he is my first real bf. we are both in our 20's - is it ok to let him dance w/ other girls at the clubs? or not really....(if u been to clubs in NYC or another big city then u know how some of those girls look (hot) and dance (hot, dirty)....what is your opinions on this? as a gf - should i be laying down 'ground rules' or is that not right - i dunno what is right to do or wrong....
2007-08-17 22:08:18 · 14 answers · asked by camillabutterfly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
** we haven't been to the club together yet - tonite will be our first trip.
2007-08-17 22:39:24 · update #1
Here's my perspective as a guy:
One thing I try not to do is go to a club with my girlfriend cause she gets all jealous and flustered when I start dancing with other girls.
From my point of view I'm not cheating on her, I'm not kissing this other girl, and it's not like we're both naked while we're dancing. Dancing in clubs is just a release, and it's nice to know that other girls still dig me - even if they are a little drunk. It's a bit like flirting except instead of smiles and laughs it's dry humping to music.
My girlfriend has mentioned it, it made me love her more for it because it made me feel secure, and I told her that. If she tried to lay "ground rules", I would most likely have seen the light at the end of what turned out to be a dark tunnel. I say let him be, as long as he isn't picking the girls up there isn't anything wrong with it.
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2007-08-17 22:29:00 · answer #1 · answered by Hermes711 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let me get this straight--He rings you up, asks you out, you get all dolled up, go out dancing, you two do a few moves on the floor and then he asks if its OK to strut his stuff with a hot little fox and leave you cooling your heels at the table 'til he gets back. Sweetie, I am sure there is some sweet something that respects you a whole lot more out there just looking for you than this loser. & the only way this sweet something is going to find you is if you are free of this jerk! So if your BF even suggests that he may dance with someone other than you when you 2 are out tell him thanks for letting you know and hope he enjoys the rest of his life w/o you.
2007-08-17 22:21:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think not, there is nothing wrong with dancing with other people you just cant help it sometimes when these trollops weave their way in but touching other women or kissing is a definate no no.
Women like these are sad people who want to be the centre of everyone's attention and they dont seem to care who's toes the stand on in the prosess.
Give him the ultimatum he either is with you or he isnt and its a simple as that, if he enjoy's himself with people like this then you are with the wrong person.
2007-08-17 22:21:27 · answer #3 · answered by Tina-Louise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you get to dance with other guys? ;-D
If it makes you uncomfortable, just talk to him about it. He's probably just trying to enjoy the club the experience...but I agree many women in clubs (not only in NYC) are just nasty! If he's a nice guy and he likes you, he should respect your wishes and dance only with you.
2007-08-17 22:15:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you guys going to a club together if he is not going to be dancing with you the whole night? depends on how serious you guys are. I'm a guy and i think its a disrespect to my girl if i dance with other girls.
2007-08-17 22:20:57 · answer #5 · answered by JK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't feel comfortable with my man dancing with another woman. What did I go for?? To sit and watch another woman grind on my man?? No way. He either went with me and dances with me, or he can take me home and go back to the hoes. :-)
2007-08-17 22:12:55 · answer #6 · answered by kimmy2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Club dancing, hell no haha it's basically dryhumping. Real dancing with other people isn't bad though.
2007-08-17 22:12:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm im a guy and even i think its wrong u let ur bf dance with other chicks
2007-08-17 22:12:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it makes you uncomfortable then I would say to tell him...dont demand he stop just tell him and see how he reacts, if he says it's tough then he is not very sensitive....I wouldnt be happy if my man did this...especially not with touching invloved.
2007-08-17 22:12:51 · answer #9 · answered by Daisyhill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like this, tell him. I would hope he would respect you enough on this minor issue to say you are right.
2007-08-17 22:12:28 · answer #10 · answered by Zombie Birdhouse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋