Started Wetting The Bed Again After All These Years, Why?

Question

I had a bedwetting problem up until about age 9. Now Im 34.
I have had some very stressful events in my life in the recent past.
Death of a close family member, Divorce, and other things that are overwhelming to me.
So I can somewhat see why I'm having this problem.
But also, many others have dealt with the same or worse and not had a childhood problem reoccur just because of stress.
So has anyone else had this happen to them, and how did you deal with it if you did?

Answer 1

AFTER checking with your Doc' regards to a possible medical reason try this:

You are surrounded by stressors on all sides. That makes you have to keep-it-together at all times and in all situations. So where is the safest, comfortablist, least stressed place in your world right now? Exactly, your bed.

It is not a shameful thing to do. It is simply the safest according to your survival instinct.

Along with not drinking after a couple of hours before bed and using the toilet just before bed, try this:

Two things; First expand that "Safe Haven" (bed) thinking and establish another safe haven. Somewhere you can also fully relax and let go. A quiet, green place or a nice coffee shop perhaps.
Make a new habit of treating yourself to a let-go time daily where you can unwind and do all your mental filing from being stressed.

Second thing is to gradually work on reducing your stress onslaughts. Aim for closure on unfinished items. The bereavement naturally takes time to heal but more minor things can have a suprising amount of shrinkage done to them merely by giving yourself verbalised credit for what you have managed so far.

That way your progress thus far is acknowledged, good for self esteem, plus it shrinks the mental chatter you subject yourself to about that particular issue, i.e. divorce - There give yourself a minute in your new safe-haven to tick off all the things you survived, all the times you achieved what you said you were doing to do, all the let-downs you struggled through successfully.

Smile to yourself as you recite out-loud to yourself what you have done. You will be shocked as to quite how damn good you are.

When you have enabled yourself a litttle spare by reducing the surrounding stressors, pick a certain issue of stress and put all your new power into fixing it up.
If it is a person at work who is a f***ck wit, take them to one side so as not to put them on show and tell them how it is. No more.

As this process is positively cyclic: like the opposite of a vicious circle. A word of friendly warning: you will start to have so much verve that you will have to deliberatelty take control of your approach to things as you become so full on.

By wetting the bed you have proved to yourself on your deepest operational level that you intend to survive whatever comes your way and also take charge of what you need.
Good on you.

Answer 2

Just make sure he goes to the bathroom before going to bed and doesn't eat or drink anything at least an hour before going to bed. You can also buy those "Good Nights" bed wetting pull-ups until he stops. This is most likely just a stage that he will grow out of eventually. Hope I helped :-)

Answer 3

I'm not a doctor and I'm not practicing without a license.
But your physical problem could be a factor of two things. You could have developed a bladder infection or some form of kidney infection. Best to get checked by a real doc. Or you could be unconsciously suffering the effects of depression where you do not want to waken to the realities of life and want to stay in the comfort of the dream world where nothing hurts. But you're still young and problems resolved make you stronger. Be a little British, keep your chin up.

Answer 4

Go to Drleonards.com or the like and get some waterproof matress pads, then put this aside as a non-problem (just an inconvenience) until you have a handle on the other events, at which time the wetting will probably stop.

Answer 5

I'm not a bedwetter, but I can understand your theory about stress causing recurrence of a childhood problem.

If stress is actually the problem, you can try the usual stressbusters, like exercise, meditation, etc. Or you can see a psychiatrist. I think you'll get better results with the dr.

TX Mom
not a dr.

Answer 6

Did it just start with these events or have you had some other problems with it. Are you taking any medications? This problem may or may not be from a childhood problem. It sounds like you could be a heavy sleeper and if you are taking something to make you sleep it could effect this problem.

Answer 7

See the doctor for an exam. If it's not health related, see a therapist.

Answer 8

Dont drink a twelve pack of beer before bed.