A little bit about me: I'm a guy, well educated, with a dream job lined up after graduating from a top-tier business school, and was recently voted by all the girls in my class as one of the "hottest" guys in school. But I'm finding it real hard to meet girls. It just seems like whoever I meet that is interesting is already taken or is not interested in me. And if they're interested in me, I'm not interested in them. I think I deserve a girl who is genuine, good looking, laid-back, chill and just a lot of fun to be around. But I just can't seem to meet anyone. I go to house parties and seldom see anyone attractive. I keep seeing so many guys who have gorgeous girlfriends, fiancees, wives... and can't help but wonder how they got these girls. I do get a little self conscious around very pretty girls (because I have a slight stutter in my speech). I find it hard to be interesting and "on" ALL the time during the date. I'm starting to feel inadequate and worried for the future. Any tips?
2007-08-18 14:20:04 · 7 answers · asked by riddler 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe kick back and not worry so much about not finding anyone--and I know exactly how you feel. I went thru the same thing as you and then when I felt like giving up, my husband came along.
You sound like you are a smart, attractive person--and the right person will come along- -be open to new ways of meeting someone...some of your friends introduce you to someone? I met my husband thru eHarmony---might try this for a few months.
Sometimes other people look like they have it all, but no one has a perfect relationship---and looks are not everything--you will never find a Miss Perfect.
I think you need to stop looking, relax, find new places to go and develop new interests, that special someone may be there.
2007-08-18 14:34:48 · answer #1 · answered by skyward 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would appear that you are a little self-conscious about yourself and I mean all around You also appear to have an entitlement complex.You seem to believe that because of your education and prospects, you are entitled to the dream girl you described in your piece vis-a vis other people.Then you suggest that because of a slight speech stutter, you are self-conscious and insinuate it may be responsible for your lack of success.My tips to you are that you should:1) stop focusing on your education and future position to get you the girl;while they are definite assets, they are not everything as you have already found out2)do some introspection and soul searching and define your values3)understand that women are not commodities that a bigger paycheck must get you unless the women are mercenary4)every man is looking for the same type of girl you described but you seem to think you deserve her for some reason(implied entitlement intended)5)be a little bit more humble and stop looking at others through your nose. I hope you see everything I wrote as constructive criticism designed to help with the situation you find your -self in.I wish you the best.
2007-08-18 14:57:06 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I am a girl and here are my tips. One of the reasons that you don't get any girl is because "The way you dress is contradict with your personality; that's why single girls find it's hard to guess about you". For example, you are a very quiet and decent guy, but you dress like a jerk. These stuffs don't match together. Or, maybe girls see you check out many chicks at the same time, that's why they feel insecure. My tip is : If you notice a girl and feel that you really like her. Just focus on her only. Then start talking to her, then ask her if she's available. Remember, focus on her ALL THE TIME, don't look at other girls. Also, when you got the girl, be yourself. Don't you ever lie to impress the girl because girls are good at reading out what is in your head. A liar turns the girl off, and he never get a girl in his life. When you go out with her, be honest 100%, respect your relationship and never check out other chicks either in person or internet. Your true heart will lead you to the perfect girl. Try this and see what happens.
2007-08-18 14:41:29 · answer #3 · answered by yenhu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is the Internet. There's nothing wrong with it, everyone does it nowadays. Try out the different dating sites. There are lots of girls out there who have just the same difficutlies that you do. You are not odd or peculiar, everyone has problems unles they're part of the 5% who are drop dead goergeous, which most of us aren't. Just get on the web every night and you'll be taking to dozens of people. Go for it,,,and don't give up.
2007-08-18 14:31:23 · answer #4 · answered by sorcerer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try wealthymingle. I found the man I have dreamed about for many years through this web site. I wish everyone else as much luck and love as I have had. I do not have any photos yet but will send you some as soon as I get them. This is a great site as long as they are truthful about what they really look like. I wish you tons of love and know your should mate is out there!.
2007-08-18 15:55:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your frustration about meeting the right one...Dont lose hope but most of all remember that your relationships status does NOT define who you are.
chin up
2007-08-18 14:27:52 · answer #6 · answered by James B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they say the path to true love never runs smooth!....but i also heard someone say recently that if you know what you want you will get it!!!
So....the good news is - you know what you want
The bad news is - the sheer frustration of waiting!
Believe me - I KNOW what you're going through!!
2007-08-18 14:34:10 · answer #7 · answered by chandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋