How do you break up with a guy?

Question

What do I say?

Answer 1

tell him "i want to break up with you"

Answer 2

I would recommend that you first look for a place where you can deliver the news without feeling threatened. Some people pick public places (a restaurant, park, cafe, etc) so the person receiving the news doesn't create any dramatic scene. Don't deliver the news during at a family gathering.

This is what I would say: John, I am sorry to say but after a lot of consideration I think that this isn't working. I have learned to care for you, but realize this isn't enough. I am not happy because of reasons A (B & C). Everytime we have attempted to solve this (these) problem(s) we've been unsuccessful, and so I have come to the conclusion that may be this isn't the right time for us to pursue this relationship. We are not ready. I know I'm not. I am sorry, and believe me this is very hard for me to do because you are an exceptional person I care for. Good bye.

Some people don't give reasons when they break up, however, I like to because otherwise you don't give closure to the other person.

If he says that he promise he will change, I would remind him of past failed attempts. If he keeps insisting, say "hey, I know this isn't easy, but I have already made my decision."

No matter how you do it, this is hard to do.

Good luck.

Answer 3

DON'T be obnoxious or rude. Other people will find out and no one wants to date a person like that. Just be honest, but tasteful. Try and think of a way that would make it easier if you were being broken up with. Just be mature and realize that breaking up is all a part of dating and not everyone is going to be the right person. Don't do it online, don't do it through texts, don't do it on the phone. Do it in person, and somewhere where neither of you are trapped (a car, a movie theater, during dinner etc.) I don't know how old you are, but I'm assuming you are young if you have never broken up with someone. If you are school aged, try to do it at the beginning of the day. He'll have the rest of the day to think about it, calm down, talk it over with friends etc. If you aren't school aged then just be an adult, ask to meet up somewhere (a coffee shop, a park etc.) and tell him the truth. ie: "I wanted to meet up because I wanted to talk to you. I've been doing some thinking lately and I think I'd like to be single for a little while. I've enjoyed spending time with you and getting to know you but right now I'd like to focus on myself. I think you're a great guy and I'd like to keep in touch, because maybe we'd be better off as friends."

Hear him out, and if he's completely irrational then good riddance. If he's an adult about it too then I'm sure he'll understand. Remember: Just be honest. If you're interested in someone else, say you'd like to see other people. Don't say there's someone else because this implies you've cheated and that's never a good foot be on.

If you do it at a coffee shop, just do it over a cup of coffee, nothing too long. And be respectable and pick up the tab!

Answer 4

"I know this may be a bit hard on you, but I don't think we should be together", because then it doesn't hurt him THAT bad. If you just say these hurtful words, "I want to break up", then he'll just obsess about it, and probably will start taking pills to handle the pain. So, tell him nicely. Hope this helps.

Answer 5

tell him u want lots and lots of babies, that should scare him off and not be so hurt about this once u tell him u wanna break up. i've done that once and its worked, he did me a favour! lol, but thats up to u anyway xx

Answer 6

tell him straight what you feel..what you wanna tell him..why it isn't working out..its better to be honest and straight to the point rather going around in circles..don't be afraid hurting his feeling..you can't help it..no matter what you do..breaking up is really sad..well good luck..

Answer 7

Drop him a mail. Tell him your reason.
Tell him what you want from him to make it work.
And if nothing could make it work. Tell him not to try convince you in any way as you alreasy made up your mind firmly.

Answer 8

Just get him alone and say I think we need to see other people.
Or you can just come out and say it " it is over"

Answer 9

hey just se the excuse - im not ready to be in a relationship now. i've got so many personal things i need to deal with - and i dont want to hurt you - i want to - and hope to stay friends...
:P

Answer 10

tell him "u r 2 immature 4 me" or "i dont wanna be attached!"

*to the firs answerer, you might not think this question is serious because u answer stupidly! common sense? somtimes it is hard 2 use common sense in hurting!