My girlfriend is disable and got upset and threw a bowl of carrots on the floor. The cops came and put her in jail for dom / vol ! She can't read and hardly knows what's going on in life. From the miss treament of her family keeping her locked up for years! She has now been locked up for 26 days. I have put in all the paper work and talked the state att. and the p/d's. Yet they all say the judge will not let her out! How can this happen is there a law that "a person can not throw food in there home!" they have now put a no contact order on me. Yet I am the only person that understands what she is trying to say since she uses no nouns in her voc. What can i do about these laws that are not right! she has done nothing wrong! And who knows what is going though her mine! At this point...
2007-08-18 07:31:41 · 12 answers · asked by tommoore66 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Anyone can be arrested for anything at anytime. That does not mean someone is guilty of anything. Domestic violence is domestic violence, and EVERY person who commits this crime should be arrested. At the very least, a violent person should be held for psychological observation for up to 72 hours, just to be sure that he or she is not a danger to himself or others.
If the police responded to this disturbance, they are required to take whatever actions are required to defuse the situation. In Florida, once the police have determined that domestic violence could be involved, it is no longer a matter of two people. Only the State Attorney has control of the prosecution, regardless of what the victim states. If necessary, the police will arrest one or both individuals and charges can only be filed or dropped by the State Attorney, even if one or both of the individuals involved wish to drop charges.
P.S. Domestic violence is not just slapping someone around. It is name calling, it is punching a wall or throwing an object because you are saying "this is what I want to do to you", or any other violent words, actions, or restrictions on the freedom of a person to come or go. You don't have leave the scene with broken bones or bruises to be a victim....most victims are scarred mentally from verbal abuse and indirect displays of violence, where it might not show outside of a person.
Just to give you something to think about, the song, "Before He Cheats" by Carrie Underwood, is a song full of domestic violence, about what she wants to do to this person because he cheated on her, instead of just doing the proper thing and leaving the lousy cheater. In fact, it even crosses the line to felonies that include destruction of personal property. Yet, we accept songs like this as normal behavior and wonder why we have domestic violence problems? Either you condone it or refuse to allow it to happen...nothing in between.
People really need to learn what is and is not domestic violence and learn that just because you live with someone does not automatically allow some types of conduct, mental condition or not. When someone becomes violent, its time for a change.
If she has extenuating circumstances, that is up to a judge to determine. She is still innocent until proven guilty.
I would contact organizations that specialize in the treatment of disabled people for legal assistance. Also, maybe try the American Civil Liberties Union to see if they can provide an attorney and if her civil rights were violated.
2007-08-18 07:50:58 · answer #1 · answered by JD_in_FL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry things are so upset and sad right now for all of you. It may be a blessing in disguise that your girl fiend is in the care of authorities, a lot of them are there for all the right reasons and care very much about others.
They are more than likely holding her for further assessment and medical care; can you imagine what a blessing it would be for her to get the care and treatment she has always deserved and the quality of life she could have when she gets through.
Please, hang on and take it as a positive; try to encourage her and help in any way you can. You could maybe even offer to those helping her, that if there is anything you can be doing on your end in assisting her to get through this with the very best outcome, you are there.
Just think how glorious it will be for her if she can get the help she needs with her speech, and other tools she apparently didn't have the luxury of being taught? She will be empowered and new joy will fill her life, she won't feel like a "less than"....none of us can imagine how sad she must have been trying to get through without all the skills that others take for granted.
Keeping good thoughts.
2007-08-18 07:45:32 · answer #2 · answered by OPTIMIST 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I don't understand is? Who called the police in the first place? Handicapped people and others very often throw their food of something in the floor? So WHAT? I've never heard of such a thing. Looks like the police would have just laughed and walked out of the house. If it's her damn house; she should be able to do what ever she wants
Don't you know a lawyer you can call to help her? Looks like if the situation is like you say; the lawyer would do it free.
Can the court appoint a lawyer for her? One that has some sense?
2007-08-18 07:47:19 · answer #3 · answered by Barbra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3/4 of this story is missing here.She might not use nouns but you do not use "whole truths" either.
Who called the police on her? Was it a family member or husband or even her care taker if she has one? Did she throw the bowl in anger? did it hit someone? did it almost hit someone? This certainly sounds like one of the symptoms of domestic violence to me.Someone had to press charges because she was having a fit of rage and in order for her to be arrested there had to be phyiscal proof.
of course you understand your friend more than anyone else.you are both on the same mentality level.handycapps is spelled handicapped!
post the entire story and then seek answers.
2007-08-18 07:42:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
They normally won't send people away just for throwing carrots in their home.. I think there's probably something more to this story.
I'm not really sure what you can do, if you feel that there's some kind of abuse going on, I'd recommend you contact a lawyer, at least for a consultation.. I think most will do it for free and give you some idea of what you can hope for.
2007-08-18 07:38:03 · answer #5 · answered by Daniel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do for her is to get HER an attorney. Don't bother with the state attorney or police. They don't care about people with true mental health issues because so many people who don't have these issues try to claim that they do so they will avoid punishment. Any kind of evidence that you can gather on her behalf would be beneficial (medicines that she takes, doctors that she's seen for her condition, etc.). Get an attorney and tell them the situation and hopefully everything will be resolved.
2007-08-18 07:37:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you are confused or you dont know what is really going on. Obviously you dont go to jail for throwing food-
And if she has all the problems you say she does, she wouldn't be in jail but maybe a mental institution.
I think that you really need to find out what the TRUTH is....
Since you cant know.
2007-08-18 07:38:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to social services and explain to them the law has to have a court order to keep someone in jail and they have to go before a judge to do so
2007-08-18 07:39:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you call the cops in the first place? they cant arrest her for domestic violence unless you press charges on her.
2007-08-18 07:36:52 · answer #9 · answered by melodyy_apathyy 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
why did u get a disabled woman in the first place, and thats a gay law, no throwing food in ur own home, is the government freakin retarded?
2007-08-18 07:36:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋