Overcoming these fears. I've posted this a few times already, I really want some good answers.?

Question

Okay, so I'm going to be a freshman in HS, I start on Monday.

Since orientation I've been excited, but there are still a few things making me nervous about it. I decided to write down everything in details that I was fearing about the first day. I was hoping it would help me overcome my fears, but now that I have it down on paper, I don't know what to do with it. How would I take those things and fix them before school?

On the list I have written: having a panic attack in the morning or on the way (I do a lot. I think it's because I'm afraid to go to school because I feel trapped like if I needed to leave I couldn't), will be too nervous to eat breakfast, hallways will be hot and crowded with people (if it starts to get hot I freak out because I've been dehydrated and over heated before and it was scary), not knowing what to do with all the books, and eventually having to sing a solo in front of everyone in class in Mixed Chorus.

How do I overcome my fears??

Answer 1

My dear, first and foremost you must conquer and get over your fears. Every thing you do in life will have a consequence good or bad. We can not control what comes and happens naturally; life. Every morning when you get out of bed go over to the mirror and say out loud "I have no fear, there is nothing to fear, God has my back and I'm good like that" while standing strong. Pat yourself on the shoulder and say "have a great day". There will be many things in life that you have no control over or may know nothing about. "Fear" will keep you from learning and being the best that you can be. Say to yourself "I control my own destiny". Things will come naturally and if they don't - don't force it. Relax and enjoy your youth. Don't become involved with gossip, games, pranks or try to fit in. Know that you are not a follower and don't accept disrespect. To overcome your fears you must face them. You must say to yourself that there is nothing to fear. Do you, so to speak, don't worry what others say or think of you because most people and yes, it is human nature to have jealousy and envy, don't like when others have more or are better off than they are. One day at a time and stop worrying. You'll be fine. Peace and blessings. Do well in school.

Answer 2

Ok, so you've written them down. You know what you're working with. Now, make a plan to cope with them.
You feel trapped? How can you ease the feeling? Would taking bathroom breaks help? Give you a few minutes to take a few deep breaths and recenter yourself. Sneak out and have a smoke between classes?
Dehydration and overheating are easily dealt with. Make liberal use of water fountains. Or carry a bottle of water around with you. Don't wear constricting clothing that prevents your body from cooling.
What to do with all the books? Won't you have a locker or a book bag?
You say you will eventually have to sing a solo. It doesn't sound like it's something that will happen soon. So why worry about it now?
If you can make a plan to deal practically with something you fear, it makes facing the fear more manageable.

Answer 3

Your fears sound perfectly normal for a freshman. I was the very same when I was your age. Going into high school is a very new and frightening transition. But you are putting the cart before the horse. In other words, you are projecting what could happen. Set your mind in a positive gear and deal with today. Just go day by day. If you must project, do so positively. Plan your wardrobe, check into all the special clubs the school has, think about joining band, joyfully singing a solo, and/or sports. There is nothing that is going to happen that cannot be fixed. You know, I still dream I cannot find my locker, can't remember the combination, missing important tests, and never receiving my college diploma. I did receive it at the ripe old age of 40. You are in control of you. Be yourself, make friends, get into the swing of things at school! Good Luck - you should do fine!

Answer 4

Writing is definatly what you are good at, you've shown that even here. Its sad when people write unintelligebly, so a good writer does'nt oftne go unnoticed. People still read books! Imagine yourself being published! Being unhappy with the way you look is sometimes a necessary part of life. Some have it harder in some areas than others. You are very good at writing, when others are not so good. I agree with above said, you will have to come to terms with how you look. People naturally want to stare and make fun of those who look different, if for no other reason than because they have a hard time dealing with it in their own minds. Psychology is funny like that. People's reactions to things they can't quite wrap their minds around. It is what it is. I take care of a person that was born with a clef lip and pallet, and he lifts me up so much every time I see him. He always has a smile on his face, and he's ready to help out with whatever. We sing and laugh, and have the best time. I dont quite understand what his motivation in life is, but I know that he has found it at some point. You really need to spend some time with what makes you happy. Laughter is the best medicine.

Answer 5

It sounds like you have a great "excited" attitude about starting school and believe me! EVERYONE is afraid of going to a new building etc. I moved around a whole lot and was terrified of each new school. But maybe? If you could go into the counseling office and find out who your new guidance counselor is? You could meet with them for say five minutes every in between classes you have on the first and second day. That might stop your fears completely. Just someone to listen to those normal anxiety and fears. The thing about making a list is great? Now? How about finding what you would say in response to each fear on a "normal" day when after you have been going for a week or two already to school. You are way ahead of me when I was your age. I don't see you have a problem which needs meds? But maybe writing your anxieties in a journal would help all day too. Like just free flow answers. Anyone of these helpful? I hope so! Good luck! I think like someone suggested these will seem like "normal" reactions in the future? But if not see the social worker at your school too! I'm thinking of you!

Answer 6

I believe the only way to overcome your fears, and I know this from experience, is to face them with prayer and determination. If it doesn't go well on any specific day do not give up just start new the next. If you give up your fears will be worse than they first were. Panic attacks WOW! do I know about them. Still you have to face them to overcome them. It was 13 yrs ago that I had my first panic attack and I almost let things get me down but I finally decided that my kids needed me and I HAD to get better. Some days I still feel a little nervous and afraid but on those days I take it moment to moment and try not to stress and I usually get through the day just fine. Good Luck I am sure you can overcome it.

Answer 7

The only way to overcome your fears is to face them. I know that may sound dumb or you want a easier answer but that is the only way. I suffer from severe social anxiety and my counsler kept telling me to go out anyways. I thought she was crazy and wasn't listening to me when I said I was scared. She told me I should go to the mall and just walk up to the door then turn around and leave, then another day actually walk into the mall and walk maybe to the center then leave, then go back and walk around. It is all about realizing you can't let your fears control your life, and it's not really as bad as it seems. It took me one month but I kept working on my fear of being around people and at the end I was able to go to Applebees restaurant by myself and eat lunch. That was a huge deal for me but I felt so good after I did it. It will get easier your just nervous and after a couple of weeks you should be ok. I understand what your going through and I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 8

That part about singing a solo in front of everyone even scares me. I couldn't handle it no matter how much medication I took. I would simply have to refuse. You should tell your family doctor about your panic attacks and anxiety. They have a lot of modern treatments with medication to help you. It's nothing to be afraid of. Better to take care of the problem now than to let it get out of hand in front of everyone at school. Stand up for yourself. You could turn this around and really enjoy high school. Fear drags us down and takes away our happiness. Good Luck!

Answer 9

That's normal jitteryness. What you about have to do is jump in feet first, so to speak.

You won't be the only one there who is just starting high school, Chelsea. So find a few other freshmen and make friends with them. It won't hurt to get a few upper-classmen on your side either.

Good luck! And congratulations!

Answer 10

i just read your "about me" on your profile. you feel like this, and want others to think the way you do? hmm.

you're a freshman. little fish in a big pond. why are you writing things down? that just makes you stare at them, and worry more. go to school, study, graduate. if you aren't a good singer, why would you worry about a solo? i think that you are only panicking yourself more. either get help or get over it. i don't know how many times you've asked this, but just get over it.