A coworker of mine was asking about my relationship status via another coworker. This female coworker I barely knew approached me and asked me point blank if I had a boyfriend.
I responded yes I do, and asked why. She just said someone wanted to know and walked away. I'm pretty sure of who it was that wanted to know, he was the only male there that day and the two of them had been working together that day. I don't know him that well or talk to him very often, but there are a few other indications that he is interested, which I won't go into now, but I'm 99% sure it's him.
He's acted kind of strange since this happened and I don't know how to handle the situation exactly. The female coworker is gone (she only worked there a week and I never saw her again) so I can't ask her about it. I'm just curious, do you think he was really interested or do guys just ask about any girl they find attractive?
2007-08-18 13:42:49 · 8 answers · asked by melissa 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And no, I don't think it was the female coworker who was interested, cuz I know someone will say that, lol.
2007-08-18 13:44:27 · update #1
I do have a little crush on him, but I'm crazy about my boyfriend and would never cheat on him.
2007-08-18 13:58:20 · update #2
I find it easy and helpful to be truthful all the time because nobody can force you to do whatever you don't want to do. "You have to be under your own shadow".
However, since you know WHO sent her and I am pretty sure that you are attracted to this guy "if it is the eye contact guy" you are talking about ; then once you meet the guy during break time or anytime when you have at least 30 free mins tell him
"You should have come to ask yourself to make it easier for you"
and without doubt this will be the beginning of another chat because he might pretend as if he doesn't know what you're talking about.
If this is another guy and if you are not interested then of course he's interested in you and he wanted to know if you have a boyfriend as you say it.
Hold on a sec you already have a boyfriend and you're asking this question.
I just saw your additional details and this is really disturbing and I would say that you're unstable. Sorry to say that! But I've been reading your questions and answer what I have to. And now this is the situation in you are?! You have to be careful if you want a successful future with your spouse otherwise you will end up like hollywood celebrities. Billions of marriages for each that's stupid!
2007-08-18 14:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by chrizere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a line in one of Shakespeare plays that goes something like this:"methinks the lady doth protest too much". For some reason I thought of this line as I read your piece.Anyway, the answer to your question is most likely yes; he was interested but apparently lost that interest when he found out you were not single.As you indicated, he started acting "strange"since that day, a clear indication of disappointment and maybe frustration.Guys ,sometimes try to find out some information about a girl they find attractive before making their move in order to improve the odds in their favor.I suggest though that you stay clear of him since you state an interest in him that you also claim you can not pursue because you have a boyfriend you intend not to cheat on.If you encourage him in any way, shape or form,what would be the point----you will only be leading him on or may even succumb to temptation.Don,t laugh!Many people have been seduced who thought it would never happen to them. Don't start something you can not or will not finish.Stick with your boyfriend and don't tempt fate.I wish you the best.
2007-08-18 21:25:21 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have probably pegged the right guy, and I would say that, yes, he was really interested. If he's acting strange now, he may just be embarrassed. The only way to handle it is to forget about it. It would be a mistake to bring it up in an attempt to make him feel better. This would only embarrass him further. I think you need to ask yourself, though, if YOU are interested in HIM. Your curiosity about his interest in you suggests that you might be. Having a boyfriend does not prevent us from being attracted to other people, so it's okay. Just be careful not to let flirting get out of hand or to give him any mixed signals (unless, of course, you are ready to break up with your BF and go out with your coworker). This kind of thing can get you labelled a "tease" by your male coworkers.
2007-08-18 20:54:23 · answer #3 · answered by roknrolr63 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's great to know someone likes you. Or just finds you attractive. Are you looking to cheat on your boyfriend?
Just treat him like you did before. That will make him more comfortable and you'll go on as before. Don't be a tease.
2007-08-18 20:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by P S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is/was interested. His change in behavior was a reflection of the disappointment he was feeling in hearing that you were unavailable
2007-08-18 20:50:49 · answer #5 · answered by STPabroad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her no and post pictures of you two ladies making out on line
2007-08-18 20:46:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont date where you work!yea some guys are like that
2007-08-18 20:47:48 · answer #7 · answered by ldhotlipps 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he was obviously attracted to you but hes a ***** for not asking you himself.
2007-08-18 20:47:42 · answer #8 · answered by thizz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋