My children are all grown up and I live with my husband and my mother. My son stays with us sometimes. I feel like as long as they need me I am okay but if they don't need me I am invisible.
2007-08-18 11:29:31 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i think we sometimes blame the children, but, if we really look at the big picture, we realize that we like being there doing things for them, makes you feel important and loved; and, then when they don't need us, we feel slighted - like where did all the love go. we have to learn balance - love them for what they are, accept that there will be times when they need us and times when they just want to be on their own. have to respect their wishes, get on with your own life, and be content that things are going well in their life. they love us, it's just they are beginning their lives and they are caught up in their world. and, really, that is not such a bad thing. you should be proud that they are making their way for their future. it's not that they don't care, but, rather you have been their rock and now they are mature enough to take care of themselves.
2007-08-18 15:58:13 · answer #1 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your a mom and a wife i think we all feel that way. its a i only world any more. i feel the same most of the time. but just remember hopefully when you really need them they will be there for you too. and you could always tell your grown kids to do it them selves and then make them do it. and go do something special just for you. have a spa day or go shopping and just buy for you no one else. take a cruise just you and your husband and let all the employee's wait on your every need. have fun!!
2007-08-18 19:12:44 · answer #2 · answered by brianswife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi.. you've probably spent your entire life taking care of others... giving til you are blue in the face... that is the role of most mothers out there.
perhaps you might consider taking up a hobby ? something that gets you active, involved with others and out of the house. you're probably not to old to join the gym, take a class, get involved in a woman's group of some kind... do something for YOU
Pamper yourself. YOU DESERVE IT !!!
hugs
2007-08-18 19:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i no how you feel kids make you feel unwanted as long as u
do for the it is ok,some of your friends will do u the same way
2007-08-18 18:37:13 · answer #4 · answered by goodwitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋