Several questions about 14 year olds and abortion?

Question

Most of you probably just saw the question about the 14 year old girl wanting an abortion. I have a few questions about it.
Alot of people said things alone the lines of "Your 14 you should have thought of the consquences before having sex." Doesn't that statement contradict it's self? Why are people expecting 14 year olds to really think things through? Did they all forget what is was like to be 14?
alot of people were calling her a murderrer. Isn't that alot to throw at a girl? It's not against the law. Why judge other people based on your beliefs?
Why did so few people give reasonable answers like adoption? There are alot of options for a girl in her postion and it seemed like most people just wanted to throw stones. It's sad that when another hman being is having a problem so many people just tell that person what they want that person to do. Instead of giving that person advise on what they could do.

The original question was in this section and since my question is directed at the people who answered i thought it would be best to post it here.

Was that not a 14 year old girl?? In any case it doesn't affect the answers people gave. They thought it was real.

i'm not saying they don't have to live with the consquences because they do if they have the kid or not. I'm saying that they don't think about it before hand.

Answer 1

I totally agree. I'm continually apalled by how judgmental so-called "Christians" can be.

The kid is 14 and in trouble. Even if it's a troll, the responses were totally heartless and callous. (BTW the poster just deleted the question, so I bet it was legit).

"You'll regret it later" is a crock of ****. For all they know, she could regret *having* the kid. Or did god make them all psychic?

I answered as if it was a legitimate question. Not my place to judge -- something some of you pro-breeders would do well to remember.

Answer 2

Thank you for posting this. I have no doubt this girl is very real, and our answers will help others her age. It is sickening to see adults spreading such hatred and animosity to a child. You are so right. This girl needs options. I answered the question as best I could.

Come on, people, don't you get it? Peer pressure, youth? It's crazy hard on teens nowadays in regard to sex. Thank goodness this isn't the '50s or '60s any more when women and girls had to get back alley abortions that either killed or maimed them. It seems so many of you would want that! Abortion is going to happen. Period. You're not going to stop it any more than you're going to stop any other operation. Our laws are still so archaic and that is sad. The thing about adoption is that the country can make it hard on a minor, and with the parents in disagreement and refusing to give consent, the teenager often feels as if abortion is the only way out. The rabid anti-abortionists perpetuate this. If you're so particular about children not having abortions, then why don't you actually check into what it's like to carry a baby for 9 months, give that baby up to others, even those in the family - how dare anyone say that she must be forced to have a child she never wanted. She was protected. You're not going to find that often. Why? Because teenagers are teenagers. And because people get pregnant unwittingly, accidentally or because they are reckless and ignorant, there will always be abortions. Why not make the list of options more readily available for a teen? Forcing someone to have a baby is crazy. Chances are that baby will be abused. Parental consent is a very contentious issue and I understand that. I can see where both sides are coming from. The thing is, ultimately, we have a right to our own bodies - they should NOT be government-regulated. Many conservatives want less government but show their hypocrisy in insisting that they are in charge of people's bodies.

You think it's murder? A zygote hasn't yet developed brain cells enough to feel pain. It is iffy when it comes to a fetus, yes, but doctors have new technology that doesn't cause any, IF there was any to begin with. A fetus and a living child are two VERY different things. A fetus is not capable of thought or developed enough to be anything more than a few cells. I'm not pro-abortion. NOBODY is. We'd all prefer it didn't happen. However, we are not stuck in the situations others find themselves in. Think about how you'd feel if you were young and needed parental consent just to put your child up for adoption - meanwhile it's easy to get an abortion simply by traveling to another state. As always, teens will often look for the easy way out. And because of the archaic laws in this country that easy option is abortion. Wouldn't you prefer a child learn the facts about all options before making a decision? Yes? Then stop blocking them from finding it with this "abortion is murder" nonsense.

Thanks again for the question. I haven't read anything that's made me impassioned for a cause in a while. Those who choose to live in ignorance and be bigots are what is hurting this society.

Answer 3

There were a lot of answers to her question. And I read every one of them. Why? Because I was told I couldn't have babies...but through a combined effort with the doctors and prayer, I did! We have 2 beautiful children ... but so many others are not as fortunate as we are. Those who can't have a baby would be so blessed with this girl's little one. It would be a miracle for them! ALSO...the parents of this girl seem to be supportive of her having the baby. That is a good thing! An abortion is irreversible! With an abortion, that life inside the mother is gone and can never be gotten back if the mother has second thoughts later on! Our young friend should let her parents help her in this decision ... she is so young and the young often don't see farther down the road to the place where regrets and sorrow are waiting.

Answer 4

Oh, it was such a shock to read her question! I think people reacted, some badly. You raise a very good question though and I think we all need to be reminded, so thank you. But also being only 14 I don't think she's seeing the whole picture. Heck, some adults don't. People are having sex younger and younger it seems and to me the tone of her question was reminding me of an 18 year old that I know who is very selfish and resentful & immature. I only hope the girl makes the wisest choice from here on in.

Answer 5

I answered the question honestly, (basically, I told her to call Planned Parenthood to find out her options) though I am a little suspicious as to whether or not that was a real 14 year old girl asking about abortion. The reason I'm suspicious is because it was asked in the religion section. It's the sort of question that might be asked here by a troll because they know it would be an extremely inflammatory question in the R&S section, and they would find the ensuing hysteria amusing.

Answer 6

I was 14 once...and I knew right from wrong when it came to having pre-marital sex and I also knew about the dangers of getting pregnant and STD's and all that!! Even if it was a true case here, I would still say the same thing! Abortion is murder!! I know that there are no perfect human beings, but to sit by and say, "well, she is so young..she doesn't know any better", that is a lie!! If a teen knows about how to have sex, then they also know about how to abstain from having it as well!! They also know about the dangers of sex, too!!

There was a comment made by Rob Thorsman that in the very beginning of conception that it isn't human when it is in the early stages... that it is a clump of cells?? That so-called clump of cells is made up of HUMAN DNA...which means that it is HUMAN from the very beginning!! So, therefore even when it is aborted at this stage of formation, it is human nonetheless, and it is STILL considered ABORTION!!

You all who are calling christians hypocrates, look at you judging the christians!! Think before you type.....

Answer 7

Didn't see the Q; refuse to do battle with the unarmed. I will say, if we start condeming people for acting before they think, most of us are doomed. I have one hard and fast rule: the first guy to become pregnant may have an opinion re: abortion. All others are disqualified.

Answer 8

Yeah, I saw that. 116 answers and counting. What a bunch of holier-than-thou judgemental creeps with their "you should have thought of this before doing the deed." This to a 14 year old living in a culture that glorifies every form of promiscuity. We're just basking in Christian love and understanding today.

If she's for real I hope she gets her abortion.

Answer 9

even though many said she was a troll, i did give her advice.

since when is being 14 an excuse for not having to deal with consequences?

when kids break the law, do they say "well it's ok, you didn't know the consequences"

okay, the law analogy is too harsh. When a kid does something wrong, do they still have to deal with the consequences, or do they get off because they're young?


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Answer 10

Even if it wasn't a real 14 yr. old - I could have sworn she specifically said she didn't want to adopt or carry the baby to term.
Yes, I do remember being 14. I knew something called self-control. The children growing up these days know little or nothing of self-control or the word "no".
So you're telling me a 14 year old shouldn't be responsible for their actions?
That we, as a society, should expect 14 year old kids to be having sex freely and dealing with abortion/baby questions while completely ignoring the advice of parents/guardians?