Hi,I was in love for 3 years with my classmate during graduation & now i'm working. I believed the bonding was soooo gr8 though we had fights and all. We even had sex a dozen times and she always told that she consented for that bcos she was committed to me. I had made mistakes by being possessive & all and she broke up with me telling my friends that she was suffocated all this long. I tried in everyway i could to apologize for my mistakes and asked for one last chance. she behaved rudely whenever i asked sorry. She left me, leaving back lots of proofs that an annoyed ex-boyfriend can use to spoil her future. But she behaves like she totally trusts me. Didn't even ask them back. It's now about half an year since the breakup. Should i move on and find another girl? should i wait for her? How long? She means world to me. What if she comes back at a later time, realizing my sincerety? I heard that If a girl is gone, she's gone for ever? Does any body have a different experience? Plz help
2007-08-18 15:40:12 · 9 answers · asked by techyhere 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sound as if you are obsessing over this girl. I think it's time for you to move on and find someone else. It doesn't appear that she's coming back, and she may already have moved on herself.
2007-08-26 07:52:39 · answer #1 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you thought about hurting her which tells me you weren't a great guy in the first place. If you were being possesive and she left, then there isn't much that's going to bring her back expecially if she had to deal with it for 3 years. There were probably other signs you just ignored, and she knows this, so I would say move on.
If you can honestly say I can ruin her future, if you can honestly think that, and not feel guilty about it, then you don't deserve her. When I found out my ex-fiance was pregnant by some other guy, the first thing I said was "Are we going to stay together?" Naturally we split, but I loved her, and I would never dream about hurting her.
You need to grow up some more before you get with someone else, then maybe you can keep a nice girl
2007-08-25 22:28:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not getting any younger, and it's been six months. You should move on and be happy. she's doing it, so you know you can't really get back with her... You say you were possessive.. I think you may have some insecurities you might want to overcome before getting with anybody first. Build your confidence by going on walks, out to the gym, complimenting yourself. this may sound weird, but everytime you see someone, make eye contact and smile and think to yourself "something good is going to happen" seriously, it feels great to do that because you start looking for the good things, and not focusing on the bad, and friendliness toward strangers helps to build confidence. Also, don't try to foce a relationship, patience is a virtue. Best of Luck!
2007-08-26 13:47:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety she probably wanted to get out of the relationship and just forgot about all the other stuff. i say you throw the stuff away and move on. if she has been gone for a year you should stop focuing on a future that isnt secure or the past but live in the now. you need to move on to bigger and better things. and
2007-08-26 13:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by aleka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been six months. Apparently she thinks you are reasonably trustworthy since she didn't get the proofs back and she doesn't think you'll be enough of a jerk to "spoil her future."
But it's been six months.
What part of goodbye don't you understand?
Move on, there are other people out there.
2007-08-18 15:50:57 · answer #5 · answered by Will See 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start fresh. Burn the proofs. Next time take it slow.
There's a girl out there looking for you. Don't worry.
Enjoy life and before you know it, you'll meet her. Focus
on your life and career. Best to you!
2007-08-26 08:37:04 · answer #6 · answered by hugskisses4707 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no dn't wait shes not worth it its just as good to find a new nice person that you dont' have to bow down to some girls love the attention if you were cared for by them you wouldn't have been so critical and she was so its done for her.
2007-08-26 12:45:35 · answer #7 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally, i think you should stay friends with her, if possible love may leave for unknown reasons, but if it is true love, it will always come back sometime or another
how long should you wait, i have no idea
2007-08-26 11:38:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
let her go...shes nt good enuff for u u seem lik a good guy dun let her change u...just move on to sum1 better since she left u then i guess shes nt the one
2007-08-25 09:30:31 · answer #9 · answered by breeReal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋