Since 5 years ago, whenever my brother or sister or me make a little mistake we would get yelled at, in a such horrible and insulting way. Such as when I get good grades and then suddenly get a C because I just didn't do well, I get yelled, being told that "I will be come a dirty dog and begger, where people will spit on me and step on me." Or when my brother, who was obviously born to be a bit slow, lost his nano ipod and was yelled at for being "Clumsy and sloppy" and practically the same thing she yells at me. I tried to talk back, but she slaps me which made me think all the time ways to kill my mother. I pray about this but it had never stopped. No one outside our family knew this and it seems after my dad died one year ago it grew worse. Please help on what I should do for me and my siblings!
2007-08-18 09:07:18 · 12 answers · asked by Hoaduy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know I should report this but my mother is also really nice when we do not have any trouble, like allowing us to have fun and games with alot of relatives.. I am just not sure how to handle this without guilt.
2007-08-18 09:24:11 · update #1
Where are you exactly? We have laws against abuse in the US. You can't hit your kids. If she is abusing you, maybe you should consider talking with family to see if they can't intervene on your behalf. Sounds like she's been under a lot of stress and maybe doesn't realize what she is doing. I would seek help from other family. If you can't get them to help,you may need to file a police report. But keep in mind, that could cause more trouble, the break up of your family, so be very very sure you have no alternative before you involved the police.
2007-08-18 09:22:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did she do this before your dad died? If not, she is still grieving and it would do her good to talk to a grievance counselor or at least someone who has gone thru the same thing. What age is she? Maybe she is going thru menapause and needs to get hormone therapy. With both of these it could cause her and everyone around to think she is going crazy..incourage her to see someone..dr, pastor..someone who she can trust and talk to. If none of this works, then I suggest that you and your siblings go stay with a relative until your mom does get some help.
2007-08-23 08:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by akney57 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to get a part-time job and start renting a house or apartment with a few friends. You have to get out of that house before she causes serious emotional harm to you. Which might very well already be the case, but still I'd get out of there ASAP because she sounds incredibly unpleasant to be around. Remember, you are 18, and legally an adult. You have the power to make decisions, and i suggest you use it.
2016-05-22 04:42:16 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are suffering from physical and verbal abuse.. and it is hurting you and your siblings. your mom had anger management issues.. which seemed to have escalated after the death of your father. she may not realize the damage she is doing. but you do need to get another party involved. before she goes tooo far and someone is hurt seriously or you or your brother and sister end up hurting mom. i would call someone... that would understand your position... teacher ,,, priest,,minister...call a help hotline type agency for counseling referrals or advice. police usually do not step in... unless you are harmed,,or feel the threat.,of physical danger. if that is the case than do what you have to do. do not second guess this.
2007-08-26 03:41:25 · answer #4 · answered by foosieboy1953 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! You need to tell someone. Talk to someone in your family like aunt or uncle. Talk to a school conselor. There is no excuse for parent to be abusive to their children. There might be a problem that needs to be assesed by a psyciatrist or someone like that.
The first thing is to let soemone know so you and your siblings could get help and well as your mother!
Best of luck!
2007-08-18 09:20:14 · answer #5 · answered by estrella80_98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You needddddddddddddddd to report thjis right away to a councler of some sort. Do you have any adult you know you can trust, such as neighbor, or parent of a friend? This needs to be addressed right away. This is UNACCEPTABLE behavior on your moms part. Tell someone right now.
2007-08-18 09:12:58 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, maybe that's just her way of disciplining you. I think I'd rather get yelled at then do wall sits for 10 minutes... If you really think that what she is doing is wrong, then talk to her about. If she doesn't listen, try and involve a mediator, like your school counselor. I hope everything turns okay.
2007-08-18 10:21:54 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no, no.
You need to Report this to the Police, miss. And press Charges against your mom for Slapping you across your face.
That is Parental Abuse which is "illegal" in the U.S.
No matter how much you Love your mother,, No Child deserves to be Hit. No Child.
Your mom needs to be taught a lesson by the Law.
*She/He Who HITS Minors, Shall Be Put In Jail.*
2007-08-25 14:01:27 · answer #8 · answered by SteverZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to an aunt or an uncle. because your mom needs some counseling as well as the whole family. your mom is depressed, confused, abusive, hurting, and it all stem from your dad passing. the whole family needs help before someone SNAPS and than there will be more tragedy to the family. talk to an adult that you can trust that will talk to your mom on your and your siblings behalf. until you talk to someone about helping your mom its not going to stop. and it will get worse. GodBless.
2007-08-25 14:16:21 · answer #9 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So many cases of child abuse go unreported because "She's not always like that". You need to talk to you counselor at school. Or a teacher you trust. But talk to an adult who can help you.
2007-08-25 11:10:08 · answer #10 · answered by Jess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋