That their parents/aunts, uncles/grandparents won't let them do dangerous stuff because they care about their child and don't want them to get hurt? They only hate them for saving their life?
Or when a 6yr old girl says it's her mom's fault that she doesn't have a job. Her mom told her that "well I guess it is my fault that I'd rather stay here with you if I don't have someone I can trust to watch you." The girl just rolled her eyes.
Why don't they understand that? Not even teenagers understand this. lol
2007-08-18 10:16:24 · 14 answers · asked by earth_dragonai 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Kids will be kids, they didn't come with directions!
I remember my mum telling me not to climb an 8 foot high skip when i was 7, i climbed it anyway, and got stuck - 5 times!
That's kids, they don't understand, how can you expect them to, they haven't lived that long.
I have a 3y/o and 18m/o and yes, sometimes i do get mad at them for not listening or getting the fact they can get hurt, but hell, i was that way, i'm sure at some point as a toddler, child you were that way, it's how we learn!
As far as eye rolling and bad mouthing/back chat, my girls wouldn't dare because if there is one thing they do understand in our home, it's discipline and kindness.
I don't show my kids meaness and rudeness, so i don't expect it back!
2007-08-18 13:44:02 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of it is because children are exactly that...children! They do not have the life experience or understanding to realize that their parents are right. Kids are minors for a reason! They do not have the intallect or capacity to know how to deal with the everyday problems in life in a mature manner. That's what parents are for, to help guide them! Now here's the problem that leads to the second part...
Parents today are not like parents 50 years ago! Today's parents are often kids themselves, brought up in an era where respect for authority and self-discipline, went out the window.
Take a look around! People today do whatever the heck they want, with no regard for authority or their neighbors! They cut others off in traffic, commit road rage, park in handicapt spots and double-park in downtown areas. They steal from their employers, argue with cops, teachers, bosses, everything! It's a damn free-for-all out there! And, kids pick up on this! They watch their parents act like this, and they think it's okay, so they grow up and allow their kids to do the same. Even educated, respectful parents today are doing a disservice to their kids by giving in to every whim the kid has, because the parents feel guilty that they are working and not spending time with the kids.
Kids today have very few good role models to help them! They are being torn in many different dirrections, often leading them into trouble. And it is mainly because they do not know, and are not allowed to cope with dissapointment! When I was a kid, I got .50 cents a week for allowance. That was it! If I wanted more, I had to work for it! Today, parents peel of $20.00 dollar bills for their kids like it's going out of style! Everytime a kid wants a video game or to go to the movies, or whatever, they get it! Parent's can not say no to their kids anymore! The thing is, is that kids don't appreciate any of this. They take it for granted, and become even more disrespectful towards their parents and other authority figures, because they are given too much! I see kids in shopping malls causing all kinds of problems, yelling, making a mess, rolling on the floor, etc. and the parents do NOTHING! When I was a kid my dad would have kicked my a$s for acting like that in public! Today, parents can't even give their kids a slap, because it's not politically correct! That's why kids roll their eyes, and rebel against their parents. It's because many kids are simply not growing up with proper parrenting!
2007-08-18 22:45:42 · answer #2 · answered by sportguy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you understand before you had children? I have learned that as part of parenting I must be willing for my children to hate me because I dont agree with them or vise-versa. It is my job to raise them and no one ever told me that it was going to be fun or easy. As my children have gotten older they do have respect and love for me even though I heard more times then I can count that they didnt.
When they have children of their own they will have a completely different outlook on how they were raised and the responsibility that comes along .
Stay strong and the payoff will be all the reward you need. ( It just takes a LONG time for it to come back to you)
2007-08-18 20:34:07 · answer #3 · answered by mzduncan1999 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A six yr. old is ALLOWED to talk like that to HER Mother???? More problems here than her not understanding. Kids don't understand because they don't have fully developed brains nor do they have the experience and foresight that adults do. WE DON"T HAVE TO EXPLAIN OURSELVES TO OUR CHILDREN. If we do, it's a bonus, but just like how much money we make, kids don't need to know everything in our lives and they shouldn't be rolling their eyes at their parents no matter how old they are!
2007-08-18 17:24:32 · answer #4 · answered by Sandra 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reason smaller children do it is because they dont realize how much parents care about them. But teenagers, teenagers are completly different.Teenagers sometimes do this because they think your being over protective.And some also may get a little embarrased because of this.
2007-08-18 17:24:41 · answer #5 · answered by Matt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of the growing process is learning to empathize.
A little child is the most selfish creature on earth.
They have to be, in order to survive, they cannot do anything.
It takes all of their teen-age years to develop some empathy.
Some late bloomers don't even get it then.
2007-08-18 17:24:17 · answer #6 · answered by Robert S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people can't see the forest for the trees, so this surprises you how? For some reason kids don't think their parents are right OR in charge.
2007-08-18 17:49:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anniekd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we teenagers do understand! well, the smart ones that is. but still, there are kids out there that understand that maybe that fish stick cup isnt the smartest idea when the seagulls just attacked the last kid, it just takes a bit more explaining.
2007-08-18 17:22:42 · answer #8 · answered by Sabrina Devareoux 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the parents should be "parents".My kids would never smart-mouth or roll their eyes at me.And no,Ive never slapped them or beat them.We gave our kids guidelines to follow and they knew their limits.I think kids respect their parents more if they are given guidelines to follow.
2007-08-18 17:33:33 · answer #9 · answered by iron maiden77 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to remember when you were a child, how much did you understand, that conversation sounds like one with two 6 yr olds not one
2007-08-18 17:33:38 · answer #10 · answered by melissa s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋