I was answering a question related to a two year old little boy and most of the answers were impatient at least cruel and abusive at the most... I was replying when the poster deleted the question - as a forum for people to ask others where they might not be able to ask at home why do people choose to be so cruel?? Does anybody understand that parenting is a hard job with hard work for years and years and it isn't all pretty babies and flowers???
2007-08-18 01:40:27 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
yes sundea girl it turned horrible!
2007-08-18 01:50:32 · update #1
tattie - this wasn't a parent saying I'm the best - it was a parent asking for help - what on earth is wrong with someone needing help?
2007-08-18 01:51:25 · update #2
jjjjjjj - that's exactly what I'm talking about - you have decided you are able to judge whether or not people are perfect parents - it is only when you have your own children you will understand that perfection isn't possible but trying your best is - and ASKING for help, no matter how silly this might seem to an outsider to a fellow parent is wise beyond words, if i was a dr in training I would speak to other drs to get the best knowledge - we are ALL parents in training and seek the help of other parents.
2007-08-18 01:54:44 · update #3
maryrose - I am glad you find parenting a doddle - it isn't like that for everyone and not everyone knows that routine is the key to having happy kids - would you begrudge saying this in a nice way to someone who was genuinely asking??
2007-08-18 01:57:49 · update #4
jjjjj - I DO appreciate the consequences of good and bad parenting and how difficult it is to maintain an unselfish level of humanity to ensure children are taught that they are the centre of their parents world - I have four children from age 3 months to age 11 and with all due respect all of my looking after siblings, neices, other peoples and friends children prior to me having my own did NOT in any way prepare me for my own children other than having the physical knowledge of how to look after children. I am trained in child psychology and find this judgemental aspect of society unhelpful and degrading to people who genuinely need help. Which therefore perpetuates the inability to ask creating ill prepared young people for the society who will have their children and are afraid to ask for fear of being ridiculed and the cycle continues.
People do ask for honest answers on here - but there is a difference between honesty and cruelty which was the point to my question - why???
2007-08-18 04:42:11 · update #5
I have recieved some of the most cruel answers ever on this site!! People are extreamly cruel on here. Chances are because they are real loosers at home and know they will never meet these people and can act anyway they want. They are probally pushed around at home by parents, spouses, friends and other people and feel "Powerfull" here.
Sometimes if ithey anger me enough I send them an email and tell them how cruel they are and they usually calm down and are very kind with their reply.
2007-08-18 01:46:04 · answer #1 · answered by A little Southern Comfort 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Because for some people it makes them feel better....but i have to say if people ask for an opinion about something and i have strong feelings i tell them....
I personally do not like the judgement that every mother should be married, every teenager that is pregnant is a s&*t,
And personally i dont find parentling hard, i always knew i wanted to be a mother and as long as you have a strong routine and guidelines then its a doddle....my kids have throw tantrums and been little sods at times but its the way the adult reacts that is most important in parentling.
2007-08-18 08:53:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
well iv got a 18 month old son that seems to have hit his terrible twos early so yes it is hard but i totally disagree on people who hit there children i was in asda the other day and this couple had a id say three year old son and he wanted a 10 p sweet and he wasnt aloud it so he started crying n his dad kept counting 2 5 than hittin him so i kicked off and told them there bullies they put there heads down n walked away i think before people have kids they should think about all that comes wiv it......
2007-08-18 08:51:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This forum is open and many people who post on here do not even have children. Those that do can easily pretend as if they are mother of the year.. it's the internet, who would know, right?
It's unfortunate for the mother looking for sound advice. That question was gone before I could even look at it.
2007-08-18 08:51:36 · answer #4 · answered by iampatsajak 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a lot of people open themselves up to cruelty with their questions. i don't know what query you were replying to, but things like "johnny is three years and old won't stop hitting everyone. we put him in time out and try to reason with him., but it isn't working. help! by the way, we refuse to spank him or raise our voices to him" raise people's hackles because we are all envisioning this brat turned loose on the rest of society in fifteen years, still unable to stop hitting everybody because his mom and dad lacked the gumption to do anything about it when he was three. and some of the people who ask parenting questions on here obviously aren't qualified to raise chickens, let alone children. parenting IS hard and long work, and some people's inability to handle it brings about negative reactions from some other people. weakness brings out cruelty for many people. it's human nature to be repulsed by weakness--it ensures the survival of the species. ugly, maybe, but true. anyway, when one asks questions on a public forum, one should expect a modicum of rudeness, as some members of society are just plain rude people.
2007-08-18 08:55:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because it seems people on here are judgemental by nature, like all the questions posted about Maddie and her parents, I think it is disgusting how people are so judgemental, I have made loads of mistakes as a parent and I know will do in the future.
2007-08-18 08:51:38 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly B 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Some people just think they know better than everyone else and some people just get off being nasty for no good reason at all. They probably have pretty empty lives, so i would pity them if anything they probably didn't even have kids to be of any help anyway.
2007-08-18 08:47:17 · answer #7 · answered by nik_name 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes. I understand. I have 5 kids. 19yrs ---2 yrs. People are cruel for two reasons. One, because they are insecure (in this case about their own parenting skills) or two, they have a personality disorder. Those who are insecure are only trying to feel better about themselves, you can ignore them (or if you desire, try to boost their self esteem). Those that have a personality disorder just enjoy being evil, you can do your best to avoid them. I find this works in all aspects of life.
2007-08-18 08:50:14 · answer #8 · answered by Dr 8'lls 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i entered the ladies profile and emailed her direct - i know how she felt and wanted her to know that SOME people realised that to say what she did she must have been at the end of her tether and she wasnt a bad mum - just a struggling one. And we've all been there and coped in different ways.
2007-08-18 10:34:07 · answer #9 · answered by Femme 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
some people just don't care what they say cause they don't no the person who is asking the question.
am a parent of two and its nice that some people can give you good advie when its not the t**ts who are on here.
2007-08-18 08:50:37 · answer #10 · answered by sugar 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋