Ok so a couple of mormons came to my door and knowing how timid, polite and unassertive I am they talked me in to a one on one meeting with them. I really dont want to go and dont want them to come to my door again. How can I do this without them tracking me down or making me feel guilty?
2007-08-18 16:41:35 · 19 answers · asked by katie 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Since you already agreed, the polite thing to do as a human being would be to let them in and hear them out for a few minutes... this time. Judge whether you want them to return after the first meeting but before they leave. It's not like they're going to sacrifice your dog to Satan or something.
No one is going to track you down, and no one is going to make you feel guilty. They're just sharing a message with you, and Mormons believe in free will. If you don't want to hear about it, then say so, and say why. Missionaries aren't the only people that will ever come to your door and ask for your time, so you need to learn to speak your mind.
Otherwise, you'll leave people with the impression that you're dishonest when you no-call/no-show them or break your word.
2007-08-18 16:53:11 · answer #1 · answered by Sir Network 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I am Mormon and I will tell you that the best thing to do would be just tell them. Just tell them from the get go and they will not be pushy, they will be understanding. You can talk with them and not believe in the religion! My husband was a missionary for the church and I can promise you that they would rather you tell them than to leave a note on the door or something silly! Just be honest and upfront with them and if you don't want them to even come to your door again just tell them whenever they come. They will respect your wishes! Good luck.
2007-08-18 23:54:45 · answer #2 · answered by BeThAnY 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi! missionaries are used to rejection and I want to thank you for trying to find a good way to tell them that you are not interested. Many people slam doors on them and curse them :( they are people too and they have feelings like anyone else. They just want to share their knowledge about their beliefs. I know many missionariesn, they are in a 2 years mission, far away from home and can only call home twice a year. They are very nice, polite and caring. It would be good if you listen to them at least a couple of time and hear what thy have to say. But if you are completly not interested, just tell them clearly and politely, tell them that you are not interested and that you are thankful to them for wanting to share those things with you. They will understand. If you know anyone who would be interested in learning more about Mormonism and would like a missionary visit, the missionaries will love it if you give them a new contact so they can teach them, it doesn't matter how far the person would be, even overseas, they contact the local missionaries at the area.
Thanks ^_^
2007-08-18 23:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by Love Yahoo!!! wannabe a princess 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
There is no reason that you should feel guilty about changing your mind. These are folks who know that most people say "No" to their offer...they need just one.
Fact of the matter is this...they aren't looking to share the good news of the Gospel with you (although they are fluent in Christianese), they are merely proseltyzing, just wanting you to be a part of the ever growing LDS church.
Besides, the folks that come to the door (usually young men on a "mission") are only trained in the very basic of knowledge of the LDS/Mormon church and won't respond correctly when pressed about what Mormons really believe.
Remember, there's nothing wrong with "No."
2007-08-18 23:57:19 · answer #4 · answered by gachickinaz 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends on what you are comfortable with. If you feel that they may be able to talk you into something that you are not comfortable with then you might call their local ward or leave a note explaining that you are not interested and that if you become interested you will let them know and not to contact you in the future unless you speak with them first. Or you can speak with them in person that you are not interested and you don't want to discuss with them why. You have no reason to feel guilty for saying no to something that you are not comfortable with. You have a right to choose what ever faith you choose to follow. You are not hurting anyone else. Good luck.
2007-08-19 00:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by Star* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no obligation to meet with those missionaries. They are not trying to take advantage of your timidness. They go door to door all day everyday trying to share what they believe to be true. They try to speak with whomever is willing to listen. They are not going to try and force you to do or believe anything. They only want to share what they believe and then ask you to study and pray about it. I would encourage you to listen. However, if you really do not want to then just let them know either by phone, in person, or with a note and they will honor your wishes.
2007-08-18 23:53:10 · answer #6 · answered by RxDr 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You act as if these missionaries are stalkers. They are just a couple of young men who believe in God so much that they dedicate 2 years of there lives to doing nothing else but spread the good word.
They will not chase you down if you don't want to converse with them.
Just try being honest with them, they appreciate that very much.
If you are truly not interested they would rather spend their valuable time elsewhere, teaching someone who has an open mind.
2007-08-18 23:49:35 · answer #7 · answered by Confirmed Bachelor 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
They will be there for the meeting. You may want to just leave them a note on the door saying that you really have re-thought your position and that you are not interested and please do not contact you again. They will leave you alone.
2007-08-18 23:46:53 · answer #8 · answered by jprentice3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just call them and tell them you have changed your mind. They will understand, and they will not track you down. Every missionary who has come to my home has been exceptionally kind and understanding, and they will not bother you if you let them know that you are no longer interested.
2007-08-18 23:47:52 · answer #9 · answered by Oreo Schmoreo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn to speak your mind and assert yourself. Missionaries are similar to salesmen who go to door to door. Either they have something you want, or do not. If this isn't for you, the best thing is to tell them no, and please don't come back.
Appoints that you have no wish to participate in should be canceled - that way no one's time is wasted, and if you don't show, they'll most likely to stop by and revisit you.
Do you have lots of vacuums and encyclopedias?
2007-08-19 01:10:07 · answer #10 · answered by Dances with Poultry 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋