If a girl is rapped, beaten and never loved by her father?

Question

If she doesn't honer her father, is she breaking Gods commandment.

If yes, how could a loving God want her to be in misery. Could any human not developed resentment.

If no, does that mean that the commandments are not absolute.

Answer 1

What if it was a boy?

Answer 2

I am sorry about you situation. Yes, it is a normal reaction to resent someone who has hurt you. Nevertheless, you can still honor your father. Doing so will not make you miserable because you will be happy that you are obeying God.(Psalm 119:33-40)

If whatever he tells you to do/not do or the advice he gives is in agreement with God's word and you obey, you are honoring your father.

Also, it is within your power to be civil to him. You alone control your tongue and the Bible has much counsel on this subject. Study what it has to say and apply it.(Proverbs 15:1; 25:15; Romans 12:17-21)

Answer 3

God made the commandments; He did not make bad fathers, that is man's doing. I don't know how old you are or how recently you were raped, but you really need to seek professional counseling in order to get past this and accept it as part of your life. A good place to start would be your church or an adult whom you trust. It isn't the commandments or that they are not absolute; it is that they were given to us as guides and we make our own choices how we interpret and live by them; obviously your father is not a man of God or even a decent human being. It is important for you to realize none of this is your fault or that you are to blame in any way. Your father is a very sick, disturbed individual. You cannot be expected to honor such a person.

Answer 4

My God is a loving God and an understanding God.
He made all souls. God gave man FREE WILL-to believe in Him, or not--to have eternal life with Him, or not.
A person who would beat and rape and not love his child is a Godless person with no self-control. God will deal harshly with him.
God would understand why this girl could not honor her father. My God is a forgiving, loving God.
This girl needs some intensive therapy in order for her to understand that none of this was her fault, nor was it God's.

Good luck and may God bless you.
P.S. There is only one unforgivable sin--that is if one would stand before the synagog of Satan and not allow The Holy Spirit to speak through them. That would be unforgivable.

Answer 5

Back during Bible times, when God first carved the Ten Commandments with His finger, none of His people (Israelites) would rape, beat, or never love their daughters. The Commandments were written for the Israelites. Think about law. Are the rules not absolute because they don't cover all time--for example, they don't say, "Five years ago, the rule was this, and in ten years it'll be like this, etc. etc.". Had God written out the Ten Commandments for all time, He would have taken fifty stone tablets to write it all down. He wanted it to be short and sweet and explanatory.

Answer 6

That Commandment was written by Men and at the time of its writing it most definitely meant that she could be beaten by her Father and still have to "honor" him. Religion is all about control and controlling Women is a big part of the Middle Eastern religions ie Christianity, Islam, and judaism. Read the Egyptian book of the dead and you will get a good idea where the 10 commandments came from.



Rottingcherry- uhm you make a bold statement, please back it up with proof. "back in the time that god wrote the 10 commandments with his finger. None of the Israelites would rape, beat, or not love their daughter. WTF? That is one of the silliest things i have ever heard. So the Jews were perfect back then? or?

Answer 7

Do you know (Biblically speaking) how a person honors their father and mother?
By their own life. I would, for example, be dishonoring my parents if I were to be found
out to be a thief or a murderer.
I would dishonor them by making them ashamed of me, plainly said.
A child who is abused by a parent still honors her given-name by her own actions and her own life, not by something she does FOR the father. She does not have to be in contact with the parent, she does not
need to communicate with the parent.
Remember that God tells us the most precious possession we can own is wisdom. Wisdom tells you that its a bad idea to try to force any kind of relationship on the parent, esspecially if he doesn't love the kid anyway.
Wisdom says stay the hell away from the
bastard, doesn't it? Doesn't common sense say the same thing?
Yes, the commandments are absolute, but
as with every single bit of advice from God, ALL THINGS with common sense applied,
and with Wisdom present.

Answer 8

good question, but on the other hand if the girl would honor thy father would she still be in this predicament, depends on if that's just the way the father is, weather you honor him or not but nothing is god's fault. sometimes you just get the bad apple and end up with people who are like that. but it's still no excuse for the father or any one else to be that way. and god's not going to put anymore burden on you than you can handle,.hope that makes sense to you.

Answer 9

God's command is to "honor" your parents because of their position in your life. She should forgive the parent because unforgiveness only hurts the person who is holding the grudge. That doesn't mean that she has to manufacture some artificial affection for an abusive parent. It just means that she should be willing to be polite and to help them if they need help and to not go around speaking ill of her parents to other people unless it's in the context of counseling or a recovery group where the information is held confidential.

Answer 10

How does one honor someone? How does one show respect? How long does one harbor resentment until it becomes a part of them and the original person doesn't do the harm but the victim is harming herself with the inability to forgive causing them to not be able to forgive others even themselves? One can honor one's parents by living a good life. One can respect the otherspositrion without respecting their deeds. One can forgive and be free of the damage the other person has done.

Answer 11

If god didn't want fathers to rape their daughters, why did he not make that one of the commandments? Sounds to me like maybe god forgot a few things in his 'absolute list of laws' right?

Infallible god my eye!