I have been divorced for 3 1/2 years and made a clean break from my ex husband and his friends. I recentley ran into one of his best friends, and I realized how much I liked him. He has no idea, and might never ask me out...but if he did...would that be ok?
2007-08-18 12:47:48 · 31 answers · asked by Ginger B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's probably not a good idea...
2007-08-18 12:51:14 · answer #1 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't trust him if he asked you out. It might be a set up by your ex husband trying to still hurt you. Divorce is not a nice thing, and exes have a way of having bad feelings that last for long long times, so I would stay clear of this guy. Also if he was you ex husband's best friend, they are probably a lot alike, and you couldn't make a go of it with your husband, so you wouldn't be able to do it with his best friend either. Then he would tell your ex what a loser you were too.
Don't set yourself up - there are plenty of men out there - don't mess around with him at all! No matter what!
2007-08-18 12:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by postalbb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guess depends on if you respect your ex-husband or not. I would think if he is your ex-spouses friend, he would not go there in the first place. Friends should value friendship. Girlfriends and boyfriends come and go, but true friendships are forever. I believe if a person feels they need to ask the question, then the question was answered before asking. Put yourself in the others place. Take a good look at how you would feel. If your ok with on the reverse, then you may feel ok with it. I personally would not want to go out with another individual who would consider it. Does not show much integrity on either side. But only personal opinion. Good luck!
2007-08-18 13:10:27 · answer #3 · answered by Shay Morgan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do everyone a favor, yes it might feel wonderful to have this touch of a familiar time, but it would be really a poor choice to put this friend of your ex in that position.
Keep moving forward and don't dance in the ashes; you know its not a good idea or you wouldn't have asked.
The other thing, if you are doing this to mess with your ex it is REALLY tacky and beneath you.
How would you like your ex to be with your best friend and living happily ever after? Some mud-holes you just don't jump in.
2007-08-18 12:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by OPTIMIST 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you made a "clean break", then it would likely be an unwise choice to start seeing one of his friends. The man has probably heard every story your ex has had to tell about you, and may also have some preconceived notions, so don't expect him to even ask you, and for your own sake, especially if they are still close friends, don't encourage it. Walk away now.
2007-08-18 12:55:51 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshine71 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
are he and your ex still best friends? If so, how would you feel about everything you and this guy do getting back to your ex? That's a real possibility, IF he ever asks you out - chances are he knows all the history between you and your ex...I'm dizzy already! Move on, start over with someone new and completely unconnected to your past.
2007-08-18 12:53:09 · answer #6 · answered by woodlands127 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you're very attracted to him, but you would ruin the friendship between your ex-husband and his bestfriend. I highly doubt that he would ask you out, knowing that you're the ex-wife of his closest friend. Dating the ex of someone close to you is never a good idea to begin with. It happens, but it comes with a lot of drama/unwanted stress.
2007-08-18 12:52:19 · answer #7 · answered by mimi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
3.5 years is not totally off limits. A little awkward, yes, but not taboo. Are they still close friends? Keep in mind that this guy may know a lot about you through the ex. Not to mention that guys (and gals) can be competitive in some underhanded ways. My feeling is go on a date (if it comes to that) but take it VERY slow and be a bit on guard. Do not discuss your old connection to one another and treat it as a first encounter.
2007-08-18 12:57:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
let me ask you a question, how would you feel if your ex hooked up with your best friend. do not go there, thats just trouble for everyone. find a guy outside of the box here.
2007-08-18 12:52:14 · answer #9 · answered by yowuzup 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes why not? its only natural hat you come across to meet the persons you have the most commen with so this bloke has got ''it'' so go for it! theres so many people being polite doing the ''right''thing take some risk or you never get it or regret what you didn't do at the end of the day you only live once so make and take the best of it! good luck for you XX
2007-08-18 12:56:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like you're trying to cook a bit too close to the fire...unless the ex don't hang with this guy no more :-)
2007-08-18 12:53:19 · answer #11 · answered by Toshiro O 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋