he/she always complain about something. and never change.
2007-08-18 05:20:01 · 20 answers · asked by askawow 47 7 in Health ➔ Mental Health
depression is an illness, the depressed person cannot help how they feel or think or act. They need professional help of a psychiatrist. So try to understand, the depressed person isn't behaving in that manner because they want to...they really can't help it.
2007-08-18 05:23:04 · answer #1 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how depressed the person is...and if he or she is trying to help him/her self or not.
Some people are the type that will drain the energy of other people. You probably know them well, they are the type of people that define their identity by how miserable they are. They are the type who do not want to change because they get attention when they complain. They enjoy the attention.
Some other depressed people are not that bad. They are just in a bad place in their life and want to get better and will do what they can to get better. They want to change.
I would be assertive and tell that person that you like them a lot but their behavior of continual complaining is difficult to cope with. That if he or she doesn't change...that the friendship will change.
Honesty is the best policy. No point in suffering because of someone who is miserable and who is trying to make you miserable as well.
Depression is an illness but like any other illnesses, a person can do something to get better. They don't become idiot because they are depressed. There is an element of their personality coming through. A fine line between manipulation and illness.
2007-08-18 12:33:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are many different levels of depression - from feeling a bit down all the way to being clinically depressed. Most of us feel a bit down sometimes. Some people also are constant complainers but it doesn't mean they are depressed, it could just represent a negative outlook on life.
2007-08-18 12:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by aja5505 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think they are unhappy and/or angry. Whether that's due to depression or life experiences is hard to say. Whether they'd benefit more from therapy or medication also is hard to stay. Most likely they'd benefit from both meds and therapy, BUT I wouldn't presume to know that answer.
If they were a close friend, I'd tell them what I perceived and ask what the heck is going on. Depending on the answer, I'd listen and be empathetic, suggest they seek counselling if appropriate, or see their doctor. If they were an acquaintance, I might say what I perceived but would be more apt to steer clear. Telling people they have issues usually is not well received, especially when it's from someone they don't really know. If it was someone at work or similar setting, I'd be polite, friendly, and steer clear.
2007-08-18 12:48:49 · answer #4 · answered by Alex62 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people get something out of complaining.
Usually if someone is continuing in a negative behavior, they are in pain and this is the only way they know how to express it....
12 step programs can be very helpful
2007-08-18 12:23:40 · answer #5 · answered by Wood Smoke ~ Free2Bme! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its hard to say really. they could be acting that way for attentionb or thats just her personality. because she complains all the time doesnt mean shes depressed. im depressed and on meds and i dont complain all the time, not even when im not on my meds.
2007-08-18 12:25:13 · answer #6 · answered by sora_keybladeschosen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are up to it? Stick with your friend if s/he is your friend. If the person is not your friend? Then there really isn't anything you can do because you wouldn't be able to "stand by them" and go through the hell they are experiencing right now. Their "complaints" are real problems to them and have great impact upon their lives and they are in agony. Maybe to drop a word to their good friends might be the best you can offer.
2007-08-18 12:25:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was depressed for 15 years.. it SUCKED becuase I remembered happiness. I am in a great relationship now, for five years, and not a day of depression. I hope it continues!
2007-08-18 12:23:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone with depresson can't controll the way the do things, see, and the way they think. They will not change unless they get som perfencinal help. And you need to be patiant, cause they will not get better over night.
2007-08-18 16:06:08 · answer #9 · answered by Panic! lover 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they are living either too much in the past or too much in the future and constantly dwelling on either triggers massive feelings of anxiety and hopelessness. i beleive in mind over body so if one can teach themselves to think more in the now and be more in the present they can avoid having to be on meds for depression. maybe this is not so in every case but most, i think.
2007-08-18 12:24:02 · answer #10 · answered by kestrelk8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋