why do i treat boys this way? please be nice!!!?

Question

im 17 and have had two boyfriends, the first one lasted 4 months and he got me into a lot of trouble, as he lived on the other side of the law, last year january i got with another boy and broke up in september but me and him are still really good friends, after this any other boy that i meet i always act cold towards them, as if they don't matter, then i try my hardest to drift from them after a couple of weeks, i can feel myself doing it but i cant seem to stop, at first i thought it was because i didnt really fancy them but this boy im going out with now, is really nice to me, he's sweet, intelligent, funny, understanding, and knows where he's going in life, i really care for him and don't want to lose him but every time i'm around him i cant stop myself from acting closed, he wants to take our relationship to the next level and i don't know why as i have been so cold to him lately, i wish i could tell him how i really feel, and deep down i know he knows but i cant help but be cold

Answer 1

You are terrified of getting in too deep. Somehow, you got yourself hurt badly and your defences are up (and how). If this current bf is as nice as you say, you should explain how you feel. For your own benefit, you need to recognise and pinpoint the source of your anxiety. Remember that no matter what, we all hurt, but closing yourself off is never worth it.

Answer 2

okay, well im going to be straight honest on u, this might bring back some memories, but the source of ur problem is ur first ex boyfriend. because of his ways of living the way he wants to, he kinda put a shield around u. it seems like u are attracted to the bad guys. since he got u into alot of trouble, it makes u feel like u hate every guy who wants to be a friend or more . it seems like u want to get rid of this problem. the only way that i can think of with a gurantee answer is when u see a guy or if ur in a relationship, ur boyfriend, ask urself why u are acting "cold" to them. then try to break through that shield by saying nice things to the guy or offer him something like a date or something. i hope this helps

Answer 3

You need a rest from 'boys', this is why you're acting all cold like this, even with one you think is nice. Your instincts are only trying to tell you this!

So make friends with this nice new boy, if you haven't already, but make it clear that this is where you want to be now.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Maybe you just don't like the nice boy types. You don't say much about your relationship with your father, but maybe that is what causes you to reject men.

Answer 6

That's because you are only 17, a baba really. When you grow up you will more sure about what you want.

Answer 7

Maybe you just haven't met the right guy yet. Don't worry. When you do, trust me you'll know.

Answer 8

its just that you havent found the one u'll feel for yet! just give it some time and you will see that you will be 'warm ' with the right person!

Answer 9

grow up and stop being high maintenance.......if you cared about him you'd change your behaviour........love is about putting the other person before you

Answer 10

with time comes maturity and the best decisions

give it time and it will unfold