WELL MY FIANCE HAD TO MOVE TO ANOTHER CITY CAUSE HIS JOB REQUIRED IT BUT I DECIDED TO STAY BEHIND CAUSE OF SCHOOL....WELL NOW HE BARELY ANSWERS MY CALLS AND SOMETIMES HE TELLS ME IT HIS MOM ON THE OTHER LINE AND HANGS UP ON ME I DON'T KNOW WHAT'S GOING IM CONFUSED...I KNOW THERE COULD BE A POSSIBILITY HE'S CHEATING ON ME...I JUST DON'T KNOW :(
2007-08-18 06:09:31 · 34 answers · asked by boricua1231 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Everyone changes with stages in their lives. Maybe he just needs sometime to think things through. Give him some space, doesn't hurt for you to look at the relationship too and where you see yourself in 5 years, etc. Maybe it is over. You'll know it when it happens. Just be happy for what you had while it lasted. And open that new door to the rest of your life. HUGS
2007-08-18 06:13:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say he definetly has someone else on his mind. He may not have actually in a man's deffinition "cheated" on you yet. He probally met a girl, they became just innocent friends at first but they most likely grew closer and now he has fallen for her. This may not be the case, but it most likely is. Talk to him!! Be completely up front and honest. Ask the question even though you may not like the answer. "Is there someone else?" If there is he will tell you, there is enough time and distance between yall now that he will be honest with you. Distance can make or break a relationship. I would follow my fiance anywhere, jobs come and go. It does seem that maybe you weren't as committed as you thought you were too. Move on, or move to him.
2007-08-18 06:28:41 · answer #2 · answered by seth_delina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick a weekend to surprise him & show up... but stay at a motel or something. Don't tell him that. Let's see if he offers up a place for you to stay or if he gets pissed.
When I graduated school & got a job, my (then) exgirlfriend was still in school. All of a sudden, I have money and access to women. It was candyland and my girlfriend was like the onset of diabetes preventing me from having my treats. I think once we sat down & talked, we realized we had different goals.
Don't create scenarios in your head that doesn't exist. Deal with it. One way or another get it handled quickly so that you can move on with or without him... I think I just had an Oprah moment there.
2007-08-18 06:22:45 · answer #3 · answered by Journeyman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never have been able to stay behind if my husband went to another city. It sounds like this wasn't the best time to be engaged for you becasue being a part from your partner defiantely puts a huge strain but it's a good test to see if it is meant to be. He should be missing you, loving you by calling you often, maybe even a surprise visit. I think you already kno what is going on, but talk to him. Let him know that his actions speak louder then words.
2007-08-18 06:22:57 · answer #4 · answered by tammyharrington76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I am so sorry. He obviously doesnt love you as you love him. Cheating is bad but not caring about you and being so insensitive and mean to you is just horrible. It is painful for me to read this about what he is doing. He is trying to get rid of you. Give yourself a good long cry and realize someone was looking after you, it could be so much more painful. You could have married the rotten creep.
2007-08-18 06:21:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Girl.... the best bet is to give him awhile because it could be his mom on the line..but i know where u comein from when u think teh one u love is cheatin on u. Just take it day by day.. and if its just KILLIN u to KNOW the TRUTH do a surprise visit and that will be a win win situation. B/c if he is cheatin u will now know and move on with ur life and if he is not u get to spend time w/ ur man. =]
I hope I help u with ur situation.
2007-08-18 06:18:01 · answer #6 · answered by Shanterra Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if he's cheating and frankly neither do you. I do know you shouldn't have to wonder, though. There are two old axioms which seem to conflict but which (depending on the people involved) both ring true. (1) "Absence makes the heart grow fonder", or (2) "Out of sight, out of mind." The distance between you seems to be bringing to fruition the latter adage in the case of your boyfriend, so it may be wise to prepare yourself for this eventuality and not put too much faith in his continued presence unless or until he demonstrates more reliability.
2007-08-18 06:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if you are already having doubts about if he is cheating on you are not than break it off. Sounds like he isnt that interested anymore. Just sit down and figure out all the pros and the cons about your current and past current relationship with him. You guys should be each others 1st no matter what and it seems like that just isn't happening.
2007-08-18 06:17:03 · answer #8 · answered by serious answers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that by him ignoring your calls shows that he does not wish to speak to you. I know that this sounds harsh but the sooner you realise that he is probably seeing someone else, the sooner you can move on with your life. No use in hanging around someone that just does not have time for you. You deserve better.
2007-08-18 06:17:26 · answer #9 · answered by Ash23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey girl if he was a true fiance he wouldnt have gone without you and wouldnt cheat on you but if he is then he isnt the one for you girl! if he loves you as much as he says he does then he would be with you holding your hands walking down the aisle after saying ''i do''. forget him and go find a new love but if you love so much find him and tell him how you feel and chances are if hes cheating you would find a girl with him when you find him!good luck
2007-08-18 06:17:58 · answer #10 · answered by mysaviorlivesforever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋