My problem in America?

Question

I came to America 3 years ago to study, hopefully next year I'll graduate and go back to my country..

My problem is I'm constantly bored, sad, worried and feeling lonely.. I'm perfectly aware that there are many nice places around me, wher I could hang out and meet new people but I can't (or I don't want to, I don't know) because I doubt my English speaking skills. I don't believe I'm happy or pretty or successfull anymore (even though my performance in classes is very good)

I met a guy in my country last year and we were going to have a long distance relationship for a while until I go back to my country.. He gave up on me and he lied when breaking up saying that he he had financial problems.. I wentfor a surprise visit and found out he had a fiance (so he broke up with me because he met someone else) and ever since I'm feeling this way... It's been a while.. I'm afraid to approach people here.. some guys asked me out but I refused because I don't even know why.. BTW I'm 21..

Thanks for the answers I'm still reading them

the person who said I'm here for the free ducation.. huh.. back in my country I could even do grad-school for free. Here I'm paying 7000 dollars per semester and my income is getting taxed.. I am not when of them people..

*one of them people

you guys are so sweet.. Thank you very much for your kindness, you make it hard to choose a best answer

Answer 1

I think that you are letting your imagination run wild and thats why you seem to be afraid and hiding let go....you thought going out with a guy form your own country was safe and obviosly it wasn't .Men can be good and they can be bad their all individuals no matter where their from .Give people a chance

Answer 2

You've experienced a few bad breaks in concert with loneliness and possible culture shock, and this is making you feel somewhat isolated. But your own experience has taught you that even the treasured and familiar evirons back home can betray you...that just seems to be part of the human condition, and as such, you're as at home here as anywhere. I imagine not speaking English well can be a little frightening, but here are a few facts that may help you put this into perspective. (1) Most Americans don't speak English well either (2) There are many people here who likewise don't speak English fluently and in general we find their accents alluring and exotic, (3) You seem like a very intelligent young lady and that transcends a lot of obstacles because intelligence is quite attractive (4) Like a turtle, you're going to make forward progress when you muster the courage to stick your neck out. So, next time a presentable young lad steps to you to ask you out, if you're so inclined, take him up on his offer to go out...maybe you could introduce him to some aspect of your culture. That'll make you feel more "instructive" and less self-conscious. Good luck.

Answer 3

Ya thats a promblem but instead of thinking about a guy that left u because u came to america is not a good a good thing instead go out make friends have fun and live ur life and seatle down and other than that ur english speaking promblems u sound fine to me wit ur proper edication of the use of gramme and spelling jus if ur sooo worried take some english classes and have fun this is life its a rooller caster ride wit happiness and a bit of tears <3 But most of all have fun doing it <3

Answer 4

Oddly you sound like you have the same problems as other people in this country. I to live in a nice town, I am a single mother and from the US but I still don't want to go out much. I could take my kids to the park or go for a walk, but just don't feel like it. We play games talk and hang out. You are young go out some, not just to clubs and parties, go for a walk, meet people in your classes, study with them go see a movie. You will be fine, you had you heart broke like many other people it takes time. Concentrate on your self is good find out what you like, and who you are. Make some female friends. Hope everything works out.

Answer 5

as you have already found out there are some jerks here as well as there are back in your country, just like the person who thinks he knows you by telling you that you are just here for a free ride on the education end of things. but you have got to get to know people and not be afraid to go out with some people and have some fun. it doesnt mean you have to start a serious relationship but some friendships that wont hurt you or anyone else the jerk back in your country doesnt deserve you or he wouldnt of done that to you so move on and make some friends and have some fun until you go home to your country......

Answer 6

I would say the next guy that asks you out, just say yes. It will give you something to do. If you want you can even make out a list of rules for him to follow. Like no groping, no going down dark alleyways, no sex for several dates etc. You make the calls. It isn't good to be alone where you don't know many people. Just meet some people and talk with them. Your english is pretty good, and it can only get better if you talk alot haha. Good luck with your schooling.

Answer 7

It doesn't sound like you are getting America a chance. People are trying to be nice to you and get to know you and you only want something to do with someone in another country? Well of course the dud is going to find someone else. He sees how silly that is.

So I would guess you are just here for the free education that me being an American has to pay for? Nice.

My suggestion go home and pay your own way.

Answer 8

I'm speaking to someone that came to America at 19 years old and is now 25.His English is good but he still has an accent and I cant understand him when he speaks to low.He speaks curio and we chat frequently.I suggest that you move on and go to some clubs or volunteer so that you get to speak with people.How can you learn more English if you are always stuck in the house?

Answer 9

You doubt your english skills? But judging from the way you wrote this, I think you're doing fine. I think you are homesick & heartbroken from what happened. Afraid to get out there but you have to put your best foot foward and make the best of your situation. If people are asking you out, you should go. You don't have to fall in love but it doesn't hurt to make friends and since you are down, it's the perfect time to get out. Join a club at your college but sitting up in your room or isolating yourself isn't the answer. Your problem with America is you won't get out there and explore her..

Answer 10

Especially since you are a female a lot of men may find it sexy that you have an accent. And you are young. You are in the perfect country for things like that we are all immigrants. Sounds like you should give a guy a chance and go out on a date, it's not a commitment, just have fun and enjoy it while you are here.