I've been seeing this guy 4 about a year n a half. He tells me he loves me he wants no one but me n i believe him. But i only see him at his convenience. He never comes 2 me, 1 reason is he's got a suspended licence, but even before then i would always go to him when he wants to see me. I do bcos i want to be with him every chance i get. I realised this is how it well always be. I love him, but i want to leave him bcos i feel like i deserve better. Should i leave him n get over him or just love him n accept the way things are?
2007-08-18 07:14:25 · 13 answers · asked by Kharis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look, if someone really loves you, they would do whatever it took to be with you and spend time with you. He would walk miles or take a cab or bus or get a ride from someone; whatever it took to see you. Up to you if you want to be treated this way, but I don't think what he feels for you is love.
2007-08-18 07:23:38 · answer #1 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do deserve better.
Seems to me he is keeping you at a distance.
My guess is he is married or seeing someone else and doesn't want to lose that other relationship.
You are not in a healthy relationship, you said so yourself because YOU said you feel you deserve better.
The only thing to do at this point is treat yourself better and move on. Don't worry about why he put you at a distance because you may not want to really hear it. If you did, you probably would have investigated it on your own by now and not ask us for help.
So leave. Do yourself some good and find someone else who really wants to be with you.
2007-08-18 07:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should leave, but break it off on a mutual note so the guy doesn't feel dumped. if someone really loves you they'll find a way to come see you. he doesn't seem like hes making the effort, and he only sees you at his convinenece? thats just wrong, its like you're a part time girlfriend or sumthin.
2007-08-18 07:24:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kharis, Sweety you definetly deserve better ! Find a gentleman who treats you like a queen. It is the job of men to wait on their women and to cater to their every need !
2007-08-18 07:22:05 · answer #4 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you even have a bit of doubt that he isnt right for you end it. you dont love him because if you did you wouldnt say he doesnt deserve you. just leave and get over him not that theres much to get over u were never in that deep to begin with.
2007-08-18 07:21:13 · answer #5 · answered by nicole n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say leave.
He has you trained to do all the work in the relationship. You do not want to spend your life with a boy that's like this. You need a man that can be an equal partner with you.
2007-08-18 07:20:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him and do not do the following.
A friend of mine got married for the wrong reasons.
I wish you the best.
2007-08-18 07:19:30 · answer #7 · answered by American Dissenter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, talk to him about it first! have you told him that it bothers you? maybe he doesn't even realize it.
if he clearly doesn't want to make an effort to change the arrangements, even after everything...
2007-08-18 07:21:55 · answer #8 · answered by Rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u feel like leaving leave
2007-08-18 07:20:55 · answer #9 · answered by mizz.wonderwoman09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him and make him get the point!
2007-08-18 07:21:16 · answer #10 · answered by Morgan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋