was i wrong?

Question

on my birthday last week,
i thought we were going
back to school shopping for me.
only my mom and sisters
were focusing more on
shopping for themselves.
and so when my mom asked if i was bored,
i answered truthfully and said yes.
it got her in a bad mood and the rest
of the day was ruined and she
kept saying how ungrateful was.

but was that wrong of me?
i mean, it was my birthday
and nobody was treating me
any differently... =/

i meant that
it was on tuesday,
and my mom still
hasn't forgotten it
and brought it up
again today.

Answer 1

You were probably not wrong but it was last week. You wouldn't want your mom to hold a grudge against something you said last week when you might have just been having a bad day. Be the bigger person and let it go.

Answer 2

Frankly, no. I don't think you were wrong. And it really has nothing to do with whether or not it was your birthday. As parents, we always stress honesty from our children. Your mother shouldn't have asked the question if she didn't really want to hear the answer.

You did fine by telling the truth. Why should you pretend that you are enjoying something if you are not. The fact is, if you were not truthful, you could find yourself in the same situation again because everyone thought you enjoyed it the last time.

Later on, when your Mom calms down, tell her that you're sorry if she was upset, but she asked you a question and you felt like you should be honest with her. Thank her for taking you shopping but explain that it just wasn't how you expected your birthday to go. If you handle it calmly, she should respect you for openly discussing your feeling with her.

Take heart, it's tough growing up and it's tough being a Mom to ever growing, maturing children. You didn't do anything wrong. Sometimes we parents make mistakes too.

Answer 3

I'm kind of split on this. Probably your mother and sisters were excited about shopping and all. And your mother must have known you were bored to have asked the question in the first place, but she apparently was not expecting you to answer honestly, and she got mad when you did, probably because she felt guilty having such a good time while knowing you were bored.

On the other hand, I'm a big celebrater of birthdays...we go way out for birthdays because it's your very own special day. You should have been allowed to do the things you enjoy on your birthday, and your mother should have been a little more mature and adult in understanding that you wanted that day to be your special day. She definitely should not have thrown what sounds like a fit and told you that you ruined the rest of the day and that you were ungrateful.

You should talk to your mother and explain to her that you weren't trying to be ungrateful, but that it was your birthday and you wanted to feel special, if only for that day. Tell her how you feel :)

Answer 4

No you were not wrong it was your birthday and no one acknowledge that. Your mom asked a question and you answered honestly, so what part upset her? For her to even ask you that question, she must have noticed how inconsidered she was being toward you and felt guilty. Not to like disrespect your mom or anything but I mean it's your birthday so how were you being ungrateful? They could have went shopping on any other day but your birthday, or if that's what they wanted to do they could have left you home. And made plans to do something for you later on that day, or bought you something from the mall you wanted and took you out to do other things you may have wanted to do. You sound like you felt bad because your mom was mad or what ever, so what she will get over it just like you had too. But you should'nt fell bad just think if you would have done that same thing to her, she would probably stay mad until next year. Your O.K tho' just take a day and pamper yourself I know how you feel, I kinda go through the NOBODY GIVES A DAMN ABOUT MY B-DAY every year so don't feel sad. I take a day for me and me only and I pamper myself and I don't let anybody ruin it. Love yourself the entire day I mean just totally give yourself the works and do it alone, celebrate your day just you and JESUS. That's what keeps me going every day if I'm feelinfg down or somebody has upset my heart I take a day out just for me.

Answer 5

No, you weren't wrong. You were hurt. You felt forgotten. Maybe now that it has been a few days, you could tell her how you felt and why. She'll understand, I think, and will feel bad for not celebrating your day. By the way, I have had family forget my birthday, even when you are older, it hurts! I don't know you, but I feel birthdays are special, because you are one of a kind! Happy Birthday to you. I hope you have a great and fun year. I hope you were able to celebrate something with some friends.
Bev

Answer 6

Maybe you should have reminded her it was your birthday and they seem to think this is what you wanted to do. So go to her and tell her what you said here. You were offended you told her the truth and she told you to tell her the truth and when you did she got mad. How unfair, it was your birthday and she asked you. Do not argue, just state this to her without anything more to say. Let her answer then ask if you and her can have a special celebration and she can sing happy birthday to you
ask about the day you were born, let her tell you the story for the 100th time
Ask her if she would PLEASE ask you next time if you want to do something, if you do not, can you tell her the truth without her getting mad, she will probably answered YES
you now can move forward, and she has a lot more respect for you,.

Answer 7

Your mom probably thought that a shopping day period would have been fun for you and considered what was going on, on your birthday to be fun. She may have just not thought about the fact that what is fun to her and your sisters is not necessarily what is fun for you. I can understand that and maybe if you two sit down together and you explain it to her, your side of the story, it can simmer things down between you two. She just may not be able to see why you were really soured on your birthday.

No, you were not wrong, because you answered truthfully and she asked you, obviously, because she wanted to know. But the reason why she may still be bringing it up is because in her mind, she may think that she was creating a "fabulous" birthday event for you, when really, it wasn't as fun as she thought. Just explain her side of things knowing that her side of things may be that she believed that she was making your birthday the best one. Just talk to her about it and let her know that you didn't mean to upset her, but you really were not having fun.

Answer 8

i agree with u 100% it is your birthday tha world should have been on you that day and if u mom and sis wanted to go shopping they should have atleast focued more on you and i think she was probly in a bad mood cause you was right and i am so so sorry that happend to you no matter how old you are and no matter what! again there is no rules on your bday ! no limet to food mony sex drinks shopping ext..... but at the same time you have to be majore and not throw a fit but it sounds like you did not do that and u just answerd truthfully but sometime thigns are just left better unsaid even if it is the truth so maybe you should just be the bigger person and jsut went with them and maybe said something at a later time cause karam baby what goes around comes around!!

Answer 9

Maybe she was upset because she thought she was giving you a good birthday. She asked an honest question and you gave an honest answer so maybe her feelings were hurt. But eh...you weren't rude or anything...I don't think you were wrong. You weren't being immature and acting out because of it. You were just honest. Ugh parents...I guess the only thing to do is shrug it off and move on from it. Do something to treat yourself to make up for it! Happy Birthday!

Answer 10

In a VERY gentle manner, talk to your mom about that day and what YOU thought the shopping day was all about.

Let her know how YOU felt and the disappointment that resulted. Tell her you love her, but you too felt bad at the end of the day and like her, are still not over it.