ok - I have been dating this guy for a month. And we recently had sex.... I was disappointed with his penis size. I didnt feel anything. I know that you can try different positions... but that didnt seem to work either... I am not sure if I should start dating other people or keep seeing him. My last bf had a big one... so this is very different. Everything is else is going pretty good. So I am not sure. I dont want to hurt him. I asked me if it was his penis... and i did say no. I know that if he knows what he is doing that it shouldnt matter - I have read the other answers.. lol. I still feel torn. Mayeb I should date other people at least. And contiune to see him. He is already saying we should be married in a year and it hasnt been that ong. I know that works for some people too... but it all seems so fast. He is a great guy and is so thoughtful.
2007-08-18 00:23:11 · 26 answers · asked by jennifererin630 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like this guy really likes you & sees dating as THE road to marriage.
If you don't feel the same, you should really tell him.
I don't think you want the same things out of the relationship, so move on.
2007-08-18 00:28:11 · answer #1 · answered by BlahHa 1 · 5⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-22 01:38:54 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him. Tell him it is too quick to be saying marriage when you have only dated a month. That alone would scare me away from someone.
To me, when you date someone, you should wait on the physical relationship until at least 6 months. Otherwise you will have other emotions that get in the way of really knowing that person. It sounds like it has already got your boyfriend. It is too late for you and this relationship.
My advice is to stop having the physical relationship and get to know him through other ways. After all you have only known him one month.
I would not date other people and date him too. You have already gone past the just friends with him and that would hurt him and it is not fair to him. It would also mix your emotions up and make you confused.
If you are always going to worry about the size of his manhood, then you probably shouldn't be with him. You can discuss with him that you really didn't feel anything and you could try other things. Being honest is the best thing, you just don't have to be mean or disrespectful about how you say it.
You can say what you like and how you want or need to be pleased.
I still say wait on physical relationships until you get to know someone. Be honest with him. It would hurt more if you let him think you will be married or that you will continue a physical relationship when you don't really want to. Be friends first on your next relationship, if you have another. If you want to date other people, tell him. Don't do it behind his back.
Best wishes to you.
2007-08-18 00:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
breaking up or dating others while having him for a bf are both unacceptable if you are actually in a relationship. And the size of the guy's penis isn't reason to abandon him or seek sex on the side with a bigger one either.
The proper thing to do is explain he is not satisfying you as fully as you like. You need not say he is small, merely that he isn't hitting the spot quite right. So, explore yrouself to find where his penis needs to contact then as long as his penis is long enough to reach, work together to get the desired results. You might be surprised how much pleasure a small penis in the right place can provide.
2007-08-19 04:30:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I know you probably feel really guilty and shallow for even considering leaving a good guy because of such a small matter (no pun intended). But I think your satisfaction is really important here. Obviously, sex isn't everything. But sex is important and I think it isn't selfish of you to want to feel satisfied. Can you imagine spending the rest of your life with a penis you can't even feel?! Do you really think you should suffer a lifetime of unsatisfying sex because he is "thoughtful"? Honestly, as terrible as it is, I don't think you should stay with someone that doesn't satisfy you. You owe it to yourself and to him. I'm sure he doesn't want to be with someone he can't satisfy either. I know this is tough. But this is one of those situations where it's okay to be selfish because in order to make someone else happy, you need to make yourself happy first. Good luck! Just know there are other great and thoughtfull guys out there that can satisfy you.. and it's ok to want that.
PS: try not to let some of these other comments get to you. I don't think it is fair to be called a b-*-t-c-h or stupid because god forbid you actually want to enjoy sex with your partner. I'm wondering if some of these guys that are so offended you bring this up are not as well endowed as they themselves would like. Or perhaps some of these ladies don't know what it is like to have sex with a spaghetti noodle. "Would you rather date a jerk with a big penis?" What kind of question is that?! Do we now live in the world where having a big penis means you're a jerk? I think we all know that you can find someone who is great and can satisfy and it does NOT make you a bad person for wanting that. Don't let others make you feel bad. Seriously!
2007-08-18 00:31:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I have no idea. I donot know how it matters. So far never had sex. Big means how big and small ? I was thinking all boys have same like all kids have same size. Is he a short height? Big means long or thick? I am getting scared and going crazy? I am friend of a very fat boy and is asking for a date. He is cute and loves me a lot. I am reading all the answers to know yours and my problem now.
2007-08-18 00:45:42 · answer #6 · answered by Md. R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow you would dump a really nice/good guy because of a little penis? That would make you so very STUPID.
Would you rather date an asshole guy with a big penis or what?
Sounds like you care WAY too much about it. There is always stuff to make sex better with your partner. And if you try...you would find it instead of giving up so fast! This guy seems to really be into you...so dont be a ho and cheat on him....try it...if it doesnt work out....than be straight up with him.
2007-08-18 00:34:00 · answer #7 · answered by Miss_Krysten 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Are you sure he actually had it inside?
If you really like the guy, stay with him. Most guys are horrible at sex, so even if they are well equipped, they usually don't know how to use it. You could run that risk leaving this guy in your pursuit for a bigger sized member.
Does he pleasure you? That is all that it comes down to. If you like him a lot and he doesn't, you can pleasure yourself better than most guys can anyway. If you do like him and he does pleasure you, don't worry about the size. If you don't like him, leave him. There is an old cliche saying that it's not the size but how they use it. Go by that. Good luck!
2007-08-18 00:36:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
never settle for something that isn't making you happy
If your not happy with the size of his penis why stay around
if your already seeing problems.. not healthy... plus its only been a month... end it slowly and move on... don't pretend that your happy with his small package.... nothing good will come out of it in the long run... you'll never be satisfied and you can still salvage some sort of friendship with him and you can still have the best of him without having to put up with his worst.... get out while your ahead!
2007-08-18 00:31:25 · answer #9 · answered by Saffie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to ask how much size matters to you. Personally, I don't get that much out of intercourse, it's other things that matter, I can't even come from it, I need other stimulation. Guys can't help what they are born with just like girls can't help the size of their breasts or their body shape. You have to weigh what penis size means to you. If you are not happy with him in that area, then let it go.
2007-08-18 00:33:25 · answer #10 · answered by Kate J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How small is it..? Is he circumcised..?Ok, ok, i shouldn't be asking anymore..haha..
Well, i understand your side of the story..that size does matter..haha
Anyway, you could always try to be at the top.
Does that work?
Maybe both of youcan do foreplay or petting
before engaging intercourse..
You could get him to masturbate you or use his tongue..
Always be open about how to satisfy each other on bed
if you want to stay long in the relationship..
2007-08-18 00:30:53 · answer #11 · answered by rinoao 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋