It seems that Islam is the only thing in my life which is clear as day light, everything else seems a blurr. A lot of things have changed for me over the past years, as have I, but I have this obscene feeling that things will remain the same for me ( in terms of bad events in life). I also wish to be married, but so far there is no one, and no circumstance to do so. I pretty much feel alone. I hope i'm not annoying anyone with this, but I believe if you need help, ask for it. Sitting arround and pitying ones self is not the answer.
What are some dua's and prayers I can do?
I haven't had any signs from my isthikhara prayers and i'm worried maybe I have done something wrong.
Can you please give me some tips and advice?
( even if you are not Muslim)
Thank You
2007-08-18 13:54:12 · 48 answers · asked by ۩MoonLit Muslima۩ 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Krishna-- My father passed away a year ago along with my mother. But thanks for your kind words.
2007-08-18 14:10:59 · update #1
Asalamualaikum dear sister moonlit,
reading this, it's like I'm reading about my own life! I know just what you mean when you're saying that Islam is the only clear thing in life and everything else seems like a big blurr. Over the last 3 years in particular, many things have changed in my life and at this moment in time I am feeling very stuck. I too, have the feeling that things will remain the same. I don't want to go into further details here, I will email you and InshaAllah I will keep you in my prayers. Please look out for my email.
Salaam sis.
2007-08-18 14:19:00 · answer #1 · answered by ¸.•*´`*•.¸ ℓανєη∂єr ¸.•*´`*•.¸ 6 · 8⤊ 1⤋
Sister, i've been reading a lot of your questions and answers, as well as i have been other Muslims, but you do stick out. May Allah reward you for your good deeds, and Allah said Himself there will be obstacles in this life and you are going through them right now as i have felt while reading your question.
My story...I converted to Islam at the age of 15 - roughly 5 years ago and have been practicing Islam since then. I lead a social life i was content with at the time, but went downhill when i enrolled in college and living off the university, life for me has become increasingly lonely, not to mention a weak Islamic community where I live as opposed to where I used to live when i went to Highschool.
I wish to move out and develop a more Islamic oriented life in a strong Islamic community in the U.S. - preferably Dearborn, Michigan.
Bear in mind that even though you may have been practicing Islam longer than me, Allah will reward those who are patient and hold steadfast to the religion of God, during which then there will be no regret nor sorrow for that which you've accompolished in this life. The life in the hereafter is for all eternity, and this life is as just a temporary stay, it's the likeness of being homeless and opening the doors to a home behind which locked doors will open and reveal a permanent paradise for you to dwell
Life is like a bridge that is sure to crumble, do not build on top of it, but rather cross it and enter praradise and don't be of those who fall into the pit of everlasting fire...
May Allah's peace and blessings be upon you
2007-08-18 20:15:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Asalam alikom moonlit,
Just be patient hun, Allah tells us in the Quran that this life is a test for the believers and from time to time it will be difficult. The outcome is the important thing and we are not to worry about the discomforts of this life, rather look forward to the Next Life.
Do people think that they will be left alone because they say: "We believe," and will not be tested.
And We indeed tested those who were before them. And Allah will certainly make (it) known (the truth of) those who are true, and will certainly make (it) known (the falsehood of) those who are liars, (although Allah knows all that before putting them to test).
[Surah Al Ankabut 29:2-3]
Or think you that you will enter Paradise without such (trials) as came to those who passed away before you? They were afflicted with severe poverty and ailments and were so shaken that even the Messenger and those who believed along with him said, "When (will come) the Help of Allah?" Yes! Certainly, the Help of Allah is near!
[Surah Baqarah 2:214]
Our beloved prophet, Muhammad, peace be upon him, told us that this whole material life (hayatu dunyah) is nothing more than a prison to the true believers and for the non-believers it is their paradise.
Allah will test your faith throughout your life. Be prepared to be tested, be patient when tested, and remember that our fortunes in this life are cyclic and take life to be a roller coaster; the fact that you are the bottom today also means that you are already on your way up.
Make Duaa and seeking refuge in Allah, check:
http://www.duas.org/
Everything will be fine soon inshallah,
Salam
2007-08-19 00:11:09 · answer #3 · answered by Nourhan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a Muslim but I love how you are such a sincere person. That matters more to Allah or God and you than anything else. Things have changed a lot since the time of Jesus and Mohammed. There are many different sects of Christians and Muslims and they disagree with each other.
See article on site below which is about you and you finding what you want in life. WHAT IS THAT? People have told you that you want blessings from Allah but ever since you were a baby you wanted love, inner peace and happiness.
2007-08-18 14:07:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I do believe it was Helen Keller that said(paraphrasing)"we spend so much time dwelling on the closed doors of our past that we dont notice when a door opens up right in a front of us."
Until the person you are meant to marry enters your life you could busy yourself with volunteer work or something similar to fill your lonely moments. Islam properly practiced teaches us patience patience and more patience....you sound like you have plenty of it....but it also looks like you will need even more...nothing happens in our lives until its meant to happen....do what you can from your side to live your life as best you can...and the rest is really out of your hands so why worry about things you cant change? Good luck.
2007-08-19 00:33:19 · answer #5 · answered by coolred38 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As-Salamu Alaykum Wa-Rahmatullah!
I felt like that at one point in my life and I am happy to say that my trust, patience and Faith in the Almighy keeps me strong, and I know he will give me anwsers (and anwsers to my prayers) in time and he has a plan for me that will come into play at the right time!...............Ameen!
An attitude of gratittude will take you a long way in life! So HAVE FAITH!
You should be fully conscious of the bounties Allah has set out for all his creations. The belief that he continues to shower His Mercy,Compassion and blessings on all His Humble servants! Have Patience because all I can tell you is you are being tested, so hang in there and be strong your Reward will come soon! So STAY STRONG IN FAITH!
Let worry & Fear go because it is a creation from the evil one.....Fear is always about loss and it only arises when there could be a conflict between what you want & what you feel might happen! STAY STRONG IN FAITH!
"You can't change the Past,but you ruin the present by worrying over the future".
If you feel your heart with regrets of yesterday and the worries of tomorrow, you have no today to be thankful for?
Allah know well of what you want and he will bless you in time so be patient and continue to HAVE FAITH!
GOD BLESS YOU ALWAYS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-08-18 21:01:50 · answer #6 · answered by LeeLee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ramadan is near :D
you should take advantage of this holy month and pray and say dua a lot! especially before dawn! Also here are some of the best times to say Dua:
1.After Athan"Azan"
2.During your prayer "salat" especially in "sojood"
3.when breaking your fast
4. before dawn
The prophet (pbuh) has recommended these timings as the best for Dua!
You also should be very patient and always thank Allah Almighty even if you have a problem!
Also I will email you a list of good Dua !
Peace :)
2007-08-18 20:18:26 · answer #7 · answered by Dalzz 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am not a Muslim but I can empathize with your sadness. Try to avoid all negative thoughts as much as you can, especially that of self-pity which can be debilitating for anyone, but do continue with your prayers. I know what it feels like to lose one's loved ones and I believe that you are still grieving for your loss.
Do not be too concerned that you have not received any signs from your prayers yet, nor should you think of blaming yourself for any wrongdoing that you are not even guilty of. Answers to prayers do take time, provided you continue to persevere in your efforts.
You seem to be a sincere and honest person, and --with such a lovely face such as yours-- I am certain that you will meet and choose your Prince Charming one day soon. Perhaps it is not the right time for that to happen yet, so consider that to be one of the signs given to you now.
Remain strong and fervent in your prayers, and I wish you all the best.
Peace be with you!
2007-08-18 14:44:34 · answer #8 · answered by Arf Bee 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Many times problems result because we do not see the whole landscape of what is causing distance in our lives. Think of the obstacle treat it with love and intelligence... if it persists and you have done everything as well as a human could have... then know the problem is outside of u; in this case do all that u must to remedy what is unacceptable. Some things remember are not in our powere to fix; in these times we must move on to new challenges and additional interests.
2007-08-18 16:21:58 · answer #9 · answered by Donna Le Oiseau de Feu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Moonlit, I'm so sorry you're feeling this way right now. Pangel is right - it will pass sooner or later, and we have all been there. Here's a hug for you ((((Moonlit)))), and I will say a prayer for you too. My tip and advice would have been to reach out to others so you could be nicely surprised at how many people will reach back in love - and you've done that already. You're on the right track.
2007-08-18 14:44:32 · answer #10 · answered by Marvelissa VT 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋