/making friends...then they won't say anything. They don't even msg until you msg them. Then they only answer your questions.
ME: How are you?
Them: Good (hello, people, reciprocate!)
Me: What's new?
Them: Nothing
*yawn*
Then they wonder why you stop talking to them. If you ask me they love the attention.

Answer 10

sometimes people don't speak becase there not going to open up there emotions etc....