Does she think he's Daddy? We have a prob....?
My bf is the god child of his neice and he watches her quite often..they live right next door... His brother doesnt interact wiht the baby as much as my bf does and the bf seems to respond better to my bf.. Him and I are worried she might think he's her Daddy not his brother.... any advice? We know if she calls my bf daddy there will be probs and we want to avoid that....but looks at her like our kids look at him
2007-08-18 12:44:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
He's needed to babysit and stuff what's he supposed to say..sorry you'llhave to find another babysitter or wuit your jon an dlose your house?
2007-08-18 13:00:28 · update #1
Your bf's neice needs to know right off that he is not her father. Telling her is one thing, but depending on her age, she will not be able to process what you're trying to convey to her. She needs to be shown that your bf's brother is her father. He needs to interact with her more, and be her main disiplinarian. It seems that she is quite young - you referred to her as a baby - so keep in mind that children's pereceptions of what is truly real evolves as they get older. So her slight misconception now of who her father is will probably only be temporary. Just keep referring to your bf's brother as "daddy" as often as possible and that may help ground the concept into her mind. Small children will grasp onto the one adult that pays the most attention to them, and that is not a bad thing. It just needs to be constantly reiterrated that, while your bf is a part of her family, her father is the main caregiver.
It's a good concern to have, but if she's fairly young, I'm certain she will grow out of it.
Best of luck to you
2007-08-18 13:03:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anybody can be a father.It takes a lot of time and love to be a daddy.It would be foolish to stop showing affection to your own blood.Every child in his own mind is king or queen of his or her own castle.Keep showing the love.If the child tells your bf daddy in front of the child's father.He would then realize he is not spending or paying enough attention to his own child.I have a 6 year old girl and a 4 year boy.I work like a dog.I'm only home once a week all day with them.In my presence they have never called anyone daddy but me.All day I remind them that I love them and praise them for everything they do.I accept them for who they are.Only people that show unconditional love in this world are children and god.Other people will only love you if,if, if:you"re prettier, bigger , smarter,stronger,more perfect.Only a child sees you with eyes of innocence and accepts and loves you as you are.Showing love should never be something to be worried about ,ashamed of,or feeling guilty about it.God sends angels to watch us in form of people.
2007-08-18 22:46:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying with age she'll work out where everybody fits in her family. Anyway its good for kids to have positive male/female role models and it sounds like you've got that down pat. Enjoy your gorgeous niece and relax.
2007-08-18 21:13:15 · answer #3 · answered by gypsy pirate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may very well see him as Daddy but soon she will be old enough to know the difference.
2007-08-18 20:02:11 · answer #4 · answered by Steven C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is she? She needs to be told the truth from day 1 she will understand when she gets older no lies to explain.********
2007-08-18 21:16:32 · answer #5 · answered by fayem7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be sure in your interactions that you make that line very bright and distinct so the child picks up on it......
2007-08-18 19:51:43 · answer #6 · answered by I Can Count To Potato 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he should not see her so much. and u should tell her right now that he is not her dad
2007-08-18 19:51:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋